At first, a narcissistic relationship can feel exciting—like a perfect getaway. But over time, the charm fades, and the reality sets in: it’s a great place to visit, but you wouldn’t want to live there. Why do others seem to only see the appealing side of these relationships? This video breaks down the "vacation vibe" of narcissistic dynamics and what it means for those stuck living in them.
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the biggest red flag for me is intuition. when my inner voice pops in I then know my next move. Over the years I try and continue to fine tune my intuition and knowledge of dangerous relationships
Narcissists take you on trips all the time, they’re called GUILT TRIPS.
Lol
Lol 😂
True. I love going on adventures and my ex never fail to make them miserable. Even having the guts to have them over my haead
That’s a good one lol, so true….no other trip except ‘guilt’ 😢
😂 totally true 😢
Vacation with them is a nightmare. They try to control how you want to have fun. Then throw tantrums.
i will never forget hearing my ex tell someone about one of our vacations as the “best one of his life”. cause it was god awful and i hated it
Absolutely 👍
My “mother”
Yup
Yes!!
There’s an old movie called “They Live” about a guy who gets glasses that let him see aliens posing as humans. Dr. Ramani is the person who gives you those glasses to see “them”. Boy, are there a lot of people with those flags out there!
It was set in LA, the NPD/cult of personality mothership. 🙂
It’s been my experience that once the Narcissist Thinks, they have Controll, That’s when their True Colors are most likely to show . Like famed Poet Maya Agelou was often quoted as saying ” regardless of what people Tell you about themselves when you First meet them, BELIEVE them when they SHOW you Who they are, the First time ….!”
Dr. Ramani , you are a literal Life Saver, and Sanity Saver, in So many ways !
I agree
Vacation time with the narcissist was hellish. He was self-absorbed, distant and spiteful. Grateful that he is no longer in my life 🙏.
That is for sure. Mine took me on vacations and then when we got there he convenently forgot his wallet or money. It was horrible. Happened repeatedly. Then I figured it out. He never paid me back and when I mentioned anything he would just blow up and find fault with me. YUCK
When ever my Narc Mom did something horrible to me, everyone excused it by saying “Oh, but she loves you!.” Then they recounted all the good things she did. Later, when I started dating, I allowed men to treat me badly because they said they loved me, and they did nice things for me. Narcs and their flying monkeys warp a child’s understanding of love. So many wasted years…I am grateful to God for breaking that tragic cycle.
YES! and when personal physical boundaries are not allowed in childhood we become susceptible to all manner of physical abuses as well.
Yes, so very true! Growing up with a narcissistic parent (in my case, mother) sets one up for a lifetime of abuse, due to excusing unacceptable terrible behavior. Thankfully I am learning to break the cycle!
My most loathed statement: “You only have one mother!” Runner up: “You’ll miss her when she’s gone.”
Same! 💯
Same! Thank God!
The narcissist always trying to drive a wedge between you and what you love, your peace your happiness your passion bc they are incapable of all of those things . They are machines not Mammals..
No matter how great a vacation you had. No matter how much fun you had and how much work you put in making sure they had a good time. The narcissist will find any little reason, and I mean ANY little reason, to say you “ruined THEIR vacation”. Narcissists love to keep their partners stressed out and on edge.
This also explains why it’s so difficult to get others to understand what you’re going through. They only see the “vacation”.
22 year relationship, 1 vacation 7 years in that he made so awful I never asked to go anywhere ever again.
Then I left him and moved across the country, it took over a decade but now my entire life feels like a vacation 😉
What you posted is more encouraging for me than you’ll probably ever know. Thank you!
🎉 Good for you ❤ my next phase…
A vacation without him.
When the lovebombing stopped, he accused me of “MAKING” him spend $10,000.00 courting me. My response was, “I didn’t ask you to spend that on me. That was your choice and not my doing.” There was so much more to it, and I wish I knew then what I now know. I’m staying single & happy.
Not the same situation as you but I recently had a friend that once the love bombing was over and the devaluation had begun that false accusations also started.
Experienced the same here. All I wanted was to find a little note under the nutella jar in the morning on which was written “Have a good day, honey. You got this!”
Or some sort of text. Told him, but he wouldn’t do such things.
Never wanted the gifts, nor the dinings, nor the trips etc…
Just wanted normal healthy love.
Ugh so typical of them. They love saying that people used them, when people finally have the right to call them out.
Mine blamed me for having sex with him! OK? How did that even happen with HIM being a man and me a woman. I never forced him and then he threw it my face over and over! I thought we were in love, but it was just so sickening in the end. It sure takes a toll one a person.
It’s crazy how we spend so much time worrying about politics and social media, but we forget the most important foundation- our faith. Recently l read Your Life Your Game by Keezano, and it reminded me that trusting in God, accepting forgiveness, and living with intention are the real keys to living an abundant life, this book truly changed me…
For years, I thought success was all about working harder and pushing myself. But Mind Decoding by Keezano showed me that mindset is everything. I started working on my subconscious beliefs, and suddenly, things started flowing in ways I never expected. Honestly, I wish I had understood this years ago, it’s been one of the most eye-opening experiences of my life
thanks for sharing
I literally cut short every vacation we ever went on. There were always moments we seemed to be having a great time. But then every single time without fail, the demon shows up again. Then she would gaslight as though she couldn’t understand what went wrong. Followed by never ending promises next time would be different. What a psycho roller coaster! Never ever again.😳🤬
This is one thing I was spared from. My family couldn’t ruin vacations, because I’ve never had one in my entire life.
Isn’t it called stay-cation when you stay home and don’t travel anywhere during school holidays etc? And that thing usually got ruined instead, because narc/s would be at home more than usual. I have horrible memories about Christmas-NewYear time this way (school holidays + national holidays at the same time).
Once again, you hit the nail on the head! There are lots of people I’ve always said I can only spend small amounts of time with, wouldn’t want to go on vacation with even.
I remember when I went on two dates with one guy and I mentioned to him that I was planning a trip to Vietnam and he asked if he can tag along. I said no, I don’t know you. He got offended. Well, he turned out to be a narc shortly after that last date when I said we weren’t compatible. He said I used him and lead him on lol. I didn’t want marriage, he did. I don’t want to date men with kids because I don’t want kids at all. What more is there to talk about, right? Well he wanted a refund also for a gift that he gave me. I sent him the money and blocked him so that he will never have a reason to talk or stalk me. He simply reminded me why I don’t date anymore. Being single is so peaceful and fun, personally for me. Great video ❤
Never tell a narcissist what you like to do. I made that mistake and he never wanted to go to the beach. Last year said that I don’t like going deep sea fishing, I ended up at the beach by myself while he fished that whole time we were there. I met some real nice people and spent my days enjoying myself😉.