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I got stuck because I really, truly loved her. I was loyal to a fault. I believed in my marriage vows. Silly me.
It is so sad!!!!
Same, 19 years wasted.
You may be trauma bonded. Still believing in the false character they displayed. Seeking their validation, trying to prove a point to them, trying to get them to understand. They want your emotional investment, because they know it keeps you tied to them. Take away your emotions, stop trying to prove anything and instead focus on what you need to do to move forward
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I haven’t listened to the whole video here of Dr Ramani (this one) and I have it on pause, and I will listen to the rest of it but I just wanted to say this now: that the good stuff that people are missing in their narcissistic relationship is like saying maybe things will be better in the future, and THAT’S like Einstein’s definition of insanity. Doing the same thing over and over again and waiting for it to be better. Einstein may have said that (actually) but I don’t know. Back to the video.
It was hard to leave when I kept hoping the person who they were during the lovebombing phase would come back someday.
Sad !!!!
Until you realize they weren’t ever?
I have a friend going through this she’s tired of him but he’s so kind , he is helpful – he’s full of it an no doubt is a narcissist. She has more money than god. I’m not saying anything to her. He unmasked himself in front of me because I saw through him. But I didn’t react and played up to him. So he’s not sure his cover has been blown. This will be her second narcissist!! She’s a wonderful person of course!
Oh my gosh!!! The timing of this video!!! ❤❤❤ Thank you Dr. Ramani.
Trauma bond is the hardest thing in this universe, I think. Even though I see everything as clear as the blue sky, still can’t break it. It’s the toughest in my life till now. Don’t know how much suffer need to go through stilo.
“Those are not good things, they are just powerful counterweights.”- Dr. Ramani
What I would like to discuss, articulate, pinpoint, and define with precision is that what makes narcissists truly “bad” is that there really is no other reason for their bad behavior, if there was, like addiction or traumatic brain injury then that’s not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about a fully formed, capable, strong, healthy, fully functioning, smart, capable by all measure’s human, breaking the unspoken egalitarian social contract by taking more for themselves fully knowing better. Choosing to ignore empathy and choosing to be greedy time and time again. I don’t think enough is said about the true behavior and mental state of a narcissist. It really is “bad” because it is selfish, and that is why the general population habitually frowns upon using the word narcissism. Because they know it points directly to a greedy sole and there is no excuse other than the sole choosing to be selfish and greedy and ignoring empathy…. Can we please nail this down? This is the heart of narcissism, or at least for me it is. It is a human who could choose egalitarianism and empathy choosing greed and selfishness entirely with nothing but their own free will and agency… Thx…!
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Thanks to your videos and what I’ve learned, I recently cut ties with a narc pastor. His flying monkeys came out of the woodwork, but I blocked them as well and moved on.
They’re still hoovering, but I’m not budging.
We are stuck because society is stuck in old false narratives of what is good.
We are stuck because religions are stuck on old false narratives of what is good.
We are stuck because the laws and justice are stuck in old false narratives of what is good.
We are stuck because even scientists are stuck in old false narratives of what is good.
No good things with these peaple…., only control and toxicity.
We like to believe in fairy tales. That the love-bombing phase was real.
I’m haunted by all the times I didn’t call out her lies and defend myself.
Wow, this is so uplifting it’s truly important to stay inspired. I feel such a deep sense of emptiness. It’s over 4 months now since my lover left me Every day feels like an eternity without him. My mind is overwhelmed with memories of our time together. The thought that I’ll never experience the little things with him again is so painful. I’ve texted him so many times, pouring out how much I miss and want him back, but he hasn’t replied. All I can do now is hold onto the memories
It’s okay to grieve my dear. It’s clear that you’re not just missing your partner but also the part of yourself that you shared with him. Reaching out to him like that shows how much love you still have for him. Heartbreak is painful, but don’t lose hope. I understand how you feel. My own heartbreak was devastating, sudden and brutal. He left me with no concreate excuse. In my desperation for solace and guidance, I turned to a spiritual counselor recommended by a friend who helped me to reconcile with my partner
That sounds interesting! What exactly does the spiritual counselor do and can you refer one for me pls?
His name is Father Osoba Salama and he’s an amazing spiritual counselor who specializes in helping people to reconcile with their ex
Thank u so much🙏 indeed sharing problems bring solution and I curiously make a research online with the name and found his website, Thanks
I always knew from the beggining that there was always something not quite right about the narc. It was only years & years later that I found out about narcissism, and everything now makes perfect sense. The only thing that’s keeping me stuck/trapped in this hellish relationship is the family and life have built with the narc.
Still stuck on my ex-narc 6 years after the break-up because I want to see her fail in her subsequent relationships – hung up on wanting karmic justice
@SY-wi5fb i can relate…3 years for me..
This was very helpful to hear and create more understanding. Thank you.
Well he kept showing me how much he did not care about me and I kept not believing him , that’s the madness of it all. Well out of it now.
I did the same thing,that’s what made me continually go BK after 16 yrs,I had a major health issue to deal with & when I realized he just don’t give a damn,I had to finally lv it behind,moved out,no job,no car ( he took the car he bought 4 me ) went no contact,it’s been 14 months,I’m still healing & trying to get BK to where I was before I entered narcissist nightmare
@@yolondagoode9656 – Yes you have to wake up to the painful truth, its such a mind f*** when you are going through it , absolutely mad . One day you will realise your worth, then you look back at it all and think “Really WTF planet was I on ?” . I can actually laugh at it all now, its just a chapter in my life. Stay strong x
Your guidance is extremely helpful and sincerely appreciated.
Being called “damaged goods” is what scares victims into staying in toxic relationships and putting up with abuse followed by lack of emotional and financial support from other sources. Especially if you live miles away or in a different country from your network. Also, we’re told to see the good in people rather than the truth in them.