The TRUTH behind YOUR attraction to narcissists
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They’re the victim always a good person. Because they treat people outside their relationships better than the people they’re in a relationship with
Facts! Just ended my relationship do to it.
Man, this is so true.
Yes they will triangulate with anyone or anything. They’d triangulate you with a pet rock if they had to. “Well at least Melvin the Rock doesn’t seem to have a problem with the way I am. You’re the one who has an issue. Melvin, you know you are my special rock, right?”
@@PassionateFlowerHilarious! (and so true!!!)
I love how Dr. Ramani educates us and shares her spicy insights regarding the audacity of the narcissist. By sharing her disdain of their behavior, she gives comfort for us in the experience. Thanks, Doc ❤
Doctor armani😂 are you sure it wasn’t dr gucci
She really does.
@@queenqueen977make it make sense
@@queenqueen977 Noted. Rapid typing and not spell checking. Her advice though is fashionably respected ☺️
They’ll act all goody and empathetic in the beginning to ensnare you. Once they’re done with you they show real cruel self.
They sure do. They act kind, supportive, and understanding until you say no to them in enacting a boundary and also when you get in the way of something they really want. When the mask slips, it’s horrifying – the rage, vindictiveness, cruelty, sadistic behavior and absolutely no concern for you in any way.
100 %.
So true.
Merry Christmas!
A wolf in sheep’s clothing, is an enemy disguised as a friend.
Watch out for people coming towards you, smiling with their hands behind their back.
Friend-enemy – Frenamie
I often consider how Victorian culture classic novels and vampire mythos has basically been about humanity sorting out attempting to underatand and forwarn😊 about narcissists,
We ARE NOT ALONE, the new season is here.❤😮😊
My first Christmas in 16;years without being with the sociopath narc I was entangled with! The best I ever had! So glad I finally left,Christmas alone,no drama,no gaslighting,no sabotaging al I do ,this is the best gift Peace.
Same ❤️
Parts of November and early December, the stress and anxiety was so intense cause I wasn’t sure to risk meeting family for Xmas despite all the problems and drama
After testing the waters early December I realized, nope not worth it. For a few days the grief was hard, but then afterwards I started enjoying Xmas vibes and feeling happy ❤️
Life is much easier without a negative cloud hovering over you. The peace and relaxation last couple weeks, doing things I enjoy without pressure, and not having to do things I hate?
It’s truly amazing ❤️😁
Thank you for all that you do Dr. Ramani ❤
They do not have a right to disrespect another human being. I hear everything you are saying and I agree
Exactly. Even if the “victim” stance is valid, it does *not* justify any additional boundary violations. Two wrongs do not ever make a right, harming another person will not bring the first wounding any closer to being healed. Proper restitution helps the situation move forward, and would not create more damage. Being hurt ourselves is not a “good enough” reason to hurt someone else.
Unfortunately, some people do not go that “deep.” 😮💨
My ex would bring my elderly neighbor’s trash cans up after trash pick up every week. We had another neighbor that he would always help with computer problems or his car problems. But treated me horribly when I would (have to) remind him to take our trash out or clean or pool. He got so mad one time he told me it was my job to clean the toilets and he was never doing it again. He would find vets and help them paint their house or build bikes for children. At home never fixed anything, even though most of the time he broke it in a rage. Evil just plain fake, but my neighbors think he is amazing. Best guy ever.
Yes the the people around us he would help others telling them how bad i was. To him and help them some more so they would turn on me and the kids
Yes! Same here now that we’re divorced they never speak to me. My ex still comes over to MY next door neighbor and I will see them shaking hands and hugging. And my neighbor knows he went to jail for assaulting me. Bizarre!
@carolannhuber he’s just watching you i had to dump my Facebook because he was coming in the back door to watch me and the kids so after I dumped it these years later my daughter creaped on his Facebook which he stopped using his 2 months after I dumped mine he could watch me anymore
He hasn’t talked to his kids in 11 years
Yes indeed! It’s all an act. Narcissistic parents faked out everybody to get liked, but treated me like a garbage can.
Merry Christmas, Dr. Ramani, and all. I’ve been reading these shared stories, about the common behaviors of cruel, and destructive people. These compilations of similar behaviors, may help so many to avoid becoming close with Cluster B personalities in the future. 🎄 Cheers to a better life ahead!
There very superficial though, actually I’d say people are in general, but the major clue I noticed with narcissists is that there’s really shallow. They lack depth, depends on the conversation, but on certain subjects, they just can’t go into detail and it gives away how dull they really are, the lack of reflection, introspection, even deluded, magical thinking shows, a certain child-like naivety about them. All you have to do is seperate yourself from how they can make you feel, and just pay more attention, and you’ll actually see a dull person behind that facade.
I am so thankful that I was able to quietly assist the Lead Pastor and some of the Deacons a year ago about the wolf in sheep’s clothing roaming around my church with a lot of elderly. They knew he was a bit off and were frustrated and shared ‘he thinks he’s always right’ or would go off and attack them during a discussion. This person knows I saw through him a year ago when his mask came off and knows he can’t intimidate me and ironically, is actually a bit sheepish around me now. Interesting to see he now enters the sanctuary when the lights are dimmed before service and leaves before they come back on. What he doesn’t know is that the Pastor and Deacons have been made aware in order to protect the flock.
IN THIS LIFE, DO NOT LET YOUR GUARD DOWN FOR ANYTHING.
We do need to teach our children about this topic. It’s so important especially nowadays when young people can fall for someone they think is amazing & it’s a trafficking trap. May sound like a stretch, but it’s not. For those of us who’ve been in a relationship with a narc or have had family members in our lives (past tense because hopefully there’s distance now if not no contact), we know the lure, the flips, and the abuse.
Dr. Ramani’s content should be in our public schools (age appropriate level obviously) instead of some of the useless stuff (or confusing stuff) being taught to our children.
The holidays are extra difficult this year. Thank you, Dr. R for your wisdom, insight, and sharing this today.
Agreed 100% These toxic personalities should be brought to light. Knowledge is power AND protection.
That what I work at educating my daughter about these people. She grew up with a narcissistic father and once you’ve been in it, you don’t know what they’re doing. What happened to me 35 years of abuse I don’t ever want this to happen to my daughter or anybody else everybody needs to know about this they need to teach it in school. These people are evil
Today is my birthday (Merry Christmas too!) and watching this is like a present to myself! I’m newly divorced and this narcissistic stuff is so immersed in my life. This understanding that there’s a world of narcissistic stuff is like a welcomed head explosion and enlightening me to pass this on to educate my 13 year old son.
Happy birthday and welcome to your enlightened life
Happy Birthday to you!! ❤ mine was yesterday! 12/24
Happy Birthday Birthday people 🎉😊
Happy joy healthy birthday wishes to Misty
The simple fact that they CAN turn it on and off is THE proof that they KNOW what they’re doing (to us) and it’s 💯% intentional. The minute you understand that is the minute you stop making excuses for them and you start looking at your relationship differently. We don’t deserve the short end of the stick—nor should we settle for it!!! Peace and growth to all. ❤
It’s so true; the radical acceptance of realisation helped me understand & overcome the misplaced sense of loss.
Subsequently I have found a better life for myself without her toxicity.
Dr Ramini, merry Christmas 🎄 Believe me when I say you not only shed a small light on narcissism you are the bright shining light at the end of what has been a very long tunnel of darkness. Thank you ❤
Your words are gold….I wish I knew sooner not to fall for their “help” or not to justify their actions (humiliation, belittling,cruelty, manipulation, guilt trip,)after their “help”.
Dr. Ramani, I am impressed and amazed at how so totally you understand narcissism! I’ve been following you for a while now. I am hugely empathic and have been wounded by narcissists my entire life, beginning with my mother. I have always struggled with feelings of inadequacy and worthlessness. I’ve been lucky to have had some good therapists (from age 16 to now at 71). They are the reason I’m still around. But no one has understood narcissism as well as you! Thank you so much for all your posts! You are helping me really heal! 💖