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A man having an opinion on a woman’s choice of personal care is next level ALARMING. This guy sounds quite disturbed.
In some sects of Judaism women have to go through a vaginal discharge inspection with a rabbi to determine ceremonial cleanliness. They are following what is actually written in the bible.
Patriarchy . Depraved
Envy of Women’s Reproductive rights
Hand maidens tale
Absolutely demented.
I literally cannot imagine why I would care.
It’s about control. Pads restrict her life but tampons makes her free to do activities without problems. It’s to keep her from doing things and keeping her home.
I’m sorry if you are watching..you may want to leave him. I was married for 30 years ..and come from a family of abuse as well. I’m recovering now at 61 and working on me. God bless you and prayers.
This channel and this community has saved my life! I would probably still believe that I was the problem if I didn’t find you guys. When I started concealing I even asked her if I was the narcissist because I thought (was gaslight into believing) that having standards and boundaries was me trying to control him. Thank you guys
As a 67 year old man, born and raised in the USA. This is far more serious than mere manipulation. I can’t even comprehend this guy from the first story. I fear for that young lady🙏
“It’s all about control”. – Janet Jackson
My former boyfriend tried to get me to turn my back on my grown daughter and brother. He complained about decisions I made, how I spoke to others, how I cooked, how I ate, what I ate, what I believed, how I spent my money, etc. I eventually broke up with him and kicked him out of my house. Even this… he acted like I owed him because he washed dishes, laundry, and other household chores while he lived in my home rent free.
Good riddance to garbage.
Same for this woman.
I have heard of guys not liking women using tampons before, they are threatened by it anatomically in terms of wanting to be the only thing inside the women’s body’s, it’s super psycho toxic controlling and abusive…I hope this women gets out safely ❤
Yeah, that’s super psycho! Insecure because of a tampon?! Those men need some serious psychiatric help!
It’s like they don’t realize you can’t even feel it!
Maybe he’s threatened😅 by the size
@@artsyfartsynerdywordyI actually can feel them sometimes, and sometimes they are uncomfortable.
@@kathleenferguson1593 😂😂😂
I had an ex ‘boyfriend’ like this, he was so critical negative mean and controlling, I felt like he hated me and like I was always doing something wrong. Thank God I got out. I will never allow anything like that in my life again in any way. I’d rather be alone. Just experienced that in a work place so looking for other jobs. Not ok in any way. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤
Right, that kind of behavior is NOT ok in a relationship, or on the job! I’ve experienced too many times, and I’m DONE.
My ex was this controlling. He screamed at me that I could only use one towel after my shower because he put up one towel bar, and all three of us had to use it. He hid half the dishes to get me to do dishes more often. He screamed at me for having name brand food in the pantry. I had to explain that sometimes name brand food can be cheaper when you use a coupon. I have hundreds more examples. It’s too bad videos like this weren’t available back then. I’m still recovering from the marriage. (And I still only use one towel.)
I really feel for you and I understand how horrible this type of relationship can be! I remember one boyfriend in particular, he had something to say about literally every single thing I did. Whatever I did, according to him I was doing it wrong, his way was the only right way, and he scrutinized my every move. I became a shell of myself, afraid of his anger and ridicule.
And I highly encourage you to use as many towels as you want!
My (ex)husband told me he LOVED pets when he met me (and now I know this was future-faking). When I got pregnant shortly after our wedding he asked me to “give away for free to anyone” my poor little dog or even “put him down to get rid of him” because he suddenly felt that babies and pets won’t work, even though I reassured him about baby’s safety, keeping the house germ-free etc. I put the poor dog (and my cat) in the basement for about 3 years. I cried everyday when he wasnt home. He also wouldn’t allow me to walk my dog myself. He’d walk him and put him back in the basement to be fed and visited shortly everyday. I had a hard time forgiving myself and I don’t understand how I could have accepted that. I believe I probably didn’t see a choice and was shocked at my initially “loving” husband act this way. I didn’t even consider leaving him then or asking him to leave. Even my parents (who don’t like pets) took his side. 😢 Now I see how it was way more about the control than about the actual poor pets. After 8 1/2 years, we finally and legally separated with full custody of my daughter but buying his half out of my own house! I feel much better now but still working hard to find those list pieces of myself like self-confidence and cherished values. To those of you out there who are seeing red flags: please get out before committing to that relationship, or before having a baby, or before having a second baby, or before buying a house together… It’s never too late.
Former horse owner and horse rescue volunteer here. Horses need regular grooming, riding and exercise to be healthy and it’s also important for the rider’s safety. They are emotional creatures like dogs and cats and the horse-human bond is important. A horse suddenly deprived of that bond may engage in self-harming behaviors such as cribbing. At the horse rescue, I learned that many people who engage in cruelty to animals (killing, maiming, torturing, etc) go on to commit similar offenses against human beings. If someone proposes putting down a healthy animal or worse, run don’t walk to the exit because you could be next!
Yes!
True, absolutely! To ask someone to kill their animal so they can spend more time with you is INSANE!
And even asking someone you supposedly love to not do something they love doing, to bury a huge part of themselves, to put aside their passion, is not love at all. If he didn’t like it that she was so into horses, he should have moved on to someone else who shared his likes and dislikes. It’s not fair to ask someone to completely change themselves for you!
@LMLewis, I agree – This guy is big trouble, and clearly has no idea that animals form strong bonds with their humans, and vice-versa. To the woman who has owned this horse since she was four, the horse would be a family member. She really needs to say goodbye to this guy before she gets too involved with him. He’s clearly showing what the future holds if she puts up with it. He’s needy in a pathological way, and needs to work on himself. He should be happy for his girlfriend that she has this passion in her life, not just HIM. If already too involved with this guy, start putting some distance in there, and gradually pull away, no matter how uncomfortable. Save your life, and the life of your horse! I can’t believe some of these stories!!🤮 To the girlfriend, I hope you’re reading this. I send you my support. I’m an elderly woman who has seen too much nonsense from pompous, immature and selfish men.
I agree with you. The guy is clearly very dangerous.
The situation with my sister and the groceries illustrates my experience perfectly. After a decade away, I returned to New Jersey for a new job and stayed with her. However, by the third day, it became clear that she was taking advantage of me, expecting me to babysit my niece while she pursued her own activities, all the while asking me to contribute to her rent despite her initial offer of free accommodation since I had my own place in Ohio. I had warned her that if her behavior continued, I would leave again, and I kept that promise. Now, I only hear about their lives through my nephew, and I have no intention of returning. It was the best decision I could have made; my life has flourished since distancing myself from that toxic environment. Sometimes, maintaining boundaries with family is essential for your well-being.🎉
My mom was an animal lover, particularly cats. My dad was a narcissist and chronically complained about our pets, often saying we “live(d) in a g*dd*mned zoo.” But he didn’t dare ask my mom to choose between him and the cats, because he KNEW he’d be on the losing side of that proposition!
narcissists don’t like animals because animals can see through them. occasionally a narcissist adopts a dog because some dogs respond well to domineering people. Watch, at some point the dog gets in the way and they put it up for adoption. If they something else it’s in a tank or cage.
lol good for your mom
Wow, just WOW! These stories were just so beyond normal, my mouth was hanging open in disbelief! Sadly though, I have experienced similar craziness in some of my past relationships with narcissists. Especially as an inexperienced young woman who had no model for what a normal relationship should be, I ended up sacrificing a lot of years I can never get back to psycho, unreasonable, narcissistics. I bent over backwards to please them by giving up myself, and even then it was never enough for them.
I hope the people in these stories were able to get out of those relationships! They deserve SO much more.
To the horse lover…..dont let him get into your head on this. Stay loyal to your horse. His attitude towards this is so revealing of his true self and the darkness thats there . There is a threat to your animal presently and in time that threat will be on you. Let the horse be your strength and the barn be your solace….. When you see your horse let yourself know you saved each other. Ive been there. Take care and i wish you the strength to get away.
To every story, RUN AWAY!
I had been doing an internship during my last semester of college. I went back to the college for my graduation. While I was there I had a phone conversation (parents lived in another state) with my mother who stated that my father was not thrilled with the 8 hour car ride that was required. Personally, I did not care whether I went to graduation or not so I said I would forgo it. I had a bike trip planned right after graduation and was anxious to get started. Years later my mother threw in my face that my father had been “very disappointed” that I did not attend. I now believe that the real issue was that my mother was jealous of me and could not tolerate not being the center of attention.