Are you afraid to get hurt again after a narcissistic relationship? It’s a question so many people ask, and it makes sense – nobody wants to feel that pain again. In this video, we talk about how to move forward, how to trust yourself, and why getting hurt isn’t the end of the story. If you’ve been stuck in fear, this might help you take that next step.
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You either risk getting hurt again or you spend the rest of your life single. I say date again once you’ve completed your healing. Good people may be rare, but there’s still some of us out here.
Never again.
There’s nothing wrong with choosing to be single indefinitely. Some of us actually like our own company.
Now you can recognize that Brat Victim Sociopath.
Unconditional Love means nothing to these selfish predators.
Stay close to Jesus to answer your prayers and send you “that” Love♡
Feel that blessing🕊
@@Ranger526 be quiet
I feel like naming yourself narc survivor might be a red flag 😝 🚩
Got played & NOT doing it again. Found self love, contentment, & PEACE. Humans are crazy, PERIOD! Want a friend, get a dog!
And cat a bird, tarantula 😊
2014 Dr. Ramanni & Lisa A. Ramano both warned: Pandemic Narcissism America.
(“The Other Pandemic”)
🙏Bless you🕊
Especially Beagles!
I just would live my life and if someone proposes that’s cool but if people are trying to date your siblings or friends eww it gets ugly
🐈
Some of us might not completely trust anyone again and might explore things like spirituality or finding a meaning to life.
hello Dear, I love your comments on this channel, Happy New Year 2025🎄 🎁 How are you doing today?
This will be my goal as well.
@@Drcherylevansjoness 🙏
@@sushmayen you are welcome 🙏
I live in New York Manhattan,
Where are you from ?
After noting how deeply buried trauma can be before uncovering YEARS LATER? I’m nearly 70 y/o now, I want my remaining years peaceful and drama-free.
I’m 62 and feel the same
Similar age bracket, and ditto
I’m 72 and I just want some peace calm and kindness for the rest of my life. I find I prefer my companion creatures to most people.
@@tosca9561 since I was responsible for the pets as well, I burned out on having pets as well. Pet pictures require no care but that is me.
@@tosca9561 Companion critters, + gardening does it for me.
There is more in life than having a partner / spouse. If a good person shows up, fine. But I would never betray myself again just to „have“ somebody.
Remember the mantra “I wasn’t the one, it was just my turn”
@@Werderina exactly the way I feel!
Agree
Yeppers!!!!🤙🤟
LOVE💖💖💖
Every time a covert narc slips through my narc radar, it hurts, but over time that pain slowly transforms into discernment and wisdom.
I trust no one and I’ve been right about that. Even my closest people have betrayed me, so it’s fine, I’m good. I trust ME
No one is perfect. No different than those closest to you have let you down I am sure you have let people down. We all have. The important part is what happens next when someone lets you down. Do they apologize and try to make it right? If so, that sounds like a great person. If they don’t and they just walk away or place blame somewhere else if it is really their mistake to own then let them go.
It’s not just the getting hurt. Although that’s enough. It’s the loss of time and energy. The waste of our life by theft. And our family and friends supported that theft for their own personal benefits. We have had to realize that we didn’t have enough value to our own support group. So trust is not realistic.
Dr Ramani Great Conversation.as a survivor for 9 yrs. Now, and I refuse to be involved again. I’ve learned that if I can’t please myself I can’t please no one. I have a great source of friends who support me ,an for that I’m grateful for.besides it’s a beautiful place to be. No demands, riddcule, come and go as you please. Thanks for this conversation. Love & light.
Since anyone can fake empathy and an emotional connection, as many of us learned the hard way after being trapped into and surviving a narcissistic relationship, we set parameters to avoid getting hurt and betrayed again and learn what people’s true intentions. On one hand, we’re told to raise our standards, be more diligent, and make better choices. When we do, we are called paranoid, a snob, playing hard to get, or criticized for carrying too much emotional baggage
@@csfiskus610 yep. It’s definitely a no win situation
The people that claim you have too much emotional baggage are just pissed you won’t let them shove more in your suitcase.
Everyone has their own speed in recovery, and I’m thankful to hear this hopeful message from a pro.
Excellent video. One to remember and watch again over time, not just in regards to relationships but coping with life in general. 😊
For me it’s not just about not getting played again. I’m emotionally drained. I don’t know if I have anything to give to anyone anymore. With that being said I refuse to waist someone else’s time like mine was. If I’m not able to give 100 percent I feel like I’m not being fair to myself or anyone else. I spent 18 years with someone diagnosed went BPD who I suspect has NPD also. I lost my youth choosing to be with this person. It also feels that people my age are more developed than I am. I’ve been over 8 years no contact with this person. And the dreams/nightmares and revelations about her and my relationship keep coming. I’m not bitter because I know that every woman is not the same. Just extremely tired
I am afraid of getting hurt again. My lack of trust lays more in trusting myself not to fall for the same type of person again.
Keep looking deeper within in yourself
@@The_Pool_Guide exactly! Empaths are the prime targets of narcissists
Codependency issues need addressing
Pool, you will. Not because you’re the problem, but because “finding” new people is like picking fresh produce in the grocery store, and should be treated that way. And it feels icky and calculated, but you should only trust how much your willing to lose, or how much trust has been earned: we check if the grocery store employee “knows” 20 – 18.79 = 1.21 and we don’t look at it from the perspective of “trust them/trust me”.
Give chances like you’d give spare change to homeless people on the sidewalk – spare change, not a deed to your house; treat those “taken chances” like you would buying fresh produce – you’re not paying 20$ for a visibly rotten apple; check like you’d check if you got the correct change, and have a “rainy day fund” for when and if you get fed over – we keep savings/backup if our refrigerator breaks or the car needs repairs.
You will get fed over, you just need to keep the risk low enough to not be harmed by it. And it feels icky because we’re taught that blind obedience and naivety is trust, and reasonable, responsible trust is mistrust and testing your partner. You don’t lock your front door because you suspect your elderly neighbour is burglar just waiting to rob you, you lock it because you aren’t willing to risk getting robbed, you leave your doormat outside because you are willing to risk it being stolen, and some people leave spare keys outside or give it to neighbours because they calculate the risk of losing their keys to the risk of being robbed.
Make a calculated risk and a calculated decision to trust, and let it progress from trusting that the wind won’t blow away a fallen leaf on the sidewalk to trusting that your bathroom won’t magically exchange places with your kitchen while get a hoodie from the bedroom 😅
I took almost 2. Getting my diploma, changing may job, fixing my teeth, getting my medical done, being present for my teen. I love me
First time, I learned about narcissistic abuse.
Second time, I learned about attachment styles.
Third time, hopefully will be secure. But I’d rather be alone. It’s peaceful.
I’d rather be alone, too
I did the same thing. Learned about narcissist abuse then attachment styles. It took me 5 years then started dating. Was with one guy for 18 months but ended up breaking it off due to red flags. Learning my life lessons and will not quit at moving forward!!!!
Codependency isn’t worth risking a home & a life for anymore
@@caroleminke6116 well said!
Yep, this!
I don’t like getting played, not because it affects my ego but because it waste my time and makes me sad because it is yet again another individual who is dishonest.
My new philosophy after getting burned repeatedly by narcissists is, “Never trust your well-being to someone else – they *always* f–k it up.”
I think many survivors’ biggest fear is to lose TIME again. Thankfully, we do spot red flags faster after we educate ourselves but many of us have already lost decades of our life to a Narc… To us, EVERYONE IS A POTENTIAL NARC UNTIL PROVEN OTHERWISE!
Love, strength and growth to all. ❤
I understand. I am 57 years old. Why would I want to try again after I find ground again.
EVERYONE IS A POTENTIAL NARC UNTIL PROVEN OTHERWISE! Agreedy. How many decades had passed, and I still haven’t learnt ye? Duh me.
Astonishing video as always, at first i wasn’t really into watching such relationship experts video, but it turned out to be a blessing in so many ways, 10 years ago i was with a narcissist and i broke things up 4 years ago, found someone who truly cared for me and i messed things up because i was trauma bonded. then i started watching a lot of youtube videos and some christian videos about relationships and marriages, i learned a lot, and something actually happened as well, i was able to get my ex back with the help of watching matthew hussey videos and reaching out to a spiritual counselor.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i have been battling with a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended a year ago, and till now, I am still in the crossroads on what to do, it is really sad.
it’s difficult to let go of someone you love, like i said, I watched so many helpful videos but the key was the spiritual counselor.
What spiritual counselor? How can I reach him or her?
Her name is Shelly Renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Couldn’t find her on youtube, but saw her website online, i will reach out. thank you