The SOULMATE red flag
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November 1-3, 2024
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No one is ever going to be perfect. There may be 80% you like about someone and 20% you can’t stand about them. Sometimes you have to accept the 20% you can’t stand, because otherwise you will lose the 80% that you loved about them.
Of course this doesn’t apply to abusive partners. Protect yourself always.
hmmm no.
if that 20% is morally fundamental then it matters a lot.
@@jellyfishi_do you think the 20% can do more damage and if so what % do you feel is acceptable? 10%, 5% because nothing is perfect
@@danielland3767if you look there was a caveat in the end that explained this does not pertain to abusive situations.
I agree there’s always going to be a percentage of somebody that doesn’t jive with us but as long as it’s not abuse we can live with it
“The healthiest relationships are the least ‘magical’” 🙌🏼 My mother-in-law had me fooled with her soulmate narrative between her son and me. This is nothing but an illusion…. I’ve waited far too long (28 years) for that to materialize, but moving into a much healthier direction now 💪🏼❤️🎉
“You accept the morning farting..” 😂😂 ..accept it? I look forward to it.. 🤣
In all seriousness, fantastic video, and since I started to avoid looking for magic in a relationship in favour of searching for a feeling of peace, my life has changed dramatically and my relationships are more healthy, balanced, and mutually respectful..
Thank you Dr Ramani..and here’s to more windy mornings.. 💨
Searching for a feeling of peace. I like this.
Brilliant, as always! Thank you, Dr. Ramini.
I agree. Soulmate implies there is a celestial duty to another.
It’s a false ideal.
I fell for the soul mate crap. I never went back though. Once he was gone I was done. I blame romance movies for this 💩.
Right…
My father was emotionally unavailable. And so when i met my ex-husband. I fell lock-stock-& barrel.
I blame the movies too as well as romance novels
Soulmates can be friends or family that we connect with on a deep level. Beyond that, it’s just a great relationship because it feels good and works well.
I do wish I had not been raised by The Princess Bride and others films like that as one of my ideas of what Love is. Don’t get me wrong- loved the idea of a soulmate as a child and TPB is an iconic film. Did not realize just how toxic the idea of a soulmate was in my expectations until I met my current partner. He has blown it all out of the water by being nothing like the stereotypical guy in a relationship. My sweetie has taken care of me physically and emotionally better than anyone in my life, including my own parents. He’s not full of BS and flowery words like me. He’s quiet, sturdy, stable and funny AF.
We’re not soulmates- we’re best friends and lovers working together to make our lives individually and as a couple as awesome as we can while alive on Earth. ❤❤❤
Narcissists preach love and loyalty but thrive on deception.
Nailed it.
EXACTLY👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Well put Some are just into betrayal
“Soulmate” or “twin flame” is a delusional way of saying a trauma bond. A “runner-chaser” dynamic is simply unhealthy. 😦
Yes indeed
Twin flames or soul mates shouldn’t be soooo toxic..yes there is a lesson to learn but shouldn’t be based on hurt and pain.. my point on how I see it.
Exactly 💯
My attitude – after marrying 3 stooges and getting let (to put it mildly) is this: I don’t care if it’s a soulmate or twinflame or a karmic or a kindred spirit: Either Shape Up or Ship Out!
Edit: getting let down
Better yet, find someone who’s ready for a serious relationship because they want one, too.
There is no need to shape up. Just be with someone mature and respectful. 😊
@@lilunette9319 Thanks! True! But I actually meant they must shape up etc Of course I need to as well but it’s mostly the guys who need to man up and behave better in my world.😆
My ex narcissist called me a kindred spirit I ran away..
@@plumduff3303 well done 👍🏼🙌🏼🤗
After 38 years of surviving I am finally and legally divorced as of yesterday. Deo Gratias! ✝️
It is the beginning of the rest of your life. I am very happy for you.
Congratulations. 😁
@@cellohood I will be there soon too 💪🏼🤗 congratulations! 🎉
Let the healing begin 🎉
I hope God blesses you so so big, I got free last January
‘Love bombing 101’
Oh, I got an A plus in that course!
This reminds me why I never like the character “Carrie” in SATC tv show. She was always seeking for the “ONE” through varies toxic boyfriends. The truth was SHE was toxic too. Carrie wanted someone to physically and emotionally fulfill her in their perfect relationship.
TV shows, in general, are glamorizing and romanticizing narcky relationships.
Thanks, Dr. Ramani.
Wise words! Good adult relationships are about
mutuality of regard
reciprocity
respect
safety
kindness
companionship
growth
balance
Wow, so Brilliant. A Narcissist WILL keep coming around forever if they’re getting Supply, but FOREVER with a hefty side of Abuse.
From soul mate to cell mate.
😅😅
😅😅😅with other narcissists
Healthy relationships are largely without drama or huge up and downs, at least as they develop and become deeper. I’ve been lucky enough to have been allowed to see a little way inside some.
Dear Dr Ramani. You had me in stitches there when you spoke about “putting your life on a metaphysical hold”. You’re telling me that is what I did for 22 years of my life? It was only funny, because I believed in this “soulmate” hock wash and my narc played me all along. Sadly, right towards the end of our marriage she would tell me in front of her family, that she never really loved me. That she never believed us to be soulmates. In hindsight, I’m grateful now for her honesty. It has helped so much to speed up the healing.😃
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