The emotional STRATEGY behind narcissistic MANIPULATION
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They manipulate your emotions in all sorts of ways from the very beginning. Initially it’s to seduce you and to get you to fall for this facade. And then once you begin to catch on, it’s to make you question yourself. When they can’t make you question yourself, they make everyone else question you. But what they won’t ever do, is look at themselves.
Brilliantly expressed!
This pretty well sums it up. So glad these videos are here to help people protect themselves from these predators.
This is so true Chris, it took me years to try to even start to begin to self reflect! I would have a really difficult time trying to do a video like this on my channel lol
You’re the best, Dr. Ramami ❤ thankful for you !
I became an entirely different person trying to please these unpleasable people. We’re only happy when we get back our authentic self.
I did EXACTLY WHAT YOU SAID. I TRIED BEING ACCOMODATING. I WAS NEVER THAT DUMB WHEN I WAS YOUNGER. I GOT DUMBER AS I GOT OLDER.
Yeah I understand that all to well and it’s maddening,47 years and still in it😩sometimes I think I’m going insane😢
@@ruthslater6364i know exactly what you mean. Until my early/mid-twenties i had clear boundaries and would never have endured all that crap but man…after years and years of that torture your whole identity starts cracking and overwritten by those evil people until you become a shell of a person who has no energy to fight back…i hope you are doing better. Do you mind sharing with us what stage of recovery you are at right now? Are you still making sense of everything that has happened?
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Elementary Dr Ramani! That’s when I quit sharing deep secrets. Ty to the therapist in our world. I spill it out!! Yep they set u up. The issue is they add lies to the story or don’t give the full story or just out and out lie about the whole thing. Ty
Whenever someone attempts to talk me into doing something I’m not comfortable doing, I’ll kindly decline. If they try to guilt me or label me for saying no, I just shrug and say, “you’re entitled to your flawed opinion of me.” 🤷🏼♀️
I really like that one! 😁
30:26 My mother future faked us as kids. As an adult I don’t say anything to anyone about what I’m doing until it’s done.
An act of kindness or doing something for someone else without looking for something in return.
That feeling of being safe in a persons presence.
A feeling of being respected.
Just the urge to give someone a big hug and hold them.
These things I craved but were never there!
I never heard those words,
” I love you”.
I was in an emotional desert and I was dying of thirst!
I heard the words “I love you.” They were always transactional. ❤
There will soon come a time when anyone dealing with someone like this will become indifferent. I’m almost there in my own divorce and the number one recommendation I have for anyone dealing with someone like this is trust your voice and fortify your boundaries. Make your boundaries Fort f’ing Knox
The most infuriating narcissistic comment is “I’ll take care of it” what this actually means is I will do nothing about this especially because you want it!
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@ or change it, go around or over it , discover that the results are better less the narcissistic chaos 🤔🤗🫢
My ex husband used to want me to go out in public half naked to fit in with his “bike culture”….he liked me to act a certain way, which stroked his ego about being with a “hot chick”…I would obviously draw looks and comments from men, which he then couldn’t deal with and then turned it back around on me….I never flirted with these people and kept to myself… yet he would accuse me of doing this to draw attention to myself and trying to pick up men. It got to the point to.where when we would go out I would only stare at the floor to which he would start a fight because I was no long “Fun”….as we all know with a narcissist….YOU CAN’T WIN
Did you every tell him you were uncomfortable hanging out of your clothes and that you didn’t like the stares and comments from other men? My guess it would cause a fight, but just wondered.
Love is a verb.
Saying ‘love’ is a manipulation if not consistently backup by action.
Well done for making me feel better about my family narcissistic personality disorder abuse i face every single day. I call it fool’s gold games my dad did always even now
Very often people mistake trauma bond for love because they don’t understand what love is and what you are explaining here is what love actually looks like
Narcissists love to hear the sound of their own voice. After seeing through their mask, any b.s./nonsense spewing out of their mouth is just ‘white noise’. Like a humming light fixture that’s a constant annoyance that doesn’t stop. Options… a.) put up with it… b) try and fix it yourself (good luck)….c) remove it altogether and enjoy the peace and quiet again.
Thank you for making this Life Saving Information Free to those of us who are Unable to afford 175.00 an hour for deep introspective Therapy Sessions
Narcissists slyly use the word ” Love” to Draw us In to their Web, then Find Out what is Most Important to us, which they Then deliberately use as Weapons against us ! Thank God for Dr. Ramani and her remarkable ability to articulate the complex, confusing matrix of how narcissists work
The “I forgot” gaslighting ended it for me. My response was “I’m not responsible for your bad memory. If you don’t remember or write it down it’s not my job to keep reminding you” sometimes he remembered.
Love is just a word. Show me with actions
What an excellent description of the narcissist’s “acute observation” like they’re casing the joint. Spot on, Dr Ramani. That’s exactly what they’re doing, because they are preparing to come bleed it (us!) dry, and take everything of value they can, and use it for their own means.