Narcissists and the Myth of Compromise
We’re taught that healthy relationships require compromise — that meeting in the middle is how love survives. But in a narcissistic relationship, compromise often becomes something very different. Instead of mutual give-and-take, you may find yourself silencing your needs, shrinking your expectations, and calling it “working things out.” Understanding how narcissists weaponize the idea of compromise can help you recognize when cooperation has quietly turned into self-abandonment.
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How do you heal post narc ? Once you’re out how do you repair the damage to your soul ?
Find a good and competent therapist to work with.
Narcissists love being in control
Their favorite color is always red.
Narcissists will never take accountability or accept responsibility
Doctor Ramani did another whole video on that, too
Narcissists always believe they are right
Yes, totally true.
Excellent distinction. And the point that self-abandonment is a “slow drip” is brilliant. It is. Eventually we crash, as a wake up to survival.
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There’s no setting boundaries with narcissists
Unfortunely-Thanks Dr. Ramani.
Narcissists always take criticism as humiliation
Yes. And questions are viewed as an attack.
And having a different opinion is viewed as criticism, humiliation and an attack.
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@ithinkthatomg wow yes. My wife was the same. Im thankfully out now. But i would share my feelings unrelated to her and she would take it personal. Like come on man this has nothing to do with you damn
Narcissists have no values no morals none never trust a narcissist
Prayers for the innocent victims of narcissistic abuse 💔😭
Narcissists are always smiling charming on camera cruel abusive and mean behind closed doors
Jerry Wise did a video on that that felt like it really hit that bullseye – I think it was called “How the Narcissistic Family Looks from the Outside”
Narcissists play the victim when they are in the wrong
Narcissists gaslight love bomb and guilt trip us to get what they want being strategic
Narcissists are careless when talking about other people
When narcissists date each other it relieves a lot of stress and anxiety for the rest of us
I can now see clearly that this is generational. I was the scapegoat in my generation, my aunt was the scapegoat in her generation and my nephew was the scapegoat in his generation. My aunt died a completely broken person. Even when she became the smallest she could possibly be, they still did not let up. At the time I was so confused, now I see it all so clearly.
Exactly. In the mind of a narcissist, they are doing you a favor when they do something for you, but you are obeying and fulfilling an obligation when you do something for them.
Yes and they will hold what they did for you as a resentment and keep score and revisit something you thought was an act of love months later only to flip it and say that was them “self abandoning.” Wtf?!
Narcs only hear “con-promise”. I’ll con my way outta this.
It’s their way or the highway or tormenting. It’s all about them every single day.
“Disconnection from the self…is the path to connection with the narcissist.” Damn. That’s facts right there. I’ve been watching your channel since the early days & you always have so many profound things to teach us. I appreciate you so much 💜
it takes 2 to tango – yes, but it only takes 1 to trip u the whole dance