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Ughh what she describes as “exciting” is the thing I want to avoid in people…
I wish i could filter all the types of women out…
Yeah, that behavior is not exciting to me at all lol
There would be almost no women left. At least none that are remotely attractive.
@@CourtneyRyanat least she’s self aware that she gets excited from toxicity, and being a narcissistic’s target.
I thing most are unaware.
@@taradinhu001 Then, shewon’t be a good partner or mother.
Same.
I’d rather be a decent guy than cause chaos for a woman. The right women will actually get it and appreciate it.
Except increasingly people are not getting into relationships so factually many people are not getting involved with compatible partners.
@@jfkst1The biggest problem with modern relationships is modern wo men are not relationship material. They keep giving conflicting information and start fights. Very few wo men are emotionally mature enough for advice given in this video.
@@jfkst1 then I’d rather be single haha
When will she get it? Does it come near the end of the ticking clock after she got all her excitement at the amusement park for the last 15ish years? Otherwise, you’re just Mr. Friend zone with a wallet.
Unfortunately, that will likely be more difficult than you think. The biological selective pressure on western mens genes for the past 1000 years has leaned towards cooperative, gentle, egalitarian behavior by men towards women, whereas the selective pressure on women hasn’t changed since we lived in tents and they were carried off as war brides by victorious conquerors. the only thing that kept it in check was forced monogamy, and now that propensity for egalitarianism by western men towards women has given them social and political power which they use to reject men like this.
Playing games is more exciting to many people rather than just being normal. Because society teaches that normal and healthy is boring.
Let’s not blame society because people are toxic because you are mixing good people in that box
And this why we can’t have nice things
It’s also we live in such privilege that we seek out more excitement in other ways. Also where social justice movements originate from. Humans didn’t evolve to live in relatively peaceful easy lifestyles.
@@jfkst1you support slavery?
I have one that clearly is playing games. Ignore me when I reach out. At first I thought she wasn’t interested. Then after two years of no contact I reached out again no response. I then sent her I’m done if you aren’t interested then a graceful rejection is better than being ghosted. Then a few days later she sends a text. But nothing since last week. wtf why just why women insist on playing these games?
Appreciated to hear this pov and your response. They should know what to expect and she messaged it pretty well.
This speaks to a much greater societal issue in our normalization of instant gratification. If you need repetitive, quick dopamine hits in your relationship or just in your everyday life, you haven’t learned to delay gratification and actually embrace a bit of boredom. A “boring” relationship is just a healthy one most of the time.
This!
I have noticed that in other aspects of life.
People would rather go into debt than save for what they want.
Take this pill and it will solve all your problems mentality.
Growing up is realizing how many “adults” are mentally not that different from children. They’re not emotionally mature & self-aware.
@@frozunyogert6159 Its scary, my most recent serious relationship she hated that I wanted to invest vs go on expensive vacations all the time. Shes homeless at 32 now and I’ll never have to work again if I so choose.
Boring and stable are often synonyms. When you build a stable life it’s less likely to come crashing down!
I think she forgets or has never experienced a stable relationship that is actually NOT boring. You can have amazing dates, physical intimacy, the gift of exclusiveness, the highs, without the lows, going back to a neutral baseline of just sheer happiness. Life is rough already.
Yeah, I really don’t like the way the tiktok girl worded things. She makes it seem like excitement and stability are mutually exclusive. I get what she’s trying to say, but it’s an incredibly binary way of thinking and I think sends the wrong message. Some of the most fun, exciting people I know are also the most stable and reliable.
I haven’t dated someone who is toxic in the way she described, but I did briefly have a friend group made up of guys and girls like that. Not only were these people not the best, but I found out pretty quickly they weren’t all that interesting either. They struggled to have thought-provoking conversations and mostly talked about drinking, money, sex, and gossipy topics. Also, they didn’t seem interested in doing much other than going to bars, clubs, and other drinking centered activities. To each their own I guess, but half of the reason I stopped hanging with them was because I was bored. And of course, the other half was that I didn’t trust them.
Her idea of exciting is chaos. Everything you just mentioned wouldn’t be able to entertain her because stability is boring to her.
@@grants5383 If you’ve never dated a toxic woman, then you’ve never dated a woman.
My issue is that sometimes women act like they are doing good men a favor by giving them a chance. Like you can tell Courtney actually likes her husband and isn’t just settling for him.
I had a girl like this. She and I were texting then stopped texting after 6 months. We set up a date then asked to move it up an hour with the most bs excuses I told her yeah im done.
100%
That attitude is a red flag. No one is doing anyone a favor. Yall are both getting companionship, sex, support, etc.
Because many of them don’t find those men attractive.
@@Celi.S.00 Which is fine. I don’t want a woman who doesn’t genuinely drench over me.
Texting for 6 months and only 1 date? What a waste of time. That was entirely your fault. Either you date or you don’t. This “talking” thing is for teenagers and women who want attention. If you ask her out on a date and she says “let’s just see where it goes” then clearly she doesn’t like you enough to date you. That was entirely your fault. @Bowserguy62
This is how breadcrumbing works. A lot of toxic people will starve people from attention, and then give this little glimpses of positive attention just to keep em around. It’s like feeling hungry, and watching someone ignore us while going on a feeding frenzie, until they serve us a plate of dry breadcrumbs. Peace is invaluable. Being a man is hard to begin with, and I don’t need a woman in combat mode at home.
Very well said.
I built myself a sanctuary at home and in mind, its very obvious to me when the peace is at risk, See ya.
agree, most men just want a safe space at home, not another war zone, after the war zone at work.
Another example that reveals, unfortunately, how incredibly immature women really are and their toxic need for drama, chaos and dysfunction.
Exactly
The crazy part is men are expected to jump at the opportunity of dating a person like this, or even compliment her for finally acting sane. After she has revealed she is basically a dopamine junkie. Good for her for waking up, but no thanks.
Yep I have one that insisted on ignoring me after showing interest. Then reach out after two years from an unknown number with just enough information to where I think it’s her but can’t confirm. Then text twice then ghost. Joke is on her because she’s 24 and in her church she’s the one with a massively depreciating value because 25 is old in her church
@@BrianWaller-qe7gr She’ll probably marry outside the Church.
@BrianWaller-qe7gr Then grab your bag of popcorn, sit back, and watch her crash into “The Wall” when she realizes no decent man wants her or her nonsense.
Saying is it less exciting to date a good man is automatically red flag
Psychhacks says the exact same thing.
@@Mugsey1984 And every Ancient Stoic text.
But many, MANY men are willing to accept that red flag for a little female attention. It’s sad to see, but it’s true.
@Mugsey1984 Psyhacks gives extremely toxic dating advice that will get women used and abused and men rejected and used. He has no clue what he is talking about. Healthy relationships are never boring. That’s just a fact. Also, anyone that conflates boredom with health is still learning and isn’t ready to teach.
@@Mugsey1984Psyhacks gives extremely toxic dating advice that will get women used and abused and men rejected and used because his advice comes from a place of his personal fears. He has no clue what he is talking about. Also, anyone that says healthy relationships are boring is still learning and is nowhere near ready to teach.
If you need excitement from your romantic relationships, your life is boring, which means YOU are boring
I have enough complexity and chaos on my plate outside of relationships, I feel zero need to add another dimension of stress to the cocktail
The same goes for nerdy stuff: it’s only boring because you lack the intelligence required to actually understand it. That makes you boring, not me.
GPU acceleration logic is objectively more awesome than makeup, shoes and fashion
So true. And some women having the audacity to claim that men are shallow while women are not? Excuse me?
BINGO. Most women are incredibly empty and dull.
Boring and interesting are subjective. What an introvert would find interesting, an extrovert would think “Boring!” and vice versa.
@@Celi.S.00 So considering the original comment, what you’re saying is that people are choosing things to do in their own time which don’t fit their personality, and yet it’s not their own fault?
@@Celi.S.00 No. Women claim to desire intellectual conversation, yet lack the ability to dig beneath the surface. I spent over a decade studying over 20 mathematical textbooks, yet plenty of women have found boredom in even a hint of discussion over the subject.
The reality is that good men get friendzoned. 🤷♂️
100% do! I’ve experienced this way too many times
No they don’t. You guys need to get it out of your head that girls are rejecting you because you’re “too good”. All that’s going is allowing you to ignore your actual faults.
theres a difference between good guys and a nice guy, though. The good guy knows who he is, stands on his morals, spots red flags and wont bother with the friend zone. He understands the way women can be, if not reciprocated, he’s out.
Good men dont get friendzoned simps do. If you have a great group of guy friends things like that never happen. You don’t need to waste your time on a woman. Shes not better than you
No, unless they are unattractive.
Peace in my relationship is something I value greatly. I don’t have time for that chaos . When you start valuing what’s really important you will make progress.
The girl in the Tik Tok video is forgetting that she’s 50% of the relationship so if it’s getting boring she needs to bare 50% responsibility for that.
That’s why women create drama
Saying women should bare any responsibility whatsoever is like saying sheep should learn to fly. It ain’t going to happen.
Telling women to put in some effort besides “showing up” & “i’m t3h table” will enrage them.
Women don’t have responsibilities in relationships.
What?! You mean the girl can have initiative and not just sit on the sideline and Monday Morning Quarterback everything in a relationship? Say it ain’t so!
I actually had a discussion with one of my sister’s best friends who is married to a wonderful guy. They were set up for a date by my sister and though she thought he was nice, she didn’t feel the butterflies and thought about not going on a second date. My sister and her other friends told her to continue dating him (I like to think the b word and a slap were used in the process). She was reluctant but had the second date, and then a third, fourth, and so on. She realized that love and romance are things that are suppose to build up as you get to know someone, and isn’t a spontaneous thing. You cannot truly fall in love with someone without truly knowing them. Good men may not give excitement right away, but it’s better to wait a bit to get to know them than rush into something with a bad boy. (Same applies for men finding a partner too btw – one too many guys rush into a relationship with a b word because she’s pretty, gives him attention or puts out.)
When you truly love someone, every second of your life is amazing.
Huh??
Great point about mistaking anxiety for passion!
Thank you for this content, Courtney. I’m 51, and tired of the people who play games (note: I was tired of it 30 years ago in college). Anyone who’s more into drama than your connection with them doesn’t deserve your time, energy, or money. My life is more than half over. I don’t want to spend the time that’s left on people who simply don’t deserve it. Give the wrong people the gift of your absence and never look back.
Dating good men means you are emotionally stable and MATURE. Good man is responsable, mature, emotionally stable, have future plans, goals, discipline and work for it.
Bad man is the same as dating a kid. Means you are immature
I’ve been working on myself a lot lately, and I found some advice that really helped me stop overthinking and start taking action. I started talking to a couple of new people every day, and after just a month, I feel much more confident. A book called Celestial Soulmate by Lentlish had some great tips that I hadn’t seen anywhere else, and it helped me a lot.