What happens when a narcissist loses their power or status
Ever wonder how narcissists respond when life falls apart? Whether it's losing power, money, or status—this video explores why narcissistic people often can't bounce back, and what their collapse reveals about the truth behind their grandiosity.
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Happy mother day to all the mothers out there! ❤
Or Happy Dead Mother’s Day 😉
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@@SuB-gy4rbwe are legion
@@SuB-gy4rb I see mine in my dreams every now and then, and every time I call her out for being dead. WTF is that about? 🤔😵💫😋
Never forget they won’t shed a tear if you take a fall.
They love it
Why would they shed a tear if you take a fall? Chances are they’re the one who tripped you. It’s a feel good moment for the narcissist.
@@TLP1985 Tripped you and then went after you with an ax because you kept getting up and moving on.
@@thecustodian1023 And when you tell people who tripped you they don’t believe you and it just makes your situation worse. The more you reach out for help to stop the abuse, the more abuse you get. Literally dying inside from the abuse and nothing you can do about it.
They are dysphoric when others succeed and elated when they fail.
The narcissistic people adding to an already difficult time. Taking it out on those close to them, instead of drawing together.
I think someone who grew up in poverty is more likely to be resilient because they don’t have the economic resources and help (people) that others who do have. It is born out of survival and necessity rather than what sources of comfort they have.
@@donovangray4246 I don’t think that’s true for narcissists. Some narcissists that grew up poor might have more determination to be rich but that’s not resilience.
@compulsivehonesty I was thinking more about overcoming things. Poverty pushes you to adapt and if a person is narcissistic they’ll use others to get what they want, they won’t persevere on their own
The “glory days” story telling. I DON’T miss that! My ex would retell, word for word, stories of his past as if it was just last week; to anyone and everyone that would lend him an ear. I knew what story he was going to recite by the first words out of his mouth. He had them all memorized. He would tell them even when the “story” wasn’t relevant/appropriate in the current conversation. Sometimes they were used to build up his ego and brag, other times they were to make others feel inferior and/or stupid. Sometimes they would show his total lack of empathy and remorse but rather his “personal justification” for his poor (even criminal) behaviour. I told myself the reason he lives in his past is because of his lack of resilience and inability to accept all his losses and failures.
My narc has no life so all of his stories are someone else’s story. I finally said, if so and so wants me to know that, they’ll tell me. Stop telling other people’s stories.
Boy, was he angry! Put an end to the boring stories.
Omg this sounds like my nex. He’d tell the same stories over and over never letting the other person get a word in edgewise.
Oh my god, and then they force you to become their audience
And most of those stories are fabricated LIES!
@@scullerymaid9758 I’m glad it put an end to them for you. I tried by asking my ex why he feels the need to repeat the same stories over and over. He didn’t have an answer. And even when he would start telling one again and everyone expressed that they’d already heard it, it was like once he started spouting the words he couldn’t stop until the end! He was relentless and totally intolerable.
The narcissist I knew very well had a high status job that he always talked about as being several levels higher than it really was. It had all the trappings – great title, expense accounts, international travel, fine restaurants and hotels etc. so it was glamorous, when it went away he could never get back to that level, he even blew interviews with his haughtiness and elitism that would have plugged him back in at that level. What then happened was bitterness and resentment and blaming of the world for not recognizing his superiority. That went on to the end more or less, his only out was being able to hide behind retirement and act like the setback that was permanent didn’t really happen.
The answer to this question is basically the plot of King Lear.
They do love the status, ie award winning realtor and church pillar.
What happens when a narcissists lose their ability to control people? They take out their anger on customer-facing employees, such as retail staff, bus operators and customer service representatives in banks. I’ve been on the receiving end many times.
The reality show example is so accurate 🤣
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I finally went no contact with my mom who calls herself a life coach and she has spun it just like you said, as a reinvention narrative. As if she was the one that spent years trying to please me and now has let go and found herself 😂
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When my abusive ex lost custody of our two children, after being found guilty in children’s court of child abuse, he ran to another state to start over. He believed he could just ignore child support and court orders, and seemed utterly shocked whenever the system caught up to him.
Later, at his criminal sentencing for s*xual assault, I overheard him bragging that he’s in four bands, and plays lead guitar, etc. “don’t you know these consequences will affect our tour?”. But, whatever new life he has concocted for himself is hollow and unsustainable. How will he pay $65/each for his full year of s*xual assault perpetrator classes which he was ordered to complete? How unfair that he has to register! He went in smug, and went out hysterically crying. The reality is, he probably will fail to fulfill the requirements of his probation and won’t up in contempt and in jail.
It is a huge tragedy that what it took for people to finally believe me was my children being harmed.
Thank you for this. I can’t even imagine what it would be like to have that kind of collapse. It seems it would be like being sucked into a black hole of your own making while feeling the extreme fear of being alone.
‘When you think they look more together than you when real life happens, think again’. This gentle reminder cuts it.🙏❣
i feel like “relentlessness” is a far better term than “resilience” when it comes to the ways in which narcissists persist in certain ways and pathologies.
What happens, from my personal experience, when you take back your power from a narcissist is the most vicious smear campaign you could never imagine. This is especially true within narcissistic family structures. They WILL make you pay for leaving to escape their abuse. Their abuse doesn’t end. It just finds a different avenue. And it’s pretty awful when long time friends or family become their flying monkeys.
May the children of narcissistic mothers feel peace today and always. 🕊️
It has taken me 8 years to realize this in a business partner. It’s down right scary thinking about what they will do when I leave. Thanks to your videos I have finally realized what the entire situation was about. Grandiose personal perspective, stuck in their heads and constantly thinking and scheming, always the victim, two faced when near the public vs near you, everything you say is wrong, and will spin words to get you to say what they want to hear. Plus, they will look for any sexual outlet they can get. Tell them what they want to hear to feed their ego and alleviate their suspicion. Plan quietly and quickly to get out and move on. I feel sorry for them to be stuck in this neurological feedback loop. But you cannot change them, and no matter how hard you try, you will never help them enough. YOU have to be resilient with your life, and just watch them fall apart from the sidelines and remember: you did everything you could have done and know the issue is their own issues – not yours.