The narcissist’s SNEAKY baiting tactics
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Narcissists always play the blame game because they feel insecure they want us to suffer.
It Does become a ‘weapon’ ! They start chastizing, critisizing, belittling, cutting you down, Blaming You for the whole ‘situation’ Some Way, Some How ! Negative Reaction. Stay Safe EveryOne ! Be Discerning ! Dr. Ramani THANK YOU ! You are Saving Lives !!!
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Narcissists never change because in the their eyes 👀 we are the problem
they are also gods perfect gift to humanity and do no wrong, therefore it is the world that needs to change not them.
Sad, but true.
Worst part is when they go to their flying monkeys, who then validate them and stick up for them! No words for how sick this is. Great informative video, Dr. R.
Narcissists feel anxiety and are able of cognitive empathy but choose not to feel the emotions of others. Narcissists always ignore the feelings of others.
This was my situation yesterday with an extremely difficult roomate . Exact same scenario.
Don’t engage don’t argue don’t personalize when dealing with narcissists
Yess, never APE with a narcissist 😊
I’ve done my share, and can now see that it made me look like a fool.
But I’m grateful for the hard lessons they (father, brother, twin sister) taught me. ❤
It’s not our job to clean up 🧼 other people’s problems it’s not our responsibility to vacuum their insecurities.
I just dont tell them anything and keep family at arms length. Giving them ammo to shoot you down with is pointless.
They’re into power. Not self-empowerment. ❤
They demand front row seats to the spectacle of your pain, like some roman emperor watching people die in the coliseum.
They are like the audience
But it’s the emperor with the new clothes … still naked and having enablers and flying monkeys around them.
It’s the Roman Coliseum. They’re there for action
You will never get useful mental support from a narcissist, no matter what it’s about! The best thing to do is to tell them as little as possible about yourself and your feelings!!! 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
%100 dont say anything
Or nothing at all. You’ll be better off talking to a random stranger at a homeless encampment, or your pet to get some emotional relief
”Nobody needs evidence for their feelings.” This beautiful line stood out for me. With intensive therapy, I am trying to let go of overexplaining. I’m learning that my voice matters and healthy people don’t hold my feelings against me.
No matter what you are concerned about everything is your fault , even from their mistakes you are responsible .. If they say sorry they ll say “i understand where you come from” and cycle continues.
Nothing changes .
Pay attention they are always the “audience” watching you listening critizing … you are a target.. but they arent beside you in life- they are the audience . So you play alone ..
Get out as soon as you can , save yourself. Im glad i left the stage long ago.
I was just told by my stepson’s mom that I need therapy because I’m blaming her kid for punching me in the face. It’s apparently not his fault because he wasn’t getting enough sleep at her house. I don’t know about you, but I’ve never punched people when I’m tired.🥴
Especially in the face.
Lol
No, that’s just nuts. She’s just playing mental games and needs to be ignored. The stepson might just have to be ignored, too. I don’t think you owe them any of your time. People like that will always be a problem to you.
I’m living with my narcissistic father and enabling/supplying mother currently at age 34. I have older siblings that could be helping with their aging process, and they’re happily absent. I am the scapegoat of the family, so it’s especially difficult to manage my dad. My mother is showing signs of dementia and so is my father. My mother’s is worse overall though. Getting my dad diagnosed with dementia will be one of the biggest challenges of my life. My mom won’t be exactly easy either, but she’s more receptive since she’s not a narcissist. Thank you for making these videos. I’m trying my best to disengage/gray rock with my father as much as possible, and I need the reminders.
❤ take it bit by bit. Try and find at least 1 person who has your interest at heart let them help you regain or maintain clarity on the situation. Your boundaries are going to be so important to you. I left it all to long and now my health and life is unrecognisable in a bad way. You deserve and are entitled to peace, rest and not running around after everyone else. Your entitled to “your life” not what others want or need you to be in “ their life”
Several years ago when my sister came into money, she decided to quit her job, give up her apartment and travel around periodically staying with “friends” and relatives. All this without asking anyone if she could stay with them (including me). As the scapegoat in the family guess who she spent most of that time with. You got it, she spent the better part of 5 months living the life of Riley while I worked, cooked etc. You get the picture. When I finally had enough, I began to prod her on her plans. I finally said you cannot continue living here and if you run out of money I will not support you. That resulted in the first of 2 rages. Her first sentence was “I should have known I could not depend on family. I should have counted on the charity of strangers.”
The narcissistic person will weaponize it against you
Often it feels I was born to be the punching bag of narcissists
Sometimes I feel like I’m their karma..
This author is so right… that’s exactly as they behave… It’s frustrating… 😢
My wife is a narcissist, she left me 2 weeks ago with our baby daughter, and still continues to play mind games that she will come home soon. But yet living at her mums house while also trying to apply for a house of her own, telling me not to remove her off our house agreement just yet, keeping me in emotional limbo, saying I love you, being close in person, but yet keeping options open by looks of it, I feel defeated and destroyed that I’m a option or back up plan.