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This is so on point, unfortunately.. I feel so stupid.
I understand totally.
Me, too 🙁 And I almost killed myself over what he did to me… The “most sensitive and charismatic poetic religious philosopher” type… He tricked me masterfully.
@ the devil… literally
Ohhh. This got me hard. One of the hardest things to untangle in therapy as I was so confused by the end of it! Word for word this. x
Always look at how someone treats others. If they praise you at the expense of someone else, there’s something wrong, especially if you are the only one they praise.
Absolutely 100 % agree with it, and this is what saved me from being more manipulated than I already was ! Being chosen by someone who despises others is a curse
My ex said the girl he met right before me was “Terrible
So true. I was sucked into a “you are the only person I told this (trauma) to” so I shared personal and very painful info. Trauma that I had not dealt with. Then I realized this type of scenario had occurred. All I wanted from this guy was some closure, now I realize why he kept me hanging on. Ultimately I realized that the only way I was going to get free was to deal with the original trauma which ultimately did free me from this guy’s hold over me. Finding Dr. R has turbo boosted my healing journey. Thank you so much for all you have done for us.
Rom com analogy is spot on
This is spot on. Long distance relationships, wow this is described accurately. Fantasy discussions wouldn’t match reality visits. Man I was played. At least I’m not “in it” anymore
Never underestimate the power of triangulation.
oh you’d be soo surprised how elaborate it can get, yet… once you know it and you woke up. then its all good.
Especially between a father and daughter
@DoctorRamani You’ve been gifted with the ability to clearly and compassionately explain deeply hurtful things. This awareness is what drives us to become our better selves. Thank you💜
Love your language lol..they are big children that have never grown up. So glad I know better now 😊
I know about the covert narcissistic boss. Other than for the need of a paycheck, I often wonder just what value they think they have, to anyone. The triangulation, the discards, the sabotage. And I somehow feel they want me to feel the discard. I can identify. But am more than delighted to scrape them off, on someone else and it’s funny to watch as, the new supply feels they’ve swept in and have the nod, while they might’ve gotten a booby prize.
Since I’ve been working on healing the trauma bond I realize how unbearable they are. I’d rather be alone than having a narcissistic family member, friend, partner or boss. It can be uncomfortable for me to stay awake about the fact that this kind of people exists but I am willing to remain aware and nourish my relationship with myself.
Wow…. This makes me feel less stupid. This exactly describes my ex boyfriend of 3 years. To a tee. Your videos are so helpful for me. Thank you
OMG this is so true. Exactly how I was hooked into my last relationship
You described my ex-husband with your triangulation description. It’s about exactly what happened. Unfortunately, they are still together after 27 years between the private conversations at their workplace to 22 years of marriage.
He (they) also took my daughter away from me with lies. That’s another narcissistic topic of parental alienation.
Wow, Brilliant. I’m the oldest of six, and triangulation was a daily occurrence in my multi-generational narcissistic family. We need to be aware because it’s such an easy and effective tool for a Narcissist.
This is exactly what happened to me over 3 years.
Wasn’t long before she completely destroyed me when we finally got together. I almost didn’t survive it.
we are so lucky. literal gems of information.
thank you Dr. Ramani, she COOKED; and fed us a nutritious lesson, and for this i am grateful! ❤thank you!
Holy crap, this is so true!!! I experienced this from someone I thought was a friend, and it was never, ending a relationship and healing from it, it was alright, onto the next!
Mine kept praising me to all – took decades before I understood he saw me as an extension of him. He was like “my wife is tough, she does amazing things, she is clever etc etc”. Then came the devaluation and I was so confused. Then he would say he has temper, he doesn’t mean all the bad things.
Decades later I understood that I compensated for his failure, his insecure self. So he was like “I am si special and clever. Look who I chose as wife”.
But he made me feel like a hero – and then he drove over me in devaluation faces.
I am sorry you had to go through this. It might help to think that someone did it to him before, probably a parent.
Thanks Dr Ramani….. couldn’t believe how detailed and accurate every word was. xxx