The impact of a narcissistic relationship on YOUR personality
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November 1-3, 2024
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Narcissists will mould your personality into what serves them. They will make your life revolve around them. As though you have to make everything perfect for them, while neglecting and abandoning yourself.
Couldn’t of worded it better spot on X
@NarcSurvivor – Wouldn’t you say they are showing you something with their bad behaviour? Showing you blind spots within yourself? Certainly they don’t need to be so nasty about it. They cut right into and can almost steal your soul. Heinous types!
100%. My mother wanted a child of a particular sex she got that first try so that was that. An only child that she could work on turning into a mini version of herself. My father is a raging nut but she married him imo as he had a job and she could get away from her father. Then a child she could dress how she wanted, have do activities she said. Even now she is 80 she remembers my childhood through her eyes, down to what birthday cake she liked, the shoes she bought, the clothes she got me (and that I was ungrateful), that my father took me places (and she was jealous). There is no connection to me and it’s been very painful to realise.
@Seanus32 I don’t think they show you your blind spots. They create them by ridiculing your innate qualities, like extroversion that they feel threatened by, or have no use for in their selfish mind. If they were truly trying to help you to see your blind spots, they’d actively support both qualities to help you develop fully. They are parasitic and only care about their needs and they use shame to mould you into a puppet that only serves them.
I recently broke up with my malignant narcissist boyfriend, and although it’s been two weeks, I’m still struggling significantly.
When I try to go out in public, I often feel on the verge of a panic attack or experience waves of nausea. I’ve been feeling restless, both physically and mentally. Seeing him post on social media as if nothing happened, while also following new women he never followed during our relationship, adds to my pain. I can’t help but suspect he’s pursuing these women as new sources of “supply,” knowing he’ll eventually hurt them as he did me—and probably many others to come.
It hurts to know that this cruel man has stolen my sense of innocence and the carefree spirit I once had, at least for the foreseeable future.
I’m much more guarded and cynical than before all of this. Maybe that’s a good thing.
Me too
Some people give you energy and narcissists steal your energy. When a flower doesn’t bloom you fix the environment where it grows, not the flower.
Sooo true. I’m so thankful for Dr. Ramani, and all the people on this forum. It gives the confidence knowing that one person is not alone in this journey.
Indeed.it was reading the road less travelled and the follow up book, when that dawned on me. My mother twisted me into a pretzel to fit what she wanted. Never my supporter always my antagonist. Then they wonder why you finally dislike them. They don’t want you to fly.
And they will accuse you of sucking their energy just for existing.
Yes, I can say my vulnerable narc husband of 27 years stole part of my extraversion. I’ve had to dim my own light for a long time so he could shine more brightly. But I’m back now, completed my PhD last year, and I’ve started my own YouTube channel to express my feelings and completely BE myself again (and his voice in my head has become more and more muffled and faint) 🙏🏼🥰❤️🎉🎉
What is your YouTube website? Please, share w/us🎉❤
<3 I plan on going back to school to finish my teaching degree. Thank you for sharing. <3
@@totious22 good for you!! I’m here to cheer you on!! Do what’s in your heart – you got this!! 🎉❤️🤗
Good for you beautiful!
I’m proud of you and will check out your YouTube channel. Bravo!❤
When he left me I was disoriented for a couple of months but one of the weirdest things was that I started feeling like myself again. I noticed becoming more and more disconnected with myself during the relationship and losing parts of my personality but I didn’t attribute it to him as I often try to find reasons in myself for things going wrong. So I thought it’s a me problem, maybe it’s the depression or stress etc. But when he was gone I noticed my selfworth improving and I felt more like a whole person again. I once even told him that I am feeling worse and worse about myself since being with him, if he can give me more attention and stop criticizing me but he said that’s too much to ask for. I might start thinking that I am ok the way I am and stop trying to improve.
Narcissistic abuse has done nothing but made me more introverted than I was before ever getting in. I adore isolation as much as possible and have a really hard time trusting people now, more than ever really.
Me too.
same…
ABSOLUTELY!!!!!!
Yes!
Okay. I’m not alone. 😢
One thing that this relationship changed about me is that I stopped trying so much. I am listening more to myself and what I need now that I recovered and I don’t try to fit in and please my partner as much. Sometimes I think it’s unfair that my partner now receives a less attentive person than the narcissist got but even if I wanted I can’t bring myself to put in so much effort ever again after receiving hell in return the last time. I also care less now about being left. If he wants to leave, whatever. It may sound mean but I learned that you cannot make people stay by bending over backwards, they might not even notice all the things you did for them. I will not be exploited like that again.
So true, exactly how i feel, exactly how i have become ❤️ feels skmewhat disillusioned but feels better and feels more me
Started listening to you a few years ago. Learning, understanding, and healing. I am immensely grateful for the education and support you provide. Thank you and Bless you!
Appreciate the timing. I went to an early Halloween party without my husband. I’m Shocked how happy I looked in the pictures, without him.
Hi Rosalind, how’s your day going with you?
@@Paulohlsson7 have a good day yourself
@@rosalindr4975 it’s nice to hear from you, how are you spending your spare time?
@@rosalindr4975 it’s nice to hear from you, how are you spending your spare time?
Narc Mom starts shaping you from day one … she steals the person you could have been.
Truth
After my ex narc i am staying singel for the rest of my life. Never ever again. But i’m happy singel 🙌
I had a very short marriage with a narcissist. Never married again. Financially I should had but just couldn’t.
I am never dating again everrrrr
@@shaniecegullison we’ll be financially independent! I was raised by a narc and was supposed to inherit a house money. But we got into a fight actually he did. He had lost control over me. I’m dyslexia, CPTSD, and I think it’s OCD… thanks dad he tried to annihilate me before he passed!
This video makes me think Dr. Ramani might be psychic. She pretty much described my entire life & what I am experiencing now that I’ve gotten out of 2 of my main narcissistic relationships (they both passed away). I was always viewed as an extroverted person, but after years of abuse, I now feel like an injured animal that has crawled away on its own to lick its wounds.
Both of my parents were narcissistically abusive. I’d argue that my true personality didn’t have a chance to develop until I left home and went no contact. Best decision ever. I flourished into the sometimes extrovert, with a bit of artsy introversion thrown in, that I am today. It was unbelievably challenging to come up in the world without a family who had my back, but at least I left the family that knocked me down.
Good for you, much better to be alone than be with those evil abusers.
❤Thank you for all your knowledge and support and Wisdom ❤YOUR AWESOME 👏 GOD BLESS YOU 🙏🦋🫶🥰💕💕💕
No Contact is the best way to understand what Dr. Ramani’s is saying.
this video literally came in the perfect moment in my life, love you
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Being alone has helped me focus on reclaiming my health and peace. Now, that’s the standard if someone wants to connect-must be a help, not a hindrance to my healing. And though it sounds severe or superficial-it’s supported by being kind, compassionate, and open-to a point-that’s where those boundaries show me what the other person’s pattern is. Even at that level, it feels more “expensive” to have a friend while I am paying back my “Health debt” to myself (all the times I gave other’s care when I needed to focus on myself”. I am always grateful for the wisdoms shared here.
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Thank you, Dr. Ramani, for your videos. I listen to several each day to help me heal and to educate myself on narcissistic abuse, so I never fall victim to it again.
I recently broke up with my malignant narcissist boyfriend, and although it’s been two weeks, I’m still struggling significantly.
When I try to go out in public, I often feel on the verge of a panic attack or experience waves of nausea. I’ve been feeling restless, both physically and mentally. Seeing him post on social media as if nothing happened, while also following new women he never followed during our relationship, adds to my pain. I can’t help but suspect he’s pursuing these women as new sources of “supply,” knowing he’ll eventually hurt them as he did me—and probably many others to come.
It hurts to know that this cruel man has stolen my sense of innocence and the carefree spirit I once had, at least for the foreseeable future.
Thanks for watching!
My text line is divided into 3 sections;
Plus…1(656), then 217, then 5304.
I need to clarify a few things and share some important details with you. I’ll be expecting your WA text.👍🏻👍🏻❤️
I used to be one of the friendliest, most curious people around, now I Keep to myself. I am hypervigilant about Protecting my space. It’s how I Protect my sanity !