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Thank you Dr Ramani for all that you do!
I’m no expert by any means, but I think I can spot a Narcissist a whole lot quicker now. And when you said, someone that’s in a narcissistic relationship doesn’t “know” that’s what it is…that was me. It was a friendship, and every time I saw and experienced their behavior, I just thought, “what is wrong with you”, you’re nuts. Then when I said enough is enough, and saw your videos, it ALL made sense. Thank you Dr. Ramani for your continued information on this.
Yes exactly. But I also would feel guilty for thinking that way 😅
But realistically it’s just your instincts telling you to run from a predator
My off an on friend of 60 years I had to let go of. By educating on the narc I completely saw through that ole manipulating an controlling mask of hers. And LYING! But I’ll still check up on her. I do care for her anyway. Maybe once a year or every 6 months – maybe
Unfortunately some of us married them
@lisaspencer5881 I’m so sorry for you. I am happily single and thankful I don’t have to deal with anyone like that again! Stay strong!
@@SherryTomlinson-r2y yeah I had one of those for about 45 years. We no longer speak and I have no desire to check up on her whatsoever. For me, I let ALL of the negativity go in my life, and I’m much better for it.
If survivors get healed they’ll be very powerful and not be available as a supply and have strong boundaries.
Was there and I knew enough deep down that I said to a therapist that I needed to get out of a relationship. I think staying single is the only way after a certain amount loss of self.
@@Summer_Harvestin my case it wouldn’t just be staying single it would be to avoid everyone and become a hermit. Which I can’t do… ?
@SherryTomlinson-r2y I told myself if it went the same way I would do the same. Here we are
@@Summer_Harvest I get you ..once that trust is gone it’s pretty much gone 💙
@SherryTomlinson-r2y For me I am grateful for the one who has carried me this far.
Some people just doesn’t “get it”, even though it makes complete sense. 🙏💕💪
Everything you have said is so true…Ty💜
I do understand it. I’m formerly homeless.
My ex weaponized all of the friends and family where I used to live with them by making me the bad guy when i left with my kids to live with my mom. I wasnt going to put up with him neglecting my children, and forcing me to work so he could stay at home playing WOW(world of warcraft).
I saved $1000 without him knowing, and covid hit right as I was getting ready to go….. So it took me an extra 5 months to get moved in with my mom.
Thank you for spreading this information. Ive met too much hate and lack of understanding.
Famous line he has used after out divorce, when i was bringing the kids down, “You didnt want to see me so bad you got into a car accident”
All about him and his power, didnt even check to make sure the kids or I were ok. ;(
Can you imagine saying “You were so terrified of me that you risked your life to get away, it must be YOU!”???? And people and systems side with the person who won’t let others ESCAPE them? I’m sorry, but unless a small child is running into busy traffic, what kind of person CHASES another human being????
On another note I’m happy to have joined the Dr Ramani network (fireside). Wealth of information. Expanding the knowledge.
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If I had the MONEY, I’d LEAVE in a SECOND!
You’ll find a way. Can’t put a price on freedom.
I’m leaving this narc relationship in a box. Therapy is only available to those with the money to pay for it and I’m too invested in this to walk away. Enablers are everyone on this planet.
@@unbridledaudacity9694 if you’re willing to continue to put up with somebody’s bad behavior that’s totally your choice. But no, not everyone on the planet is enablers.
Hazing and harassing survivors of Domestic Abuse does nothing but show exactly what the problem is. It doesn’t help anyone. It makes survivors afraid to speak if abuse is happening to them. If someone is a professional, it makes it even harder. Harassment and intolerance is exactly why we have 1 in 4 women today as a victim of domestic violence. If someone is not willing to listen and open up their mind, then leave them alone. Focus on your life, your problems and your issues. If a survivor bothers you that much, maybe it’s time to look in the mirror to see if your part of the problem. Thank you so much for this message and all that you do!!
That is a hard truth and wisdom. Take care of yourself.
@@Pamela-k5u I was listening to a holocaust survivor this morning. To survive a prison camp she learned to pity her abusers. These abusers are really very pitiful, you know.
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It’s 37% now, it’s been increasing for several years. Globally.
I understand where you are coming from and harassment is never ok. But the real problem is the PERSON who is a narc. We know they are “made” not born. So society needs to change to minimise the brokenness, insecurity, lack of education around the cause- to prevent them being created in the first place.
It sounds a little like the vulnerable narcissist in a relationship with a non narcissistic person. But the vulnerable narcissists try to weaken and confuse the other person, instead of investing anything in them, to make them stay.
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The “Don’t, Can’t, Won’t” was so helpful, Thank you!!!! 👍❤❤❤
This is such an excellent video, Dr Ramani. It’s the detailed, nuanced, robust, thorough, incisive, rich discourse that I so appreciate about your work. I’m lapping all of it up hungrily to experience a full mental and physiological response from it. God knows I need it. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! ❤❤❤
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Dr Ramani bringing healing to the world one video at a time. ❤❤❤
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Cannot thank you enough 🙏🏻this all rings so true and is strengthening in so many ways ❤️
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Until I found this channel I thought a narcissist was someone who couldn’t stop looking at his or her reflection in a mirror. I never knew what I experienced was abuse—and not just verbal abuse. The abuse is financial, it is pure sabotage, and lies are physical—nothing in this statement is just verbal. All these abuses chip away at your life until you are old, tired, broke, and too sick (literally cancer ridden) to move. The purse strings always align with the narcissist—they eat first and last, you get nothing if you try to divorce.
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I thought it was just a $100 word for a selfish, self-centered person. It is but there is so much more to it. I found out the hard way
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Right. It feels like victim shaming when there is no one who under/inner stands. Or no genuine support system to help you “out”. I’m glad to be Healing on the other side of it. ❤
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When I was with him in the marriage I had to leave for a couple of weeks to one of those shelters I felt verbally psychologically and I abused and I needed a break. He got all the support from the church people but I got none – none – I was to blame because the stuff that I did was more blatant while the stuff he did was under the radar subtle they didn’t know – all they saw was somebody who got dressed up for church and fellowshipped. They didn’t know what went on behind closed doors with all the psychological stuff – one up man ship; not fighting fair; saying bad stuff to me about my body over and over while I was trying to discuss something with him. how do I explain.. There’s so much more I’d like to say but I’ll just leave it at that right now because I’m fatigued right now.
When I finally did leave my abuser, with my 1 year old and 1 on the way, my father said, “Ah you enjoyed it or you wouldn’t have been there.” Needless to say I didn’t have familial support. I thank God for the Women in Crisis Center in my town.
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Many fathers side with their daughters or granddaughters abusers. It’s super common. It means they are also an abuser.
Thank you for your channel. My daughter and myself listen to your channel.. We consistently run into advocate types. I purchased your books on audible, and I can’t wait to start peeling back this onion. People try to downplay the scars of abuse because their not always visible.
I wholeheartedly agree with you!
I do not need family court, but “ criminal court “ as a May 2016 widowhood to date. 16:19