Narcissistic abuse vs. emotional abuse

Narcissistic abuse is often dismissed as “just emotional abuse,” but the lived experience can feel uniquely destabilizing and isolating in ways other unhealthy dynamics don’t. This video explores what makes narcissistic emotional abuse different—especially the behind-closed-doors contrast and the way blame gets reversed onto you. If you’ve ever felt like no one would believe you because the person seems charming to everyone else, this will help you understand why that confusion is part of the pattern.

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  • @pengguoyu4614 says:

    Love bombing is a narcissists strategic way of winning over love and affection

  • @pengguoyu4614 says:

    A narcissist apology is there self eulogy

  • @pengguoyu4614 says:

    Living in a narcissist la world is like being shipped to another planet

  • @AfterTheAbuseRecovery says:

    Your information truly helped me getting out of my toxic marriage

  • @Love-l1s6j says:

    This year will make 8 years since I walked out of the circus and went NO CONTACT!!! I’M GRATEFUL that I did the work in my HEALING! I have gained the KNOWLEDGE And WISDOM NEEDED to NEVER GO DOWN that RABBIT HOLE AGAIN!! Happy 2026 Everyone ❤ great video

  • @NarcSurvivor says:

    Narcissistic abuse involves specific traits such as self absorption, lack of empathy, exploitation, and grandiosity. It is far more than just emotional abuse. You don’t just feel hurt or dismissed. It erodes your sense of identity. You start feeling like you’re losing your mind.

    • @Qwertyjerks says:

      is there something mentally impaired in Dr. Ramani? Has Doctor Ramani ever shared a possible diagnosis she suffers the symptoms of in addition to the symptoms she already is very aware she takes full advantage of – avoidance behaviors.
      Ramani is sending people to give the impression that if a female such as her mother or a similar type, does not voice themselves, and remains silent, that somehow help would literally just arrive, when both Oprah, Mel Robbins, and beyond, claim that nobody is coming to save you.

    • @bluebottle548 says:

      Well cant agree more….

      Was in with Malignant Narcissist with BPD…..

      Got brutally Abandoned….
      But SAVED from all Toxicity finally😊😊😊

    • @gee_emm says:

      Vulnerable/covert narcs are not grandiose. Which is exactly how they go unnoticed for so long.

  • @SolaceInNostalgia says:

    Scariest thing about narcissistic abuse is that you don’t even realize that you’re being abused.

    • @marysisak2359 says:

      I remember a counselor saying to me “How can you talk about such horrible things without showing emotion?” I don’t think I responded but I thought to myself if I start crying I won’t stop. It was all normal behavior to me.

    • @RoMed1167 says:

      Yes, because you’re spending so much time explaining why they get to behave their way to… children, employers, friends, etc.

      You get caught up in their “reality” that the kids aren’t behaving, their employer is unfair, their friends don’t care… their victimhood.

      Eventually I became the filter, the explainer, the buffer, so they felt validated that the world was out to get them.

      How do I quit blaming myself?

  • @vadime333 says:

    It’s honestly embarrassing how excited I used to get over the tiniest crumbs of affection. One mildly nice text from him could fix my whole mood, even though he’d spent the entire week treating me like a background character in his life. I would reread his messages over and over, searching for meaning that simply wasn’t there. I hate admitting how delusional I was. Then The Obedient Boy Protocol by Lora Calden landed in my hands, and reading it felt less like “self-help” and more like downloading forbidden knowledge. The methods are dark, calculated, almost surgical in how they flip the dynamic. I stopped explaining myself. I stopped being predictable. I stopped acting grateful for the bare minimum. And the moment I changed my approach, he changed his behavior. The guy who used to take hours to answer suddenly freaked out if I didn’t respond within minutes. This book doesn’t teach love…it teaches leverage.

  • @pengguoyu4614 says:

    Emotional abuse and sometimes narcissistic abuse is often invisible to others to see or feel unlike physical or verbal abuse

  • @Mirabai13 says:

    Thank you for this clarity. I’ve come to see the difference as one of intent: Emotional abuse is often a maladaptive survival strategy—a desperate, clumsy attempt to manage internal chaos. Narcissistic abuse, however, feels like active colonization. The goal is to hollow out the victim and occupy their reality. The non-narcissist wants to be heard; the narcissist wants to own you.

  • @richardleedrums says:

    WOW. 9:38 is the key: do they do it to anyone besides you? They don’t. And if you share even the slightest emotion, other people will think YOU are the crazy person. What manipulative creeps these abusers are.

    • @sallyjaynes2433 says:

      Especially ‘covertism’ ….. seems the worst effects on ’empaths’ (trying to twist general discussions around to the ‘mood of the day for that person’). ☮️✌️

  • @mamatay7 says:

    “Their misery has drowned out their empathy” 🙌

  • @gracewarrior8 says:

    It’s the darvo that makes it different, both in the home when no one is looking and institutionally in the court.

  • @sparkygump says:

    “Negging” is just another devaluing tactic to make you feel bad about yourself so they can control you.

  • @gracewarrior8 says:

    And your book is so aptly named. The most important aspect of healing for victims of this type of abuse is to know it’s not them and it’s not their fault..

  • @jquinn984 says:

    Narcissism + Bipolar + Alzheimer’s = Living Hell for family caregivers

  • @zmesopotamia6792 says:

    Narcissistic abuse is the most invisible abuse as narcissistic people males or females tend to present very well and have two sides when they deal with people and in most cases they save you their worst side whether you are their wife, husband, child, and so on….

  • @catfish1190 says:

    It’s called Coercive Control – wherever its coming from.

  • @patrickbinford590 says:

    Trauma embedded within one can feel GALACTIC in size.

  • @MetalsUnlimited says:

    I’m retired at 37, went from Grass to Grace. This video here reminds me of my transformation from a nobody to good home, honest wife and 35k biweekly a good daughter full of love

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