What Exactly Are You Hoping Will Change in a Narcissistic Relationship?
If you’re in a narcissistic relationship and keep wondering whether things will ever change, you’re not alone. Many people hold onto hope that a narcissist will become more empathetic, accountable, or emotionally safe — but rarely stop to define what change would actually mean. Getting clear on what you truly want to see change can shift you out of confusion and into clarity. Before you wait for a narcissist to be different, it may be time to ask yourself one very specific question.
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Narcissists put us in jeopardy
Yes, over and over again and it gets worse if you point it out
A weather can never be changed history can never be erased a narcissist will never change for better or worse.
Why do we have to be a MANIPULATOR to maintain SANITY?
Please don’t lose yourself in the process ❤🙏
Absolutely nothing, doc.
They are predators.
Sharks never change. They devour and destroy.
I completely agree! Dolphin in a pool of Sharks💥 Thanks for sharing your experience,strength & Hope with the community Dr. Romania
As my Divorce of 35yrs with my Vulnerable Narci wife is progressing and she’s losing control over what the Court System determines I’m entitled to, she’s changing her PERFORMANCE to change my mind and stop the process…
I’m staying clear eyed and proceeding with the Divorce so I can get to SURVIVOR MOUNTAIN, SEE YA’LL AT THE TOP!😇
Best wishes!
@sparkygumpTY Sparky (Love the handle 😊), KNOW you’re a wonderful Soul…🎉🎉❤❤
The passive aggression.
@ND-or5soOH YEAH!
TY Dr Ramani for the miracle of sight to a man who was once blind!❤
@kenanglemire8328 thanks! I just felt the need to wish you well. I’m dealing with a 30 year+ narc relationship can relate with your struggle. I don’t know about my being a wonderful soul but I know for sure I’m not a narcissist. My handle I took is just the name of a cherished Beagle I once had. He was definitely a wonderful soul. Take Care!
i did leave my narc ex fiancé cause the change won’t happen. but i hope she saw how bad i was hurting and would change. but i was only destroying myself by staying and waiting on my part was insanity. 2 years away and im so at peace!
I want her to stop insisting on having hours-long phone calls and daily visits to do her chores, and I want her not to hang up on me and start rage-texting me in all caps if I say one thing she doesn’t like.
DON’T GIVE UP ON YOURSELVES!
The World needs your Beautiful Soul…❤❤❤❤❤
Peace Be With All of You on this hurtful journey! ❤
Hope can keep you in a horrible relationship forever. Don’t be hopeful. Don’t future fake yourself.
https://youtu.be/IwuHnCrGGwc?si=wP6PnM7CkyXfUuBF
SURVIVING 🎉
So very true. I keep making the mistake thinking an unreasonable person will suddenly become reasonable.
I think hope is one of the strongest emotions.
Please don’t ever think your work on this topic isn’t significant to us Survivors and Victims Dr Ramani. 🙏
You keep working it and I’ll commit to doing the work and sharing with others in need of your teachings ❤🎉❤TY
LIFE CHANGING TEACHINGS!!
Absolutely. Clarity is what ends the madness.
So Brilliant
At this point, I just want out.
Stay strong Mary and KNOW the World needs your Beautiful Soul. It might not feel like it at times,but KNOW YOU’RE LOVED ❤PBWY 🕊
Thank you. I needed this reminder. Do not fall for euphoric recall and always remember DEEP.
Thank you Dr Ramani for all the work you are doing on this subject and the lives you are saving, including mine. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
It’s like asking a cat to become a dog. Ain’t gonna happen
“Waste so much time trying to understand the narcissist.” How about a lifetime. I sought help but there were no resources like Dr. Ramani. Please listen and learn from her. Do not waste all the time, effort and pain that I did. I suffered and suffered for nothing. You are all in my prayers.