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they’re already furious
Yes, every minute of every day.
Absolutely miserable they are
Oh my gosh. This is so on point.
My narcissistic husband just had a big meltdown because I was humming an upbeat song (that he didn’t recognize) and acting happy. Apparently, I’m supposed to do the house chores with a scowl.
Joy in any form is toxic to them.
That sucks
@deanayer3822why? They always seem to be angry. Are they depressed or just a narcissist?
Did he accuse you of anything as the reason why you were happy?
Please, don’t let him take your music away from you! I let my ex take my music away from me, and it was a big part of my life. I stopped singing. I missed it so much for a very long time. My boyfriend likes my singing. He says I sound like Stevie Nicks.đ
This is totally true. I have been in the process of becoming me again without his control since I first started listening to you Dr. Ramani. Once I started realizing his games he plays, ie: gaslighting, name calling, playing victim, doing things to set me up like misplacing things and then telling others I’m loosing it and forgetting things, when it’s him that is actually having issues, I can’t thank you enough Dr. Ramani for teaching me I’m not alone and for your videos. I can’t afford a therapist and your videos have awaken me up and made me realize “it isn’t me”. It’s him. He’s an angry person because he can’t control me. ⤠â¤
I am in a similar boat.
Check out the movie Gaslight made in 1944 .. he does the same things to his wife. Hides stuff ect and trying to make her doubt her sanity.
They don’t like when you have something nice to say about other people, or feel good about yourself
Narcissistic people are just nothing to me now, after growing up with a dark triad (happens to be my older brother). Narcissistic people are still human in my eyes when I think about that person.
He systematically installed a self-destructive, self-belittling software in my mind, after sexually abusing me in my childhood. He is pure evil. Narcissism is still workable, but the lasting effects of his abuse still linger on me, no matter what I do. What do I do, Ramani? I did years of therapy, writing exercises, telling the voice to shut up over and over again. These mostly helped but it is almost cancerous, I cannot get rid of it, please, help me.
plant medicine
See if “Brain spotting ” is available near you. It’s fruitful without having to relive the abuse.
We really can only help ourselves by being our authentic self as painful as it isâŚ
Or at least thatâs where I am at currently at 60++ years.
â@janeloraine6231I don’t believe in it
ââ@SuB-gy4rbthank you so much. For that, I’ve been doing solitude retreats. Otherwise I’m accustomed to align with others.
I have intellect, personality and authenticity.
That is such a powerful analysis of coming out of fawning. Thank you!
This is fascinating. I see parallels to growing up with an alcoholic mother.
“Real love is safe”. And a narcissistic relationship is simply not corresponding to this definition. I’m happy to begin to really understand this very simple thing, after decades of wandering.
This is a helpful way to understand what is happening underneath the surface. Thank you
Narcissists gaslight others when told the truth
DR. RAMANI: I have watched almost ALL of your vids, probably all thousand. And this vid is one of the Best ( top 3)âŚesp. RE the Fawn Response. THANK YOU. âJL
I felt today’s message deep inside. Core belief just nudged toward radical acceptance? Ouch! This has never been about being good, enough, perfect… it’s always been about being loved and being safe, and it was never either of those. Thank you Ramani.â¤ď¸
40:56 OMG so true. And it’s a beautiful day. Thank you Dr. Ramini! â¤
Babysitting someoneâs shame! That was deep!! đ˘ đ¤
Wow. This broke open the fawning and achieving and never feeling good enough for me.
You nailed it! This video is one of your best! The walking on eggshells, any talking is contorted or intentionally misunderstood and NEVER ask them for forgiveness!!!! I fought to KEEP my authentic self. Hardest fight of my life against my son & his narcissistic gf!!! The list of triggers a narcissistic person will use against you is irrational and unbalanced. I still miss my grand daughter with all my heart.
My fawning is so reflexiveđ¤Śââď¸ Since recognizing gaslighting and narcissism, I find myself flipping between fawning and fighting. This is a pattern I can now recognize throughout my life. Always hypervigilant, I either fawned and strove for perfection, or I became self-destructed and aggressively defiant. I never realized how strong my authentic self was. Years of asking for advice and being told I was over imaginative and misunderstanding, had me ignoring my instincts.
Usually, by the time you learn the person is a âcovert narcissistâ, you have already âdealtâ with them in one way or another. You cannot and will not recognize the person as a âcovert narcissistâ just by looking at them or having casual interactions with them. You have to observe, listen, and understand what you SAW, what you HEARD, and WHY you SAW and HEARD that. Now donât that sound easy.
The better question is how do you STOP âdealing withâ a covert narcissist once you understand what you SAW, what you HEARD, and WHY you SAW and HEARD that? The âbest wayâ to âdeal with a covert narcissistâ is to STOP listening, STOP observing, STOP wondering WHY, and STOP having ANY interaction with them.
If you MUST have interactions with them, limit the interactions as much as possible. No âhi, how are you doingâ, no âhi, I wish I had time to talk to youâ, no âhi, itâs nice to see youâ â just âhi, hope youâre doing well, Iâve got to runâ or just âhiâ and keep walking.
If at all possible, avoid ANY setting or situation where the narcissist or a âflying monkeyâ can observe you or listen to you. âFlying monkeysâ are the narcissistâs âpossessionsâ. Dealing with or interacting with anything or anybody the narcissist âownsâ is considered the same as âdealing withâ or interacting with the narcissist. The more you âdeal withâ a covert narcissist, the more you will have to âdeal withâ.
Do not ârunâ from a covert narcissist unless you can ârunâ totally away from them. When you ârunâ from a narcissist, it makes them feel powerful and important. They like that and will make a sport out of watching you ârunâ.
Once you âlearnâ the person is a âcovert narcissistâ, you have to âlearnâ to either âcovertlyâ avoid the hell out of them or âovertlyâ have NO CONTACT with them and refuse to âdeal withâ them. This all SOUNDS so simple and easy, but ask anybody who has ever âdealt withâ one and theyâll tell you itâs one of hardest things theyâve ever âdealt withâ.
And if your gut is screaming that theyâve been cheating, lying, or still manipulating in the background â donât second-guess your instincts. Get quiet proof. Send a discreet request to digitalinvestigate@gmail. com for confidential help catching a cheating narcissist.