Narcissists Always Use Parental Alienation
A narcissist will ALWAYS use parental alienation when divorcing. You can count on it.
If you're not familiar with this term, it is the tactic of turning the kids against the other parent. It's recognized as a form of child abuse. But that won't stop the narcissist. They have no empathy, so hurting the kids doesn't bother them one bit! They're willing to do ANYTHING that ultimately hurts you with no regard for collateral damage to the kids.
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As a father who is dealing with the same problem, it pains me to hear you focus on men here. I’ve seen some research that shows that men are just slightly more narcissistic than women. But at the end of the day comes down your personal experience. There’s no reason to only focus on male narcissist, which is what it sounds like you’re doing.
It’s a popular argument. Men are always the blame. We can’t complain when she’s emotionally unstable on a regular basis and lashes out.
Working in this field and actually seeing the impact that Parental Alienation has on a parent is heart breaking – it also pains me to see when people use their own experiences to “generalise” and single out one gender without real substance to support their claim, other than their “feelings” – it’s pathetic and a very cheap blow towards the targeted gender, but that is down to their own narrative, motives etc
That’s true mothers are awarded custody over fathers and the system is bias as well it’s hard to take primary custody from a mother they have to be really unfit in order to do so
Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.
Most men a narcissist
Yes it hurts so much that I am willing to just let my children go, to keep them from being put in the middle
So sorry that you are in this awful position. Be the safe place to land and eventually he will turn on them and come running back to you 🙂
@Jennifer A – yes, and it’s always a tug of war. I eventually had to let go in the tug of war, because it was getting to the point where my child was clearly in danger of snapping in two. : -(
Yes I am going through this but far more severe than the examples you gave. I’m sad because it’s not just a narcissist parent, but all his family as well. I’m the odd one out, and my own children reject me and blame me for everything, and they have become as hateful as the gang that took them from me.
I am so sorry you are suffering this way. It is awful. I hope that they grow to see the truth. Sending prayers.
Same…living it. Sorry for you
Same story here. Fourteen years now.
I’m so sorry I went through the same
Jennifer I’m going threw this now it’s horrific 😢
I have a hard time with being calm, he enrages me with his toxic behavior. I have to remain calm
Yes! It is hard! You can do it. Take a breath before reacting 🙂
My ex narc is the mother withholding kids from me the father.
I’m so sorry you are going through this.
Has it occurred to anyone else hear how absurd it is that Britney Spears father can keep a 40-year-old adult from driving a car yet we can’t get the courts to enforce our own custody orders over our own minor children??
So true!!!
Money
I see lots of comments from men here.
And here’s mine:
Any other men here with children with a narc wife?
Dealing with this now, on top of healing from the abuse the narc caused in front of my kids. Yet my oldest (she’s 7) all of a sudden every time she goes over there, she doesn’t want to come back, I call and call he answers and says she doesn’t want to talk and he hangs up and blocks me. I’m not gonna lie I’m still struggling with my anger. I can’t control it right now. I want to snap. I have proof of his abuse yet he paints me out to be this horrible mother all because I had past addictions but I went to rehab and still working on my healing. Now he’s playing this game with our kids. I feel defeated. All because he’s angry I don’t want to be with him anymore. I’ve always been a good mother, he keeps bringing up my past but I don’t exist there anymore. Have I made mistakes as a mother? Yes I have but I love my kids with my life. What do I do? I’m currently facing legal trouble lies from a report he and his mom wrote against me three years ago. So I can’t even go to the court system or even over there to demand my kids back!!
I’m so sorry. I hope your relationship with your daughter improves 🙂
Alienation is primarily against the fathers since the courts award majority custody to mother not to mention the system is bias you have to be really unfit as a mother to have custody taken away
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In my case that isnt true im a woman and he took everything
@@Smoothfreya it happens to women too just not as much as fathers
We have the same Malignant Narcissist…the same story…I literally flew out of my apartment while she was screaming for me…it was only as I carried her down the street back to our home that I realized I left the house without a shirt on…I quite literally went into such a mama bear mode that I had no idea I wasn’t fully dressed as I was running after the car… All I heard was her screaming for me….and I grew wings….I can only imagine my neighbor’s version of this story…
A bunch of alienators disliked this video! Thank you for sharing your experiences. I am going through this. My son’s other parent does this to my son, because my son asks me questions that he wouldn’t be asking if he wasn’t being told mean things. I told my son, that I loved him then, I love him now, and I always will. And I did NOT give him to them, as he was apparently told. Terrible. I don’t know what kind of a person would tell a child things like that! Someone with no compassion.
I’m a targeted parent and I’m seeking to further my education regarding Human Rights, Social Justice and Advocacy now since I haven’t seen my child in 5 years.
I created a channel on parental alienation, narcissism, domestic violence, divorce, mental health awareness, my own story and speaking on social and human rights topics.
I think it’s important that all of us that battle these issues RISE up and advocate for ourselves and help others.
I am living in hell. I did not realize how bad it can get. If you have any other links and useful information and you don’t mind sharing it with me I would appreciate it. Really people don’t believe something like that is happening or they don’t want to believe. I don’t even have a therapist.
Most alienation goes hand in hand with other abusive behaviors inflicted on the targeted parent throughout the marriage or relationship and is occurring long before the divorce, often is the cause of the divorce when the one abusedd says enough as they see their children being weaponized or caught in the mix, and the alienation excels as the alienator loses control and the kids or adult children are further weaponized by the abusive partner or spouse. We need to educate the courts that this is not just an after effect of the divorce but more often part of a power and control wheel of abuse on the non disordered parent. The push for 50 50 custody across the board is not the solution and horrificly inapproriate in many cases and only exaggerates the child being forced to be in a war zone perpetually.
very similar story we have not seen my husbands children ages 9 and 11 in 5 years as she took them and left state to live with a man she met online.
AGREED!!
In Louisiana Baton Rouge my formal supervisor Ray Lamonica LSU law professor and government officials are training the community and family members to be NARCISSSIST. My formal supervisor is a narcissist and he has given my husband who I have been with for almost three decades incentives to gas light me torture, community harass, organize stalk ,gang stalk me in and out of our home. My husband have gotten together with my neighbors and family members who are also receiving incentives from the government.
Show the contrast. You mean when trying to talk to a child who is completely manipulated and now believes all the lies his narc father makes up? Have you ever dealt with narc games where they try to win at any cost?
Praying for strength for everyone. Please god help these situations to work out well for all involved
I was not calm and rational….because he was subjecting us to all kinds of physical dangers, and I was weary, depressed….confused. I did not know anything about Narcissistic personality disorder. I even almost believed him at times….I lived in extreme fear and confusion.
I understand. That sounds just like me when I was where you are 🙁
We need to DO something about parental alienation! My ex was the same. The narcissists do the SAME things….
Every. Single.Time.
Yes I’m crying in my bed now
It’s pretty alarming, my ex-wife is such the narcissist, and the “professionals“ can’t see it. Either she is really good, they are really bad, I think both. this woman threw our foster son back into the system after eight months, only adopting the boys sister. That’s the main reason she is my ex. She alienated the poor boy from his sister and me, and now she is alienating our adoptive daughter from me. Guess what she does for a living…. she teaches special needs kids
So sorry. This is terrible.
They do this insidiously and it’s hard to prove!!! The experts miss these criminals all the time!!! They are con artist!!!!
I went from a narcissist father to a narcissist wife. I was. A stay at home father for 4 year’s. Once I went back to work she tried to murder me even involved my son and, mother. Trust me the majority of narcissists I know are women. Her mother, sister her. It’s horrible than she tires playing the victim. My wife did the same thing rushing out of the house but, she went as soon as I got in the shower. She went and, met some guy. I wonder if your husband wasn’t going to meet someone.
Parental alienation is real. The pain they cause is crushing