Types of people narcissists SEE AS THREATS
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Sadly so true. My parents celebrated failure/relationship break ups but ignored achievements. At least I know not to do that with my kids is the silver lining. Thanks for all you do 🙏
That is so true. My husband and I have a list of things we’re doing differently based exactly on his own parents’ behavior.
They’re on every job… narcissist keep all the chaos and confusion going the entire shift. You feel like you just pulled a Double for this minimum wages🥺
14:47 – 15:05 I’ve experienced this at work. I’d say this is the “monkey’s” who have been sweet talked into position, while the narcissist does their smear compain on the victim. Blind monkey’s.
That’s why I got out my jigsaw and made a steering wheel lap desk. I also got the perfect sunshades. The dash cam has caught odd things, but it’s a safe place to be in my car.
Im 60
As a child of a family of 12 kids.
Me being the youngest daughter.
Has come to the realization that I was raised by my siblings, not necessarily my parents.
My siblings raised and when I was a little older I raised myself.
Thank you, Dr. Ramani. I am profoundly grateful for your teachings. They have equipped me with the strength to overcome a lifetime of abuse—enabling me to confront the darkness and emerge standing tall, resolute, and free. Your wisdom has been a catalyst for my transformation, guiding me from the shadows of victimhood to the light of genuine autonomy. God bless you.
The honest person irritates their guilt
Courtesy of therapist Pinterest: “…..your spirit irritates their demons.”
Everything you say is so validating and helpful. Thank you for the work that you do ❤
All TRUE! My first thought (at 3-4 yrs) was “THERE IS NO LOVE IN THIS HOUSE,… there MUST BE A MISTAKE” I was then turned into the SCAPEGOAT FOR FOREVER
Awe I’m so sorry you had to put up with that. We can be weee little an extremely vulnerable the narc doesn’t care! It’s so sick !
I mentioned to my narc sister, who still lived with my parents “There is no love here”. She actually snorted and then said “I hope you get sick”. I already was carrying the scapegoat role. I have had no contact with sister for over 3 years. It breaks my heart what she has become but it is her choice.
I moved 3000 miles to get away from it.
I wish I could.
Me too ❤
Thank you Sister Dr Ramani ❤️🇬🇧 after 18 years.,I’m in the middle of breaking away……. Much love to you
I puked 5 times last night and don’t even want to tell my family because they willl find a way to turn it against me.
Even when they have everything that you don’t they will make your life a living hell.
That’s not jealousy, that’s hate. They have nothing to be jealous about.
Isn’t jealousy+hate = envy?
All of my stomach issues essentially disappeared when I cut off this one person. My wife was the same. We thought it was coffee, cigarettes, substances, diet. The only time our stomach issues resurfaced was when there was a chance of seeing this person again and when we had to be back in that toxic environment for whatever reason. And you have no obligation to your family, in my opinion. I am no therapist, but your parents decided to have you and you had no say in the matter. So, they are the ones obligated to you and all the lives they chose to create. Wishing you the best and the strength to help yourself get out of this situation as it can and likely is making you physically ill.
These videos are precious. I never watch dating shows, but last night I watched love is blind Dubai. This narcissistic guy was gaslighting the woman within the first 30 seconds of the blind date. She Knew it was wrong and Apologised For Now Reason….She dated him anyway! She was so happy he picked her. I thought wow…That USED to Be Me. There’s so many people in danger of narcissistic people. These videos are essential for everyone to watch.
My narcissistic son-in-law has squelched all of my daughter’s attempts to work after she had her kids. He would say things like, “oh you won’t make enough money yo make it worthwhile.”
And he has slowly driven our daughter away from us with gaslighting. I’m the truth teller and spoke up. He couldn’t bear it and made me the bad guy – accusing my husband and I of the very behavior he displays. It’s bizarre.
Finding people to trust is the hardest part.
Former scapegoat here… you’re right. I’m still fighting to express myself, without fear of repercussions, in every way… it’s been 35+ years since I went no contact with my abuser. I don’t mind the struggle, because I’m free, and I know anything good sometimes comes with a high price tag in work.
You’re a great person for educating the public on this subject. Thank you 👏!! 🎉🎉🎉😊
This was pure gold DR Ramani, Speaks volumes, Thank you so much for this, Truth seer, Truth teller, Calls them out, That’s me all right 🙂 I’ll always go against the status quo, I’m not afraid, I see right through these two, I won’t let them gaslight reality and undermine my confidence and intelligence, Peace, love and respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe, Self control and Courage, All glory power praise and smile’s to the most high 🙂 🙂 🙂
Truth teller/scapegoat here and you are spot on !
Yup me too
Had a narc boss that liked to make younger staff cry in front of customers. Finally I approached boss in back room and simply told her “I don’t like to see my coworkers cry”. Boss looked daggers at me. From that point on it was gloves off and boss turned all the coworkers against me with false accusations. I found a better job and quit before much damage was done to my reputation. Boss could not risk my staying once I had caught on and grew bold enough to call out bad behaviour.
For me growing up was very confusing. We went from the womb straight to adulthood. We were not allowed to be a kid or to have fun. Me as a young boy I knew something was not right about my dad and I would always be asking “Why this, Why that”. Dad would then get angry. He told me that if I didn’t know something that I should ask. So I did. But then when I ask him I would get ” Don’t You EVER QUESTION ME AGAIN”. My mom was the one that allowed dads bad behavior. I saw the truth, Kept quiet and became a scapegoat. Years later I went no contact with him, He got angry and my sister told me that he said some things. I laughed and did not let it bother me. I did not even call him back to confront him. Then about a month later I was told that Dad was found unresponsive in his recovery room by a nurse. Dad had died. My sister then told me this and I could care less. He got exactly what he deserved. He died a very lonely old man.
Hearing that your bad encouraged you to ask questions but when you did, he’d yell at you not to question him reminds me of Gregory Bateson’s double bind theory. So sorry you went through all that.
In my family: “Don’t say anything. It will only cause a fight.”
As a cis-woman, I’ve learned to become VERY VERY comfortable with the following criticisms: “high-maintenance”, “uptight”, “can’t take a joke”, and “too serious”. These insults are frequently used to disarm women from their most self-preserving tendencies. Once these have no effect on you, people are less likely to discourage you from acting in your self-interest by accusing you of being these things. (And it’s surprising how many people are quick to hurl these at you when you don’t give them what they want.)