Things you SACRIFICED in a narcissistic relationship WITHOUT even realizing it
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❤ this is gonna be another good one! Have a great day everyone🫶🏻
The worst part is not what they took. It’s how easy it was for them to make you believe that you didn’t deserve to have anything to begin with.
Absolutely true especially a narcissistic parent
You are so right!
Ooooof!!!
We realize we are the fools. And the only solution is we leave the toxic person doing it to us.
Whoa yea
Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called the children of God” (Matthew 5:9) ❤🔥☀️🥰🦾🕊
“We quit ourselves NO MORE!” Whatever happens at least I know what it was! 🙌🏼
Yes
What’s bad is how they wait until they think they have you hooked in before letting the evil genie out of the bottle. But looking back to the love bombing phase, there were warning signs that I failed to assign enough weight to.
Exactly.
Very True , SAME HERE 😖
You explain it so clearly …that is exactly how I felt after the first narc. I ran into
Thank you Dr. I went no contact, your videos have been invaluable. I have come to a point I can love myself in a healthy way. I am becoming better and faith and your videos have been paramount. Maybe a video idea would be what we gain from these relationships after we break free and heal. I can draw these people out very easily now…. I can see their patterns. I have epic levels of empathy…. I can see myself in any bad situation after what I’ve been through. I carry light AND discernment. I wouldn’t change the way I was raised, it came with God given gifts that help me reach others while keeping myself safe. I am thankful for this crucible, because now I am a tempered blade.
The way that they diminish your self-esteem, like a soul-sucking vampire. In the end my nex degraded and shamed me for having such poor self-esteem. He sucked it all out of me and was low on his supply. That ended up being his reason for final discard.
Dr. Ramani is the Only Person I have Ever found who articulates with LAZER FOCUSED CLARITY the intricacies of the landmine of toxic behaviors of narcissistic people and the subsequent fallout , train wreckage of having to deal with these people
Thank you so much! that really means a lot. These experiences can feel like a total minefield, and I’m just grateful to help put words to something so many of us go through. Sending you strength. 💛
Beautiful Lady I meant what I said, you are amazing ! You Articulate with Lazer FOCUSED CLARITY what we are all forced to deal with on a daily basis and bring it Down to us in Layman’s terms so we can truly get an honest Grip on what Exactly we are dwaling with . Bless you, Thank You !!! @@DoctorRamani
It’s like when the cheater is accusing the other of cheating to only mend their own guilt and insecurites, they hope you do it first.
Or, projection.
Thank you Dr. Ramani! You have done such a wonderful job of educating us about our experiences and making us feel better about ourselves as well.❤
Every video I watch, it’s like Dr Ramani knows my life of a personal level. It’s validating yet sad in so many ways. Sad that I have lived this way for 35+ years and didn’t know it until just recently. I feel like I was robbed of so many parts of my life. When she said “We quit ourselves and become what the narcissist wants” that hit hard. I don’t want to be that person anymore, I want to find me. I got into this relationship when I was 18, so it’s basically all I have ever known and it has shaped me into the sad and lonely person that I am now. Thanks for all of your insight Dr Ramani!! You are amazing!
GinaTBPL- I too was in a 40 year marriage to a narcissistic man. I agree that I became most of what my ex wanted me to be too. I got married at 19 and really didn’t understand his manipulations. I’m now divorced (5 blessed years) and can say I am in a much happier and healthier place. In some respects I can even say I’m grateful for what I went through as it has shown me that I am an empathetic person. I’m still learning to keep boundaries, still struggling a bit recognizing gaslighting, still have days where I’m angry about what my ex did to me. But I’ve grown so much and that never would have happened without the pain of discovering what I was married to. I wish you health, happiness, and peace. Sendings hugs.
@@jcaspen Thanks for sharing your story! I am trying to work my way out of this. I am getting help from my therapist but it’s a very slow process. I feel like I have not been allowed to really “grow” and quite frankly I feel stunted by this relationship. I wish I had known all those years ago what happening and wish I would have gotten out when I had the opportunity on at least 2 or 3 occasions. I hope one day I have the courage to do what I need to do! Have a beautiful day!
I think you’ll like yourself. Narcissists choose us because we are nice people. Our empathy is where we screw up. We need to be empathetic to ourselves first. We have to assess our feelings and acknowledge they are truly valid and as important as anyone else’s.
@@mariehughey5390I don’t think “our empathy is where we screw up”. I think the narcissist’s manipulation, deceit, cohesion, gaslighting and love bombing causes us to question our feelings or abandon them all together.
@@mariehughey5390I don’t think “our empathy is where we screw up” because this perspective omits the manipulation, deceit, coercion and control by the narcissist which causes us to question our feelings or abandon them all together.
Yes, I certainly get that. With my relatives, one mistake and I’m condemned for days.
46 yrs in a toxic marriage. Slow and methodical. Narc traits have kept being met at a low level. I found that I have a true self while working part-time in theater for 15 years. Retired last year and I’m working on a couple projects that I am passionate about. Past 3 months I’m seeing his attempts to subtly sabotage my efforts to be successful. I feel like I’m in some of the hardest days of my marriage but some of the most hopeful days in my personal journey.
Best of luck, my friend! Stay strong!!! ❤🤗❤
This episode really resonates with my relationship.
https://youtu.be/dW1zd-ePPoQ?si=zwH3V6UfemUgGqdb
It shocking to realize that the majority of my relationships have not respected nor valued my needs at all, even if I did express them. It helps me understand that it’s not my fault and that I have rights and needs, including my own life identity places spaces as well as needing safe healthy respectful people. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤
The beginning of the end for me was when he told me that it was my problem that all of the things he did made me feel unvalued and unloved. He was absolutely unable to see that his toxic behaviors were unloving. Another way he Weaponized my feelings was by saying it was my poor self-esteem and lack of forgiveness that was the problem —no taking ownership for the gaslighting, invalidating comments, contempt, and multiple affairs on his part.
So wish I would’ve had a competent, knowledgeable, and caring. Counselor like Dr. Ramani who could’ve helped me see earlier that it was never a we or me problem, it was that I needed to see him for what he was and that he would never change.
Glad you see this !! Wow ❤
I tried to be a “no needs” person and realized in my 30’s how ridiculous that was. I was completely lost in trying to be helpful to others and completely ignoring myself. I’m so much happier since taking responsibility for me and being way less enmeshed in what other people want or need.
This is me. Knowing my father hates me being stronger than him because he’s a weak narcissist has given me the confidence to be bigger.
That story about the woman trying to help her Mom rings so true. That family would have drained her and then complained when she was dry. It was inevitable.
A therapist once told me, “Ask for what you want. The problem with you is you don’t ask for what you want.” But asking a narcissist for what you want will not only be fruitless, but may give them ammunition to hurt you. Knowing your needs can make it easier to manipulate or punish you. This is one reasons a person may become “needless.” Thank you, Dr Ramani, for your realistic portrayals of the dilemmas these relationships can pose.
What’s truly crazy is that, once you read The Seduction Alchemy, you realize how blinded you were — but it’s never too late. It’s not just about attraction, it’s about understanding energy, confidence, and how to carry yourself in any situation.
Thanks a lot for the recommendation
Definitely one of the best books I’ve read
love it
Can you share a bit about the book, why would you recommend it?
The breakup of my five-year relationship has left me heartbroken. I’ve tried everything to rekindle things, but so far, nothing has worked, and I’m finding it hard to move on.
It’s hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn’t just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Father Obah Eze has also helped my co workers and close friends and even family members get their ex back.
Thank you for sharing this valuable insight. I just looked him up, and I’m genuinely impressed.