Narcissists Hate When You Do This During Divorce

If you’re negotiating a divorce with a narcissist, you may feel like you’re losing your mind. Agreements change, goalposts move, and conversations turn into power struggles. This video explains why traditional negotiation fails with a narcissist—and what actually works instead.

In this video, I break down:
• Why narcissists don’t negotiate for resolution—but for control
• The biggest mistake people make when negotiating during divorce
• What “winning” really means when you’re dealing with a narcissist
• How becoming calm, boring, and strategic protects your leverage
• Why emotional emails and explanations weaken your position
• How to communicate in a way that builds credibility and holds up in court

I’m Victoria McCooey, a high-conflict divorce coach, divorce mediator, and creator of the Reclaim Your Power System. I work with women every day who are divorcing a narcissistic or toxic spouse—and learning how to protect themselves without losing who they are in the process.

If you’re currently negotiating with a narcissist, remember this:
You don’t win by explaining more.
You don’t win by being louder.
You don’t win by being right.
You win by being strategic, grounded, and emotionally unavailable to the chaos

If you’re ready for deeper support, my self-paced program First, Shift Your Mindset is now open. It’s designed to help you break free from the narcissist’s hold, rebuild clarity, and stay calm and confident through every phase of divorce.
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