SCIENTIFIC REPORT: Data that Narcissists REALLY don’t change
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Don’t waste your time, I spent 12 years waiting and I proved it… they really don’t change.😢
Every time I go back, the same cycles start all over again within minutes ….
Yes, 12 years for me too. I went no contact 3 years ago. He has stalked me since. I was at court yesterday working on a peace bond. Ugh….does this ever end?
Same😢
I must be a slow learner….it took me so much longer. Coverts can be sneaky little devils. That’s as nice as I could say it. 🙄
@@FunnyFrances Not tot mention that it takes awhile to map out and ostracize their network of flying monkeys
Take it from me or any of us on here waiting for the change will never happen ever it only gets worse
About to say. This. Is the only change to expect. Worsening.
Yup. Sad but true.
32 years and I’m still in it…working on myself because that is currently all I can do.
36 yrs here and I can relate. Got help figuring it out 7 yrs ago Been learning ever since. A subject that I would have truly been ok with not knowing about.
40 yrs in… 2yrs ago I said I’m leaving I’m still here but smarter I’m 61 seriously where do I go. But because of Dr Ramani I now know what I’m dealing with. I been healing me from what I’ve learned. This thing here doesn’t get to me anymore because I now know the character (I’m trying to be polite) I’m busy with. Only thing I’m a little lonely I gave no friends yet I love people. I pray always God sends me a friend. The best thing that ever happened to me was finding out & learning about a narcissistic person, I never heard of it before but damn did it make 100% sense. I’m no longer judging myself, questioning myself, grovelling for answers, I’m so much more peaceful & happier
Be good to you the home I had was a lonely play love you
I’d rather be homeless and have been since May. Living in my car in Florida. It’s hot, uncomfortable, embarrassing and stressful at times. It’s a challenge to eat healthy but it’s far less stressful!
Sad news for those of us who still had hope that we could figure out a way to somehow get along with alienated toxic family members …
I agree.
Right, the pros always tell us to have undying hope and to waste our energy.
@@beachybird1251 “Give them one more chance, they dont know any better, it’s not so bad” … Been there done that got a mountain of t shirts …
The Bible says that hope deferred makes the heart sick
The only thing that changed my narc ex was me calling the police on him when he would be violent. The change was him discarding and replacing me with new supply.
Was married to one 18yrs they dont change it only gets worse
17yrs here. No Contact situation 1yr ago because he was throwing things at me, and my kid called the cops. It’s nice to meet you. 🥲
Agree, my husband has become much worse.
Ugh, 31 years here…I finally got out.
@@user-bg1eo7lo9u33 yrs. Of wasted days and wasted nights!!😮😮😮😮
I realized this, no one can actually change their personality, cause even we have tried but ended up being bitter to others and ourselves in order to please them
People can change their personality but it needs to come from their own will to change, not someone insisting that they need to change.
Change isn’t easy and the older you get, the harder it is to change. Personality is a bit like setting concrete. You can make some changes before it dries, but once it dries, you’re going to need to do a significant amount of work to change it.
Likewise, you can change and rebuild your own driveway but good luck trying to get your neighbor to change theirs. Except of course, I doubt most people have their lives affected negatively by driveways.
I am LOVING this! Thank you, for this scientific data to support NPD/Narcissism research. This provides more gravitas and validation for this personality disorder. I am hoping that the justice system, psychologists/therapists and university psychology programs will incorporate this understanding into their practice, studies and training.
At first they need to acknowledge that it’s there
His narcissism gets worse as his looks and stamina fade.
Pheeew!!! So true.
Isn’t that kind of a sweet delight?
Just knowing that…😊
Be sure to Run!!☮️
They call it, “The Trump Effect”.
@@charlesbromberick4247take your political nonsense elsewhere.
Same with her 🙁
And I’ve loved her unconditionally for decades now
Many of us in this community have witnessed firsthand that nothing can fill the bottomless void of narcissism… especially as they age. Thanks for sharing the scientific validation. ❤️
Another day, another extremely important eye-opening message. Thank You, Dr. Ramani for the extensive efforts You put to help us understand narcissistic relationships and protect ourselves.
Narcisists don’t change, it gets worse with age, unfortunately.
You are so right,I was with one for almost 20 yrs,I’m 60 & he is 16 yrs older than me & has gotten worse,he is showing his aging,but his personality is beyond words,I left him 137 days ago,went no contact & I’ve never felt so rested & relieved!
This is what I’m dreading. I’m unable to leave 😢
@@nickijames5122 watch Dr. Romy’s can’t, won’t, don’t video about leaving the narcissist. It was empowering to me.
They can’t and won’t change for the better. But I changed and it was for the worse. I went from being happy and confident to miserable and insecure. I don’t think I’ll ever be the same after the abusive relationship.
“The weather is never gonna change”. You’re using an umbrella more than sunglasses when you’re with a narcissist.
One malignant narcissistic person once close to me said herself, “People don’t change.” 😢
My Mother is 85 a True Narcissist She hasn’t changed and never will. So painful for Me to admit 💔 it Thank God there is data to back up what We know for sure They Don’t Change! 😢😢😢
Oh happy day!
Sometimes I get so tired of people insisting that therapy/ counseling will help. I admire their optimism but hate their cluelessness.
Validation is so nice:)
I wish I would have known this at 21. I spent 33 years with that worthless, destructive monster. He was the best manipulator in the world and fools everyone.
Nailed it , they don’t ever change , run if you can away from narcissistic personality
This is why forgiving a narcissist is a waste of time and a form of self-harm. The narcissist WILL abuse again if given the chance. That’s just who they are and what they do.
Hope is literally kryptonite in these types of relationships. It fuels denial and may even contribute to dissociation. But in the end, radical acceptance is the only safe way to preserve your wellbeing and sanity.