The emotional PARADOX of loving a narcissist
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November 1-3, 2024
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Sadly your right. Because empathy can be a bad habit with a narc.
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Thanks for sharing. Everyone.
Thank you Dr. R❤
All of these are what I am going through and thank you for making me aware that I am ok with my own feelings.
An empathetic heart is our Achille’s heel.
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It took me a while to understand how i need to have empathy for myself. I wasnt able to respect my own experiences, i would go blind to it and numb eventually. Once i woke up from this state and i was forced to feel empathy for myself – it was like a door you just cant close again
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That really hit home, thank you for this information today
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I love you, Dr. Ramani. Thank you for always making sense what’s in my head
One thing I’ve noticed is how much I make up in my own head when I am in narcissistic friendships. I give these people feelings they don’t have.
I am bipolar and empathic, but because am Bipolar II and my ups/so called more manic episodes were not very long and were more often characterized by irritability and some ovespending until last ones where we could finally get correct diagnosis of Bipolar II, I think this fantasizing was part of my attempt to understand the narcissists I ran into . These sorts of friends disappeared quickly because I realized fast they were not what they presented themselves to be. And were not many of them. But was an interesting dynamic going on because of my own mental illness.
After the abuse started & as it continued, I stopped loving him. It’s been 29 years of mental & emotional abuse. I have NO love for him. I feel nothing for him. He is NOTHING to me… nothing at all.
First 2 years were wonderful! Then we married. 28 years of misery and confusion; emotional and psychological abuse. I thought I was marrying a middle-aged man. HE WAS/IS A TEENAGER WITH A PERSONALITY DISORDER. Today, there is only peace and satisfaction that i’m out of that environment. He was never worth 30 years of my life.
I did 30 kept trying and trying just one day he would love me but I think it was a world that I wanted and in the end it wasn’t him at all the damage that is left is really hard to sort out hugz good luck with all in you future
Indifference is the pinnacle of success
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I’m really considering sending this to my father as he’s finally leaving his narcissist partner but I fear he’s still not at the stage to realize she’s a narcissist and might not listen to it. But everything described is SO ACCURATE to both my experience with her and his.
Timely video. I met my narcissistic partner again. Anger mixes with empathy. That’s so true.
I feel like I’ve been given permission to stop beating myself up for having enjoyed the excitement, attraction, intelligence, and shared interests that drew me to the narcissist(s). Your last segment made me realize how much shame I’ve been carrying for having allowed these pleasures to reel me in in such a captivating manner. I can see the glimmers of self-forgiveness. Thank you.
Hello Dr. Ramani, I’m grateful for the opportunity to listen to this video. You brilliantly expressed what I needed to understand. Once again thank you for your support. ❤️
The story of life with a narcissist is truly one of unrequited love, which keeps us trauma bonded.
I am Dutch and German is the language of our neigbouring country. As I understand it, Schadenfreude is a feeling within, that you’re not supposed to show openly. It is not kind to feel happy with someone else’s misery, but yet you are. You can share that feeling gigling discretely with a friend .
But then spoken in dismissive tone, talking about behaviour of others, it judges them as horrible. How dare they make fun of these poor suffering people.
We have our own word for it : ‘leedvermaak;’ , which translates as ‘misery amusement’.
I finally realized how much my mother hated her life. She wanted more. I am angry that she took it out on me but feel sorry for her because she lived a life feeling that way.