The emotional price of loving a narcissist
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Thank you Dr. R. You’re the best.
Thank you Dr Romani 🩵🙌
Dr Ramani..your videos have helped me so much over the years.I do not have a single narcissist in my life now and haven’t for a very long time. It’s heaven.
Me too 😊 the only thing is I am alone now 😂 but feels good anyway 🎉
Sounds like you’re living the life! I’m in the process but can at least spot them now. Have a covert one in my life now, but they’re being kept at arms length. Hard boundaries do wonders.
@BWRDebates Isn’t it so helpful to be able to see them coming?? Boy does that save time and aggravation!
It causes you anxiety, confusion and makes you question if something’s wrong with you. It makes you feel unloveable. When really, it’s just a projection of how they feel about themselves. They feel unloveable and that is why they cannot love you.
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Would you care what a drugged up schizophrenic hobo screaming in the wee hours of the night thinks about you? Lol then why would ppl care what these narcissists think…cause that’s exactly what they are, fractured ppl. Both my parents are narcs, and I never took them seriously even when I was a little kid, I practically raised my own parents. Ppl need to treat them exactly what they are, phantoms 😊
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In a narcissistic home, you don’t just get raised — you get downloaded.
Your parent pours their ‘perfect self’ into you and their shame onto you.
You grow up shining with their fantasy and drowning in their pain, never learning who you actually are.
That’s how insecure attachment and trauma bonding are born — you mistake conditional love for safety.
Then, in adulthood, the narcissistic partner simply picks up where your parent left off, walking straight through the old wounds that taught you love means losing yourself.
Healing begins when we realize we were never unworthy— just overburdened with someone else’s reflection.❤️🔥❤❤🙌🏾 ❤❤❤️🔥
I need to check in with your videos regularly. ❤
Lots of love and prayers ❤
Everyone..have a wonderful day..blessings and much love to you all❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
It is typical, causing a load of stress with their words and actions and then asking why you are stressed and telling everybody else you are angry and volatile.
“Narcissistic relationships are where healthy love goes to die.” Priceless!
Love this.
Hidden Predators with Glossy , flashy, attractive exteriors. What a Land mine.
I was constantly told I was angry and volatile, the same narrative was repeated to my son, I struggled to defend myself because I knew the only trigger of my anger was my ex. I stopped trying to defend myself and now allow my son to recognise I am neither angry or volatile when his father is not around. Thank you so much Dr Ramani!
My Rage exploded after YEARS of hidden sadistic cat and mouse behavior on his part, Lies, denials, gaslighting, triangulating, word salad. I was Fed Up, OverWhelmed, beyond confused.
Me, too. Trying to find peace amidst the exhaustion. Making progress. Best wishes to you
Doc, thank you soooo SO MUCH for always validating our experiences with these people!! It can be quite damaging and definitely difficult navigating narcissist abuse ,so you need to know just how much your insight is needed and appreciated 🙏🏿💞🫂
Not being believed by those around you is especially crazymaking
The emotional price without people realizing it directly impacts one’s health . You’ll spend so much time trying to save the relationship or be in a state of confusion that one will end up neglecting their health and make poor diet choices that will come back to haunt them.
It causes huge PTSD, depression, anxiety.. if you already had anxiety but it was never shown it will be blown to huge proportion, it also triggers variety of auto immune issues and life long health problems.
MAN, I did 40 years of this nonsense. 20 with my mother and 20 with my ex. The little friends and co-workers that followed showed me that I needed to see what this was that was so frustrating and thanks to you Dr Ramani I got a “solution” for this sickness. SILENCE is the best medicine and my life is clear, for the moment, of narcissistic abuse. I’ve had 7 in 66 years of my life. But each time I see it faster and faster and my mouth shuts quicker and quicker. I have things to do, projects, artwork, photography. I don’t need these awful folks. I don’t need their control. I don’t need their validation. Thank GOD for the internet…. I have a solution today!
i’m so grateful for your videos. they are all that keeps me holding on while i try to escape my own narcissistic abuser. i don’t have access to proper mental health services, and the times i’ve had a therapist i’ve been explicitely told they don’t deal with this type of abuse, or csa, which are the two things i need therapy for. i have to find resources like yours online so i can try to hold onto my sanity and hope. thank you for validating me.
My mother always told me I had all this rage and anger towards her. Now it makes sense. I was angry at the narcissistic abuse and emotional manipulation, gaslighting, betrayal, and intermittent reinforcement. But I had to survive because I was dependent and it created a codependency. What a mess and finally breaking free I feel so much better. I’m around people who love me for who I really am.