The Narcissist Doesn’t Miss You—Here’s What They Miss
When a narcissist says “I miss you,” it rarely means what you think it does. The words may feel tender, but the motivation behind them can be far more complicated. This video breaks down why distance can trigger unexpected reactions in narcissistic people—and why their sudden softness often leaves you confused.
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What i miss about the narcissist:nothing lol
I’m out of the medication that made me like them 😅😂
You might not know what you want….but you 💯 know what you don’t want!
@cook1emonstwhich is them!! You definitely don’t want them back!!
Dr. Ramani must be spying on me at this point
Yes on me too 😅❤
@margaretsavdie2378Ain’t that the truth. I was sent the ” I miss you not two days ago “
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Right 😂
Perfect timing! I just got one of those messages 😂
Me too. Just got an email saying “Did you get my message yesterday?” after a long no contact period.
Mine came a week ago. Apparently they needed me to be emotionally available for them over the holidays. They did not appreciate my boundary setting.
Me too, Christmas Eve
On contrast this was the first Christmas my mom finally got the message and didn’t do it.
@marysisak2359 run 🏃💨
Your new glasses look fabulous
very tasteful
Absolutely fabulous 💅🏻
They seek attention not connection. Your absence disrupts their validation supply and they want it restored.
Trying to farm subs here for your AI slop channel?
You wouldn’t be the first, nor the last.
Totally true…..
This is the MOST truest statement in the narcissistic game – ever
All Narcissists have a deep dark secret that they do not want us to ever know about because their ways are strategic. When a narcissist says that miss you they really miss themselves.
They are bullies, so to bully one, they have to TRAP YOU (lock you in), the ultimate prize. This is where those that are unconfident with self doubt becomes THE VULNERABLE VICTOMS.
Narcissists use the word I miss you as a buzz word to avoid accountability and responsibility.
I think narcissists will try to Hoover you especially around the holiday season. They are predatorial opportunists.
This is definitely their pattern. I got a text a week before Christmas. My new favorite text is “New phone. Who is this?”. Such a blow to the ego.
They miss your love, kindness, loyalty, empathy, tolerance, forgiveness… Otherwise they don’t see you other than an object and they usually miss you when they are sick or their plan with the new supply failed.
Yes, or nearing the end of life and using inheritance and other things to feign love and connection.
Not only the glasses but your hair, your outfit, you look glamorous ❤
I love her new background! ❤
I agree she is looking attractive and younger. Hubba hubba jk. 😊
Yes I was thinking this too!
OMG! I was also thinking how great you look with glasses. Very classy. You’re always beautiful.
I the color choices are very smooth, fluiditic and calming. Smart choice for it allows for better reception to the oration.
They miss supply and control
+ having a punching bag
“Someone to throw their tantrums with” lol
I think they see my confidence, clarity & happiness without them and want to ruin it
Best thing one can do is just ignore their half-assed attempts to hoover you back. Like Dr. Ramani said, they don’t actually miss you. They miss what you provided to them.
“I miss you” … Nah, you miss having someone who stuck around and put up with your BS, tantrums, sense of entitlement, & condescension – and still gave you attention & treated you better than you deserved.
This. Yesssss
“Their missing is not about you its about them” awsome line dr ramani !!! they are missing the routine and you regulating their life
“They are always the center of their story”. No truer words have never been spoken.
“I miss you” for the narcissist means they miss controlling you.
Or,” I am concerned” when they know or are creating the issues in hopes you run to them. Want respect but don’t give any.
Looking back, I’ve realized that when some people said “I miss you,” what they really meant was, “I MISS WHAT YOU CAN DO FOR ME.”
I’m at the stage now where “I miss you” makes me laugh and then vomit in my mouth a little bit. This is spot on 👍
I gave myself an early Christmas present this year, I have finally only recently detached from a 39-year marriage, which was physically and emotionally abusive i was neglected, unloved, and blamed and truma bonded and everything esle. I only got here by listening to life-saving knowledge all about narcissism, such as listening on here mostly. 🙏 That gave me the strength to detach. The new year will bring a lot of uncertainty. it’s something i need help for and, in time, a new me, the one I completely lost .😢 but I know I have made the right choice for myself and my children. 🙏
“Missing you is really all about them” – So well said. Exactly this. Like always, it doesn’t even matter that we exist – except for their entertainment.