Let’s play narcissism bingo!
For those of you who are looking forward to the holidays, I hope you have an absolutely wonderful time. But for a lot of folks who have a narcissist in their life, this is a messy time of year. I'm hoping this gives you a little bit of a road map on how you might be able to navigate the holiday season.
From my side, I'm absolutely grateful to get to do what I do and help people along in this process of healing.I know every day, all of you are grappling with tough decisions, but you're handling it with grace. You're asking yourself the difficult questions and my holiday hope is that you find some relief.
Thank you for all the work you do. Much love to you all. For more on this topic, join us on The Dr. Ramani Network.
OK, got my bingo card and dabber ready
Thank you for all that you do Dr Ramani!
Happy Thanksgiving!
It’s going to be a nightmare. Nothing like a holiday for all the freaks come out. It never fails.
Hi Dr Ramani , may Lord bless you with health , wisdom and knowledge, you look beautiful 🙏
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I just want to remind you that you have every right to stay away. Your feelings matter.
You are so loved and admired, Dr Ramani. Thanks.
I’m really not sure if I would have made it without her. ❤
@@toni-leeblair5869 same
The most helpful thing is having a witness with you. Bring a friend if you don’t have a partner who is on your side. Someone witnessing all the weirdness gives you the validation you’ve always needed.
They tend to be on their best behavior if an outsider is around.
@@ceilconstante640 Sometimes, but not always.
I’m grateful for Dr. Ramani and my found tribe of people here. who are doing their best Holidays are empty but they’re a lot safer.
Yes! I know the feeling well, and safer is good, indeed 🧘♀️
Now I can spend holidays without having weird immunological illnesses, and I can finish my dinner without my stomach shutting off. And my back doesn’t hurt from the stiffness from holding my composure.
Having said that, after 7 years of going no contact with my family, I saw them again at a funeral back in July. We are spending Christmas together this year 👀
In Ramani’s teachings I trust 🙌🏻🍀
The problem is that family members are often people you would normally have nothing to do with if they weren’t relatives. You are forced to be with people you have very little in common with – and if they are toxic and/or dysfunctional – people you want nothing to do with. I would never be friends with people like this but somehow I am supposed to embrace their toxic presence that infects my life like a virus.
Your 1st sentence ! I’ve been saying to friends that my brothers are toxic and that if it wasn’t the fact we were related our paths would never cross.
So true.
Even when I was in my teens, when my Mom described how she was in her teens, it dawned on me- she was just like the girls at school who bullied me lol
Magnificent gratitude beautiful SOUL, Dr. RAMANI saved my life ❤ tomorrow will B my 43 years married, but April 20 he kicked me out after crashing our car and lying about it….He always complained about everything, I’m happy 2 not hear his bitching this year 🎉❤🎉It will B very PEACEFUL ❤❤❤
Way to go you also encourage me too !
The holiday season is the high season for psychologists/counselors because so many clients are super stressed out from family dysfunctional dynamics. I’ll never forget the first time I learned that. It made so much sense.
I haven’t spent the holidays with my narc family in about 15 years. What a relief. But it’s hard seeing other people who have supportive family systems; I feel embarrassed and less-than about something that isn’t even my fault.
I know how you feel on that last part. I feel free personally on holidays but then when other ppl ask me what I’m doing and I don’t know what to even say. How would they understand I’m going to enjoy the day being free and productive without being forced into telling them all about my personal life & childhood lol. I think I keep too much to myself regardless- gotta try to be more vulnerable and stop caring what others think. If they judge me for being Nc with my parents, they’re idiots and I don’t want them in my life anyway! lol it would certainly make life easier to give everyone the chance to show you who they are as soooon as humanly possible
@@The_Scales_of_Justice People who have loving families just don’t get what it’s like for those of us who, through no fault of our own, never had that!
@@The_Scales_of_Justice Yes, I don’t like it when people ask me what I’m doing for ____(pick a holiday)___, or weeks after the day, what did you do for ____(holiday)____? I have a neighbor I get along with, but she is really big into asking about this long before and long after a major holiday, so I find myself deliberately avoiding her Nov/Dec/Jan.
Happy Thanksgiving to you! I hope you’re enjoying your free day today 🦃🍁
No contact is ok. Even during big holidays. Do what is best for you. Don’t let the codependence take over. Unless you need to. You know best after all.
*No CONTACT. Out of the country. Celebrating with other Americans in France.* ❤❤
I always hated family holidays. So happy now that I’m in charge of my life.
I’ve been living in my car since June. No A/C or heat but no one is screaming or yelling at me!! Who’s the scapegoat now? Thankful for the peace!
Nice new setup. Can’t wait to play Narc Bingo! Not actually…but I am thankful for you all year ’round, Dr. Ramani. Peace to you.
7 months post separation
1st holiday alone. 🙏🏽
Happy Thanksgiving to US all.
Thank you so much! You’ve changed my life for the better❤❤❤
I went no contact with my family post grad school. Much much happier. Gonna make myself gumbo and potato salad and reflect on the year. Good luck out there if you gotta return “home”!
Narcissists are horrifying in practice, especially when children are in involved. It’s the only criminal behavior that hasn’t been put on the books.