The dark love bomb
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Narcissists will often lovebomb you, only to bait you in, with the intention of punishing you once they’ve gotten you emotionally invested.
Spot on
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They ALWAYS use grooming as a manifestation tactic! It’s integral to the abuse! Just because it feels great at first doesn’t mean it’s not meant to control you! Think transactional behavior, then think coercive control plz
Completely agree.
Not often…always i d say😂😅
All of us are vulnerable to the love acting. Then we’re stunned when they throw us under the bus. Rude awakening.
Thank you, I needed a name for this.
I’ve had this happen to me!
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@amandaliverpool3374 What I witnessed after the death of an in law was something that never settled well and made me question things. I was puzzled enough to question and I was quickly shushed.
If it hadn’t been alluded too and joked about I might have never given it a thought.
Really appreciate how much you upload, Dr. Ramani. I live at home with a parent who is a narcissist, and I’m currently struggling with anxiety that causes me chronic inflammatory pain because of it. Need these daily reminders to both keep myself safe and unbothered so that I can find the strength within to move on.
Same. Because she doesnt practice anymore this is the closest thing to therapy we can get.
@@NintenJon64 I grow native passionflower for that. On several occasions I didn’t even take the time to make tea. I just went out, and chewed up a leaf. Consult a doctor, of course.
The healer that takes you and breaks you. You think you are equally good for each other. Their story has itself own hidden secrets and the truths they tell are there to later say you knew about it. You think they are really sharing, they are but not what they really think.
“Love bombing is a limited release with a short run” truer words have not been spoken
I am believing the dark love bombing can be continues being the narc heart is black.
My narc ex used to dark love bomb me by out of nowhere mentioning how everyone underestimated me because I am autistic. It always felt really mean when it came out, somehow. Now I know why.
Much love to everyone struggling… things suck.
The worst LIE someone can tell you is, “I LOVE YOU”!
I’m done with relationships so will never fall for the love bomb again. I’ve been single for 7 years and am concentrating on living my life stress free. It was strange at first but I love my single life. The peace!
@catherinewholey3630 Wait till your 60 and alone. It’s a different kind of sobering to be sure.
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@@tredd901966 & alone but free of abuse
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The hungrier and insecure you are about yourself is what makes you more vulnerable to the lies from these demons.
Everyone is vulnerable to this.
Thank you! This one is so great for describing the contrast between dark lovebombing and validation. That difference is so hard to spot after a lifetime of invalidation. We possibly don’t know “normal.”
Normal isn’t familiar but dysfunction is common
You are just phenomenal to identify these aspect of dark love bombing, it is truly challenge to identify this , these are individuals who empathise but want you to stuck on the loop of anger/ frustration/ resentment/ grudge as they so cleverly trigger their victim and then use these reactions to paint a whole narrative of destroying any progress the person is attempting to make to heal or come to realisation of the extent of gaslighting and isolation that one was put in. They want you to be stuck on that hamster wheel of pain n hurt
Yes it keeps you off balance and easier to manipulate
I’ve watched this manipulative tactic employed quite a bit but never thought of it in this light but it makes perfect sense
My father once railed on when I referred to someone as a friend. He railed that I did not have friends, only acquaintaces. I responded that I would decide. That seemed to enrage him, and he said that a friend is willing to die for you.
Me: I don’t have that requirement for friendship.
I didn’t know about grievance collectors or narcissism back then. I had done enough healing to let a bit of light in. I realized in time how I was primed to connect with chronically angry, jealous, or wronged people. I mistook intensity for understanding and positive connection.
Like a magician who a technique called misdirection giving you what you think you need, but running 5 different deceptions & future scenarios of games you have not see yet.
😮 Thank you 😊 for saying “we ALL are vulnerable to Love Bombing”, I thought of myself as an intelligent wise woman, ohh no no 😢
The dark love bomber may also store away your hurts and injustices done to you only to weaponize them against you at a later date.
The worse part is they think it’s just some game…..not your personal life . They see others as broken and undesirable because if circumstances beyond their control..😅😅i gave up all just to try to push through it’s not going to make any difference to the narc. Thru sleep only too well at night