The narcissist’s favorite trick to manipulate your emotions and trust
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I broke it off 3 months ago. He went from wanting to be my kids’ step dad, begging to stay, going to therapy, saying he loved me and there was no one else he imagined himself with… to stealing our things under our noses… even gifts he bought the kids. Evil. It’s a blessing he showed his true colors, he won’t be back.
Narcissist people usually steal from others. Fact.
Wowwww 👏 👏 SO GLAD YOU DIDNT FORGIVE AND FORGET! Who knows what else he would have stolen from the kids, manipulated their minds too, ugh sickening to think about. Way to be the good example 👏
I had a past partner just like the one you described here and he had a terrible gambling problem. He would steal our things and pawn them so he could gamble. At first he seemed nice until he started to ignore me and stay out late gambling. I finally got him out of my life. I wish you a great healing and I’m glad you cut that person out of your life.
After Being Horribly Abused Emotionally The Narcissist Would Manipulate Me By Withholding Affection Attention And Support Narcissist Abuse Is Brutal.
I know all too well😢
@ Absolutely I’m Sorry For What You Went Through
I agree, it’s horrible and I’m still here 😢
The worst thing of all is an eldetly somebody on the narcissistic spectrum who is expecting somebody on the narcissistic spectrum to take care of them. That is a potential disaster.
Yes! I was helping my brother get back on his feet after an injury. After a few months I determined he wanted me to be his personal care attendant VS doing the work to relearn/rehab himself. Despite his physical disability (I’m disabled too) I had to kick him out. Future taking at its best.
Going through this now 😢
They know they’re future faking. Saying whatever you wanna hear at the moment so you’ll go along with their BS.
They know they’re future faking. Saying whatever you wanna hear at the moment so you’ll go along with their BS.
Dr Ramani thankyou for all the teaching and guidance, it took me 19yrs to know that I was dealing with a narcissist, I thought I wasn’t doing things the right way. You opened my eyes. Today I let him be by maintaining my boundaries.
If I ever write my memoires, the chapter about my first wife will be titled “Chasing Carrots”. She was forever dangling these “carrots of future happiness” (as I came to call them) right in front of my face, with one lame excuse after another as to why we were always just a month or two away from a bright and happy future.
That’s a great title. I’d certainly read it 😊
Oh wow, that brings back memories! My ex-husband used to accuse me of dangling carrots in front of him and of being in a power struggle with him. I never understood how I was guilty of these things, because all I ever wanted was to spend time with him, yet had to compete with his “work” to get his attention. Now I realize after reading your “book” text that his accusations were projections of his own internal motivations. He promised for 17 years, until he divorced me, that once he “got over this next hump at work, he would have more time” to spend with me.
I’m aware of future faking. I usually ignore it. But Ty for breaking it down for me. My parents met in the 8th grade. Married at 18. Mom got sick at 72 . My narc dad did have the money for some outside help. I was there too. Mom passed and dad was screwing the next door neighbor within a month and took her on a cruise. He went through one more woman after her then found himself another sucker. We really want to believe narcissists have deep feelings for us. They don’t. They care for themself only!
Thank you for shining the spotlight of understanding onto these soul saving pearls of wisdom. You are saving people all over this planet.
They will say or do whatever they need to say or do to get you to do what they want you to do and then they deny that they’re responsible in anyway for what they promised.” I never said that!”
Why does it always seem like a competition with them when both of us are sick? I can be sick and then they get sick and for some reason it’s a competition- “I am more sick than you”
I have SLE so I am affected differently but they will always say “ you’re not sick! I am the one who has asthma”
You cannot visibly see when I am sick/ it’s internal. I have come to the point where I no longer mention my illness or flare-ups. It’s really difficult. Then they say they will take care of me if I got cancer- I DONT BELIEVE THAT AT ALL.
The opposite spectrum of the sick game is he knows he is sick. Everywhere he goes, within a certain amount of days people who were around him get sick. And I’m talking REALLY SICK!! I’m Trying to minimize and protect the children, but they refuse to take care of themselves, or even wash their hands. He even takes sips of your beverage when you weren’t looking. He tells everyone he has allergies. He never feels ill but he is literally patient zero every season where he works. A walking disgusting germ! Intentionally touching everything because he feels powerful that he can make a response in others, even if their health is affected.
The benefits of youtube is for ppl like me who can’t get out side therapy have no family or friends it’s Dr. Like You Dr. Ramani that Help ppl like. You are saving ppl. You are definitely doing God’s Work.
You are not alone. You are valuable and loved more than you know.
I believe they absolutely know! They calculate all aspects of their behavior in all their relationships. This is a trademark in their personality style.
When you tell them that a certain time frame is not realistic, they say you have no faith in them and are letting them down.
When that time frame passes, and the thing they promised isn’t done, they say they failed because YOU didn’t have enough faith in them.
I am so glad you mentioned that us older people, I’m 67, didn’t have any of this knowledge until right about now! That is so true, and I forget that, and think why did I not see this? Yes, I just didn’t know! Thank you so much, Dr. Ramani, I read your book by the way!
@@glenmorse9533 I spent my whole life, wondering what the heck was going on. I couldn’t understand my narcissistic family. I couldn’t understand my narcissistic husband. I couldn’t understand my narcissistic children. Dr. Ramani shines a light on all this dysfunction and helps me Finally makes sense of my life. I’m 76.
This sounds like my parents, siblings and my boyfriends. And some of my friends. Staying single was not what I wanted in my life but I feel better off without this type of relationship
Thank you for bringing clarity I to my brainfog again and again !!!!!! You are precious to me !!!!! ❤❤❤❤
One of your most well-put and eloquent videos. And that is saying something when you have already established the bar quite high! ❤
My ex was self reported for caregiver abuse. Nobody showed up. Nobody cared. I’ve had to leave and survive regardless of my disabilities and emotional trauma. I left and found a place that believes in caring for people as part of the culture. He stole everything from me. Leaving while disabled and still being alive and some places thriving has given me a lot of self confidence. My long term declining health plan is a long walk off a short pier. I left and had some quality time. I’m going to be grateful for the last years of peace and quiet. I don’t want to suffer with my health old age decline and more suffering. I did that so I’ll be grateful and say goodbye
You hit nail on the head at care giving!
My mom did everything for my dad. He ran her into the ground with his complaining and insults. Everything is about him. Now she’s bed ridden and he does nothing for her. This is a nightmare.
@benjaminhuegel2369 that’s what always scared me but I know it would happen
Dr. Ramani thank you for your work. ❤