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Early signs … too good to be true, hogging the conversation..how they treat the less privileged…
Yeah – the narcissist always says, “I understand what you’re saying about this, and it has taken me until now to understand. It will just take me some time to adjust my actions.”
(Some time has been 35 years.)
So, they “get it,” but there’s an unknowable amount of time that they continuously need to stop being abusive.
I’ve confronted them about that numerous times, but they still make the claim.
I do not believe them. It’s always a future fake.
Yes, this is a slippery slope to hell. Hopium is a tease
Yes! “One day” were two words I heard constantly from the Narcissist.
I heard ‘ I don’t want to tell my plans, it brings bad luck ‘ but he strutted around as if he had great secrets.
Don’t loose your life and your time, those relationships don’t deserve a minute of your life
15 years too late! I live my life for me and my kids… he no longer gets his narc supply from me.
It just never got better . Ive tried to be everything to everyone and they still thought it was funny. I’ve finally got the memo once i got sick. Im just here doing this all on my own
He told me I wasn’t allowed to do the maintenance and repairs I’d been doing for ages, because he’s the man. Then he started taking my high quality tools, telling me I don’t need them anymore, and refused to do routine oil changes etc and let things break down instead, so I’d have to rely on him for repairs and he’d get the excitement of a crisis.
Wow the exact same thing happened to me.
Insisted on taking care of anything car related and then he didn’t do it at all.
When I would go ahead and take care of something with my car he would get furious with me.
I would be in heaven if i met someone who has the knowledge and tools like you. You are an amazing person. Never give up and never surrender and never change. Be you.
When I told the narcissistic husband that I was leaving him, he asked me a question; “Are you sure you want to do it? You are 57, and it is not easy to find a job at your age”. How predictable the script they use! I left him in 2020, during a pandemic.
My question for you in 2024 is: how are you doing? 🙂 Well, I hope.
@@PhotonBeast I am doing great. The first two years were unbearable, and I had intrusive thoughts every day for a while. I started breath work and meditations daily, and bit by bit, I got out of the nightmare of abuse. In May 2020, when he left for work, I jumped in the car and drove away across Canada from Alberta to Ontario with no contact and started a new life full of fun and miracles. I have not talked to him since, and that is the key to healing.
I took Dr. Ramani’s advice seriously and executed the plan to freedom.
They are insidious for putting seeds of doubt in our mind. But once you are aware of their tactics, you can observe and be ready to show no reaction. It messes with them if we show no reaction. It feels to them as if they don’t matter.
very brave
My son and I left during the pandemic as well. Scary and hard as hell. However, we’ve been making it so far without them (alone): but with God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit!
After the love bombing, expect nothing and be prepared for the worse.
I had dated some narcissists until, I met a … *narcissist* . Scary to say the least. How much they twist things and lie is just incredible.
8:19 Literally, he tells me that I can’t do things. He tells me that I don’t know things. And he completely ignores that I had a life before we ever met. It only gets worse over the years. He’s even called me ” completely useless”.
11:55 He would actually lash out at me saying “You know everything about everything! You should stay teachable and let me teach you things and show you how to do things!!” This actually meant show me how to do things HIS way. How to fill ice cube trays to the proper level, how to paint a board with the proper brush strokes, how to clean mirrors etc… it was annoying and exhausting!
‘It’s not me!’ ❤ thanks Dr Ramani..best book ever written if you ask me
I was in my own condo doing well then had a car accident that knocked me out of work for a while. That plus major account screw ups by the owners at my work negatively affected my finances. So I felt I had no choice financially but to sell my condo and move into a suite in my mom’s house. I also wanted to help my family with somethings. When I expressed I wanted my own place again, my mom said to me that I ‘couldn’t manage my finances’ which is not true nor fair at all. Her hurtful words slowly beat me down and I lost faith in my self. Realizing this is gaslighting lies to control me for her benefit. No more. Releasing the lies and remembering the truth that I am more than capable and it is her who is financially irresponsible buying a house she can’t afford. She wants me to stay here to help her pay for her house and help with family issues. Realizing it’s all unhealthy and unfair to me. Not taking it on. Letting it all go and taking myself back knowing I am fully capable and competent. Praying I get my own place again soon as I am working again and doing courses too. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤
My Mom continually says to me, “You can’t do that.” I was the one who painstakingly sorted through 30 yrs of my folks ‘life’ in order to sell the house, for money to move her, age 95, to be near me, 900 miles away, into an expensive assisted living facility. It was a horrific task, ripping my heart out. I worked through all of this and my narc brother got exactly what he had ‘worked’ toward for years: dumping Mom on me to care for her.
There is one way to let a narcissist know you see them for who they are. Be who you are and let them see you thriving.
Having spent years getting an education, working in fast-paced, highly demanding jobs while being a single parent for 45 years, I made it work and it turned out well. Until I met my ex a couple of years ago, his attempts to try and devalue and control me, he made it out as though I wasn’t even capable to tie my own shoes. Don’t waste your time with these people.
Took me a long time to realize that I am a narcissist magnet. I only attract these; plus psychopaths. I was wired wrong due to severe maternal narcissistic abuse. I realized that being alone and not in a relationship was and is a beautiful life. Ladies (and men) – you need to value yourself first before entering into any relationship. Dont allow anyone to dictate your life and choices. You matter!
I am living a single and celibate life, since 2015. Peace is so worth it.
Grateful for the peace and independence my camper provides while working and studying in Alameda County, living in Fremont. It’s been incredibly challenging at home, dealing with constant conflicts and my brother’s domestic violence, which feels dangerously out of control, almost like a 9/11 situation with his terrorist-like behavior. My history of physical abuse and being medicated as a child due to my single-parent family’s challenges has been tough to cope with. After turning 18, I lived with my dad’s side of the family, but by the time I was 31, I had to leave both sides due to constant fighting, yelling, and medical abuse. I also lost my father to an overdose after my grandmother, known as the ‘Black Widow of Bogarts,’ medicated him excessively. Malignant narcissists can often turn into black widows, and my experiences have been a testament to that. My mom’s actions in Fremont further complicated things. Embracing the freedom of the open road has been a crucial escape from the stress and chaos. 🌟