Is narcissistic abuse REAL?
Tired of being told narcissism is just a buzzword or a passing trend? This video exposes the real harm of dismissing narcissistic abuse—and why calling it a “fad” only silences survivors, invalidates their pain, and keeps toxic relationship dynamics hidden in plain sight.
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Thank you Dr Ramani for all that you do ❤
If narcissistic abuse wasn’t real then I wouldn’t be talking about what I’ve been through my whole life.
Truth😢
I wouldn’t be educating myself on NARCISSISTIC ABUSE to figure out what the hell happened to me !
Thank you for having our backs ❤
One of the toughest things I had to deal with were the constant dismissive remarks from people whenever I talked about narcissistic abuse. Some would even tell me that there’s no such thing as a narcissist and that it was all my fault and that maybe it was because of me those people acted like that. Scary part was I actually started to believe them. I tried harder and harder hoping they would change, but they never did. Slowly I starting losing parts of myself. I’m learning to stop blaming myself and to stop trying to fix anyone who never wanted to understand me. I just quietly walk away now to focus on my healing, even if no one sees it.
NARC #101: NARCS think Everybody thinks like they do. Victimhood and Smartest In The Room, (at the same time insanity) Survivors understand This Crap!
Like arguing with a fencepost. Whooz the dummy?
(“I’d rather eat a bullet,…..Dear”)
I’m on the same journey. You are not alone ❤
Since forever I wondered what in the world was wrong with my ex that he he never wanted to change his ways. Instead he lost a family that wanted to love him and be loved back. Over 18 years after the divorce I finally found what the problem was. No turning back and thinking that narcissism is just a fab. It is more than REAL and here to stay.
I completely agree with everything said in this video! 🙌 Not acknowledging narcissistic abuse is actually very ignorant.
After years of being gaslit, we will NOT accept it any longer. Thank you for holding the truth of how this actually affects people.
Society is waking up to being accountable for the enabling the abuse and of course it’s going to want to oppress anyone speaking up. I’m grateful we aren’t giving up healing ourselves from those who wish to harm us.
Did you know a child molester is a narcissist but not all narcissist are child molesters. We are busting our societies wide open and they don’t like that exposure! I mean they REALLY Don’t Like IT! 🤡
Maybe talking about it is “trend” but the abuse itself is real. Those of us who have been in these relationships for decades know, we just haven’t always had a name for it. That doesn’t mean it wasn’t happening. I have only learned in the past 3-4 years what it was and that’s because it’s being talked about now, thanks to people like Dr. Ramani! I am still learning. The more I learn, the sadder it makes to think about how long I have suffered through this. I’m glad it has a name.
After watching more of this, it reminded me of my own mother telling me basically that I wasn’t good enough for my spouse, saying if I wanted to keep him home (he was never home when the kids were young), that *I* needed to give him a reason to want to be there, that *I* should not expect him to change just because we had kids now, and that *I* should tell him “thank you” more often, etc. That was a huge blow to me. I knew it was all BS but it hurt that my own parent was blaming me for what was happening.
@GinaTBPL wow, that’s awful. Sounds like a high demand religion tactic. Somehow it’s always the victim’s fault. Even still in court for the most egregious crimes, the victim continues to be re-victimized. So sorry.
Exactly! Same for me too!!
Me too!
I’ve spent 47 years in abuse. No one…not a counselor or pastor told me it was ok to leave. They shamed me…..over and over. I’m almost 67 and I’m finally healing!
Hi Judy Jelly,
I’m 67 also. 43 years for me.
Still married but thankfully living with my very kind son.
My children are loving and
Supportive. I’m grateful. Needless to say, I can imagine your story.
The Curse is finally gone!
🎚Praise Jesus 🕊
Dear Judy,
you have such an immense amount of kindness, hope, creativity. Let’s s not look at the number of years. Let us look at the wonder of our loving hearts.❤.😊
Good for you, stay strong and enjoy life.
So there is hope .. thankyou
That’s insanity!! This person is unsafe to try to climb into anyone’s head and attempt to help. Thank you for speaking up because that is a dangerous unhealthy person leading other sheep to the cliff and then giving a push.
It’s one of the worst things that can happen to someone.
Yes ! My daughter my granddaughter and my niece are all on anxiety medication .. narcissistic abuse the gift that keeps on giving 😢
As soon as you find your voice and stand up rather than shrink, you are discarded. You stop obeying the commands, demands, and shaming. They take everything!!!
I grew up in severe narcissistic abuse — everything in my life was controlled, even my clothes. Hearing someone say narcissism is “justified” was infuriating. Before finding your channel, I didn’t even know that what I went through had a name. here are so many of us survivors out here, and I would’ve lost it too if I were in that room. Sometimes, we just need the chance to speak up — even if it won’t change anything.
Thank you Dr. Ramani for SEEING us, for giving us a sense that someone out there understands. You are doing great, meaningful work. I’m grateful.
62 years old. I went to therapy for years in my 20’s which definitely helped.
But, there was a missing piece – narcissistic behavior was that piece.
Thank you for all you do, Dr. Ramani.
I f**king wish too, my life would have been a whole lot different and my mental health a whole lot better. Focusing on truths, boundaries, self care, safe supports, my life and my blessings. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤
Thank you for being your badass self and speaking up against that. A fad?! Unreal. That’s terrifying that they are someone who people listen to. I can’t wait to go back to school and fight right alongside you. Keep up the good fight you wonderful soul!
Every time Dr R drops an f bomb a narc abuse survivor gets their wings 😅🙏🏾
Dear Doctor Ramani,
I’ve been 19 years married to a narcissist, I have tried a couples therapie and I was gaslighted and dismissed, I went through 3 law courts to protect my children from abuse and I was abused and then I woke up totally. The system doesn’t want us to admit the abuse, otherwise we will see to clear how the system works.
But fortunately I have found you and your videos and this helped me to get up, to wake up and to stand for myself and my children! And now I keep learning and I’m able to help the others.
Thank you very much for everything you do for us! 🙏🏻❤️
This abuse is unlike any other I’ve endured.