Narcissistic Sexting RED FLAGS!
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November 1-3, 2024
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I went through this for more years than I care to admit. Everything you just said described these years that I went through with the narcissist. Every day I woke up, wondering who I had to be better than today to get his attention. I wish I would’ve kicked him out sooner.
Same. 12 years and 3 kids (of my own), for me. But finally free.
I’m glad to see the word “sooner,” implying that you finally did. I’m hope now you know a healthy relationship isn’t a competition. That’s not what it’s supposed to be. Not at all.
@@ENTREPRE-MOMMY Awesome victory. We deserve better than betrayal all the time – all the way.
Genesis
42 When Jacob learned that there was grain in Egypt,+ he said to his sons: “Why do you just keep looking at one another?” 2
I agree with this 1billion percent… thank you for acknowledging us who have been, still are betrayed …
I hear you 👍🏼🙏🏼❤️
Genesis
44 Later he commanded the man who was over his house: “Fill the bags of the men with as much food as they can carry, and place the money of each one in the mouth of his bag.+ 2
You are an invaluable source of insight, truth and healing. “how would you feel..,.” Is the question that no narcissist can answer because of their low empathy and insight, which also means they really can’t offer a meaningful apology.
Oh I can answer that question. Whenever I present my narc with the “how would you feel?” Question….her response is “I don’t care, I’m not you so I’m not insecure”
The list of games and gaslighting of narcissists is infinite. They always wins, if someone doesn’t want problem with those people, better not to even know them. When I discovered boundaries is the best stuff I practiced in my life. Thanks for sharing 🙏 peace and blessings to everyone
“they always win” so true!!! Before I knew anything about narcissism, I tried playing along for a while but he was on a whole nother level. There was no way I could match his manipulation. His goal wasn’t just to win but to deliver a humiliating defeat.
Narcissists make the beautiful things in life that most people live for, like LOVE and SEX, feel MEANINGLESS and GROSS!
Genesis
43 Now the famine was severe in the land.+ 2
Narcissist do NOT make love; it is ALWAYS just SEX!
Every Narky is bad at sex. They can pull it off the first few times…but after that, they can’t get off unless it’s coercive, deceptive, cheating, or hurtful.
@@lindac6919 How flaws can one have ?Genesis
9 God went on to bless Noah and his sons and to say to them: “Be fruitful and become many and fill the earth.+ 2
They always do this. Once you fall in love with them they next an escape. That comes from secretly texting others…and when they give YOU the silent treatment, they’re texting someone else without a care. They aren’t capable of monogamy.
I’m glad to be done with relationships (overnight or otherwise.) I got SO sick of this and FROM this! Especially on social media!
Narcissists have no problem cheating on you, they see nothing wrong with it. But if it happens to them, the big vein in their head would POP! Talk about double standards. Just like everything else in their life, it’s ok for them but not you.
Narcissists: “We were just spooning, I swear. It’s not like we were forking”.
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“The scorpion is always going to sting. You CANNOT make them a pet!” Such an amazing quote!
You can, just expect them to sting 😅
Yeah so many narcissistic people have sex addictions but they never deal with the root of their addiction and they traumatize so many people on account of it x
OMG! 100% my ex-husband! “I don’t know why I did it. I guess it was just for fun, it was just a game, those women wouldn’t leave me alone. I only wrote to them what they wanted to hear. You wanna throw 10 years of marriage away? There are men who do much worse”! Well he had thrown our marriage in the toilet, I only flushed.
“I only flushed.” Keeping it real!
@@RockingArt “You want to throw 10 years of marriage away?” Like you did it! They shift the blame.
Mine says the same type of thing. I reminded him that although I left physically, he left in every other possible way long before I did. As if it isn’t devastating enough, they try to blame us.
@@Carol-mq6fe Yes, and he makes himself believe that I left for totally different reasons, because he is totally delusional and in denial about himself, and it is not only being a narcissist but several other mental disorders and addictive behavior. And he blames too much wine for literally everything, that “messed him up”! So, he actually stopped drinking any alcohol before I left and now he thinks he is cured. When I confronted him with proof after I left, he said first “I never did that!, Then “I don’t remember” and finally “I was messed-up”! That’s it! And, of course, he is “sorry for everything”, but doesn’t say what exactly he is sorry for.
” I only flushed ” , beautifully said ! ❤️
I got sucked into this with a guy and have struggled with feeling so much shame. I don’t think he was in a relationship, but neither were we and I feel like he coerced me, manipulating me into engaging when I didn’t really want to. 😢 Working on forgiving myself and healing. Will never do that again. I kept better boundaries with the next inappropriate guy who came along thankfully. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤
A lot of people don’t understand what cheating is. I always say you have to get into a person’s head before you get in the bed. If your spouse or significant other is courting an inappropriate relationship with someone behind your back you’re being cheated on. The sex is the final act.
Amazingly said
I’m just so grateful the Narcissist wanted to tell me he was in LOVE with a younger woman and “SHE IS IN LOVE WITH ME” to try to hurt me. He had really admitted to an affair, so I felt able to divorce him immediately. After 15 years of his lying and sneaky behavior, his porn and fetish addictions, I got away. The betrayal trauma has been soul crushing.
3 years after divorce, it’s like a bad dream, and I’m feeling almost better. I realize I made the mistake in choosing this Narcissist.
This will NEVER happen to me again.
Thanks Dr. Ramini. I have watched you daily and read your books. 🎉❤🎉
Betrayal is betrayal and it wreaks havoc in your psyche as you have described. Hell is wrong with those broken people. It’s definitely not you, it’s them. Narcisists are insane individuals who are destroying other people and their lives.
That’s why I divorced mine. He was sex texting another woman and I caught him.
I wish I would’ve learned all this 15yrs ago. God bless you for doing this work
Comment like ‘if you think or say that’s what it is, then that’s it!’
Then I start blaming myself for overreacting 😢😢😢😢
Thank you Dr.Ramani, for explaining this sexting dynamic. When all the signs of betrayal are there and it may be utterly covert and denied, and maybe not even happening, it is still very therapeutic to hear this information. Betrayal is real, whether it is dangled as a gaslighting technique or if it is a behaviour grounded in reality. It is validating and rationalizing to hear it is not the partner’s fault, nor the partner’s unhealthy issue. This connection, grounded in reality, helps loosen the bonds of trauma, supports individuation and radical acceptance of the scorpion-like intention that has no bearing on the partner. Freedom and peace are found here. Thank you, once again, Dr.Ramani, for your generous public service. I deeply appreciate it.🙏❤️
There’s no two ways about it. That very first time they take another person’s number and lie about having it you never forget or get over. It haunts you when you’re still with a Narc. 🍒