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New video, awesome. Thank you for all that you have done for us suffering from narcissist abuse, my husband is a narc and so is his dad.
You’re a life saver Dr ❤❤❤❤
That is a 💯 Fact!!
“Why was I so ick” thank you Dr. Ramani for addressing this
Pray about it
Thanks so very much for your help
Thank you for the reminder that I did the best with what I knew and my circumstances. My mind was consumed by this ex relationship and trying to be perfect. I’ve felt the guilt and working through this. 🙏🏻
Thanks, Doc, for helping me break the cycle of verbal abuse. Much easier for us men, to the females in the same, my prayers and best wishes for you… I can only imagine how hard it is for you… Stay strong Sisters 🙏
Back at you
Strong means also flexible, in all of possible meanings of words
And THANK YOU!!
Thank you. How nice of you ❤
Wow, this was nice to read. Thank you.
Thank you so much!
Thank you Dr. Ramani. Forgiving yourself is the hardest part❤
❤ Wow, this video was so edifying, so uplifting, so nurturing and healing! Thank you, thank you, Dr Ramani!
Yes, Absolutely! I’m saving this to listen again over and over until it really sinks in.
Oh my goodness, Dr Ramani – this is so exactly what happened in my life with my children. I grieve for what was lost and pain they have suffered. Narcissistic father who was also a 30-year career military man. Took me decades to learn what was going on.
Finally see someone that has had the experiences military retirement, etc.
Retired Military spouse here, with three grown children
That was my life too.
Wow ,between a toxic trauma bond with my father. My daughter’s narc father who showed back up in her life at 8 years old. I had no idea! He came back into our lives and totally took over! I LET HIM! Filling out a notepad for the next visit to my shrink! You are absolutely right and I needed to hear that! I just didn’t know better! Ty Dr Ramani as always ☮️
Dr Ramani I love you , you have helped me so much. As a 50 year old adult I realised I was a narcissist abuse scapegoat by my Mother. That was 4 years ago & it’s better today but it was so cruel from I was a child. Today I’m slowly learning to love me & forgive me. God Bless you xx❤️☘️
I’m 68 and feel much the same. I had to distance myself from my parents but the guilt and shame around that tormented me. It is so helpful to have Dr Ramani and others help me with this.
The same is my story. My dad and his mother were narcissistic abusers. I am your age and thanks to Ramani and others like her, finally there’s a name to this abuse, “Narcissistic abuse”
62. The same here. One sibling. We were both scapegoats for our mom. When we finally went no contact a few years before she passed… the guilt trip laid on us by her friends was almost as bad as what she did. After all the years of her abuse I was developed several stress related illnesses and the last one damned near killed me. I totally get it.
@@lizkrinsky5209 I’m sorry, but not surprised, that you became ill due to the stresses you were under. I too fell into a deep clinical depression when my children were fairly young which in turn would have affected my kids. Intergenerational Traum is real.
Oh, Dr. Ramani! Who’s chopping onions? I SO needed this validation today! I truly thank you from the bottom of my heart! 🙏
“Please try to remember that what they believe, as well as what they do and cause you to endure does not testify to your inferiority but to their inhumanity.” -JAMES BALDWIN
Yes! Words of profound wisdom.
Truth!
⚔️ good One
I have never looked at myself at how I am away from the narcissist, and with other people and friends. I am lighter and happier and life is good. It’s when I walk in the door that I feel the heaviness and the tension all over again.
Someone told me on the phone “I can tell when the other person you live with isn’t around as you seem so much happier.”
Same. Every time he went on vacation to visit his father the house was light. Laughter, relaxed and everyone had energy. Big difference for sure
@@ISquishWorms wow! That person is truly tuned in to you!
Get out. These “people” will take your soul.
Not only does being in a narcissistic relationship lead to disorganization & confusion, but being in confusion also sets you up FOR narcissistic targeting. The narcissist always looks like they REALLY have it together. They appear to be very solid & super-competent, and since we’re confused, we want the clarity, not realizing how destructive that “clarity” is to anyway who falls into its grasp.
The mistakes I made were based on thinking logically and my ignorance of narcissism. I know better now thanks to the awesome Dr. Ramani.
Thank you, Dr. Ramani. If I ever write a book, the title will be: “The Only One You Have To Forgive Is You”!
I’m in tears recognising this in my life, including the feedback from the therapist. Years and years, decades really, of therapy and I wasn’t diagnosed with PTSD until age 58 and I was never told about narcissistic abuse until 3 years ago
Whenever these people are around, it’s like a black cloud. As soon as I get away from them my breathing gets better, my insides relax and happiness returns.
Thank you! I have been beating myself up for not being better for virtually everything in my life. ❤
Thank you Dr. Ramani. I left just after our 45th anniversary, so the self destruct was pretty well ingrained. I found this about 6 months after leaving and it has helped me on my healing journey : “I forgive myself for who I was in survival mode’. Thank you for reinforcing this.
Bless you, I hope and wishing you the Best Life you well deserve.
It’s such an empowering step to make the break, I also left later in life, but once we learn to once again enjoy the fruits of a peaceful life, and do the things that give us joy.