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I’d rather be rejected directly than to be breadcrumbed into a possibility. I hate playing games, especially when they waste my time.
Agreed. If she doesn’t give you a direct answer, move on.
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Bro did NOT watch the video lol
From my personal experience, I do agree with this. In fact, I wish someone told me about this many years ago. It could have really changed my dating experience.
Thank you for sharing this 🙌🏼
There have been a few women who I didn’t think of “in that way”. Then, they will tell a funny or interesting story, smile, or laugh, and suddenly attraction develops!
Hope that your week is going well, Courtney!
Us men are easy, so that doesn’t count.
So they didn’t like you from the start.
First impression is so important. Some people won’t look at you differently after your first impression no matter how much you show them your not that person they think you are.
That’s on them.
That’s all easy to say when you’re not the one that has to pay for the date.
A “spark” is fine – as long as you control the fire.
“The spark often ends up being a fire that burns your house down.” So true! I didn’t feel an initial ‘spark’ with my man. It’s through observing over time how grounded, reliable, and consistent he is that attracts me to him. Slow burn is the best.
To be fair, after meeting me just once my (future) wife promptly and repeatedly told her parents that she absolutely didn’t ever want to be in the same county let alone city as me for the rest of her life. We have been together 40 years now. It was a very slow burn. 🤨
NEVER allow yourself to be on a woman’s “roster”. Rosters are effectively client lists for women who belong to the streets.
I don’t understand your comment. Every woman naturally has a roster,(friendzone, male best friends /work friends).if men weren’t attracted to women , then there wouldn’t be a roster
Man this is so sad. I’m sorry you were hurt. People date and they are always open to a lot of different options. It’s ok for that to be someone’s way of doing things.
She’s not going to tell you if she has a roster.
@@DavidZ4-gg3dm there’s ways to find out without prying, like the first time she claims she wants to spend time with her “guy friends”.
Women tend to love idealistically due to all the Disney movies /romantic comedies they grew up watching… remember ladies, your league is the guy who’s willing to commit to you, not the one who’s willing to sleep with you..
nah. men love idealistically. women love opportunistically.
If a woman wants to serial date, she needs to be up front about her intentions and needs to pay her share of the date. Women will “date to date” just to get free meals and drinks. Its embarassing.
It’s embarrassing that you want a woman to pay on a date. Women have a lot more options so coming out cheap is not a great idea.
Just for a woman giving you the time of day you should pay her drink, coffee, or meal
@@yudirsamakhlouf2955 A woman’s time is no more inherently valuable than a man’s time.
@@shnickityshnoo3574 it is in the dating market. Women have more options and men willing to take them to nice places, even fly them on nice vacations.
When men are able to do that then they have the same market value in the dating world.
@@yudirsamakhlouf2955 so you are saying woman’s time is more important than man’s, which implies woman is more important than man? Are you feminist or sexist?
@@hasanagera I am implying that in the dating marketplace women are more valuable, yes.
I’m a feminist and I’m proud- in the sense that I believe that both women and men have the same inherent value. BUT in the dating world women have more options and time spent with a cheap loser could have been spent with a better prospect.
With the greatest amount of respect…this fairytale/Hollywood “spark” thing is a very womanly attribute. Of course some men too, but lots of women get tricked by movies or songs into thinking this is what you’re supposed to feel when you meet “the one” and anything less means the guy is a dud.
Expectations ≠ reality with this mindset.
100% Media has largely influenced the “Dating Market” the past 30 years. I mean look at the Stats of Men in the West that are moving to Asia just to get a “wife material” meanwhile the girls backhome are dating the “bad boy” type
spark is a thing. but as Courtney said, it isnt a sexual spark. It’s more in relation to connection with someone that makes the woman want to be with someone more. They find something about the guy that all they want to do is find any reason to spend time with them. It almost feels like “love at first site” but not quite since they cant explain what it is they are attracted to about the guy.
and I know lots of guys thinks that is mumbo jumbo. I get it. but relationships are messy and weird and defy all logical explanations. You can have two people who look like they hate each other be married for 50 years.
Fellas 1 thing I learned is, make sure she’s attracted to you before you do anything. If not then whatever you do after has minuscule affection towards romance with her.
I’m going to push back here and say, do not date someone to whom you have no raw sexual attraction. You do not want to build a long term relationship with someone only to find out he/she didn’t find you attractive in the first place, and just settled for you.
cap. if “the spark” is a feeling you get when he doesn’t respond to your texts & has 6 other women chasing him, then its probably not good. but women chase the spark anyway.
Spot on. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
This is particularly different for men and women.
Men’s attraction to women doesn’t change from the initial impression.
Women’s attraction changes when best friends or family members tell them good things about a guy.
Of course men need to learn about a woman’s character beyond her looks….. But I ruined my life and hers by dating a woman I wasn’t attracted to physically. I thought it would change as I got to know her and we were in love but it never did. It was miserable everyday.
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I’m male. I had a date with a woman named Michelle. We learned a little bit about each other beforehand. We seemed a great match, on paper. We both love cats. And, I found her attractive. Unfortunately, there was no spark, on our date. Nothing bad, but it suddenly felt “forced.” I think that, we both put each other “up on a pedestal” beforehand, and both thinking “she/he could be the one!” With high expectations so soon, there’s only one way to go: Down. Talking out of both sides of my mouth, I think we should have had a second date, where maybe we were both more “at ease” and more “naturally comfortable with each other.” Unfortunately, the way courtship goes, you HAVE to have your A+ to AAA Game on the FIRST date, or she may be done with him. I think that if more people would give second and third dates a chance (working out the kinks, on both sides), more potential great relationships could come to be.
A woman, like men, require physical/sexual attraction, then financial, maybe anything else would be a bonus. Modern women require financial attraction first AND FORMOST then – if he’s cute or hot – the sexual/physical follows. Lust at first sight is often dampened by a lack of finance. Modern Single women rarely [ if ever ] give a short “broke” guy a chance in the hope that he has other qualities to equate with or nullify his lack of height or finance. Bottom line, if he ain’t tall or rich he’ll make a nice distraction but never a person interest.
I’m just not a flashy guy, not super active on Instagram, but I have a really amazing well rounded life, you just wouldn’t get to know that off of a first impression. I’ve gotten rejected for ‘being broke’ because I drive a CLEAN, well kept economy car… it’s just the first car that I ever bought.. I could afford whatever car I want. Sometimes I feel like modern dating really does lead to a lot of false negatives.
Well she’s showing you her character right? Or at least a difference in personal value. I’ve been there it really sucks but you better believe it it’s a problem on the first date it will absolutely be a problem down the road
This “get back out there dating” is only justified if she’s upfront with the guy that she’s not looking for anything serious. It’s pretty damn unfair to expect a guy to invest time, creativity, and possibly money on a woman who is using you just “to get back out there”. Too many women will date for fun, knowing the guy is looking for a long term relationship potential. Dating sites for example, if a woman has “Short term” or “Haven’t figured out my dating goals”, it’s a no from me. I won’t be one of the many she’s talking to or dating, nor will I waste my energy on a “maybe”.
What I think she means is “While I typically find myself attracted to brunettes with long, flowing hair and striking features, I’m open to exploring a connection with a cheerful blonde who has a vibrant smile and curly locks.'” Someone can still be not your type, but attractive.
As a woman, what bothers me is the word «date». Dating is already expecting something. You date to see if…. If you are compatible, if you can fall in love, if the other one matches your criteria, if… if… if…. And if nothing of that happens, you don’t date this person a second time because you felt bored. I agree that you don’t need the spark at first sight to fall in love, but in this case I prefer to call the person «a friend». When you go out with friends, you don’t care about who and how they are. When you hang out with a friend, you don’t think «Oh I won’t hang out with him again because he doesn’t match my criteria for my future.» You just let them live, they just let you live, …and one day you realize you have feelings for them.
It can be a friend, a colleague at work, your butcher, your doctor,… someone you see regularly.
So yes, I already fell in love with people I had known for years without spark at the beginning. But «dating» an unknown person I’m not really into makes me feel like I’m losing my time and I would prefer to be at home and watch a movie. But I’m willing to «go out/hang out» with that person sometimes and do something fun without thinking I’m dating someone. No expectation.
Am I a single woman ? Yes I AMMM !!! 😂
This woman dated me for 5 months and then she later told me she didn’t feel the spark! What a waste of my time and I felt shittier… Not only that, but this woman is 34. She often told me her last 2 relationships never ended right and even her father was a super strict person. Online dating is the worst.