What people say instead of ‘narcissist’
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Narcissist is another word for jerk or selfish
Yes, of course, and many other adjectives…..
Narcissism is MUCH more than simple ‘jerk’-ish or selfish behavior. It is so totally destructive to the people around the narcissist. Slow-acting poison to the soul.
And narcissists can be evil. In fact, I’d say they’re pure evil. You don’t know what evil is if you haven’t been abused by a narcissist. They are more evil than psychopaths. It’s not just the malignant narcissist that is evil dr Ramani.
Thank you. Demon and Narcissist, I am no sure which is worst, because there is no demonic behavior that can match the abuse of any Narcissist, especially the covert Narc, the creme de la creme, chameleons, green snake under the green grass, wolves in sheeps clothing, public angels but private demons. Anyone who has been abused by a covert narcissist and survive, deserves an award.
Amen
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Yep, especially when we as their children are the victims
You’re exactly correct. Distortion of reality could never come from goodness.
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Narcissists are always insecure
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Same to you, thank you 🎉🎉❤
Happy New Year 🎉 Cheers to resilience, healing, learning, & clarity❤
Thankyou so much for helping to make sense of my own disregulated behaviours and patterns and for continuing to create awareness of the narc, and helping to recoveri gleanings of sanity from all the madness.
Happy new year( no I’m not trying to gaslight you, it is an early greeting)
(Happy narc free new year!!
Here’s hopin’ )
thanks to you (and people like you)
with wisdom and compassion for giving the tools and tips to navigate in these relationships, and for not pulling any punches when it comes to the truth of narcissism .
I would usually say extremely toxic. Many people are coming around to getting and understanding the information. Others arent and I would avoid explaining to them.
Slowly but surely. I believe platforms like this are bringing awareness
You have given a wealth of knowledge on the dark hell Narcissistic people are and you explain them in simple terms. You don’t miss anything and I cast this onto my TV at night and really love hearing you help those of us that have been unfortunate enough to know how bad it can be. I remember learning to laugh at things to keep from crying. Once I said to myself in another day of chaos with my spouse, “so this is what a lunatic is like …literally “…my animals began to protect me. Cats and dogs both while I slept. They’d warn him if he stood over me, got near me. My animals sensed every bad thing he was up to. I wonder if anyone else also had animals in this same situation. Me, my dogs, and my cat all have ptsd from things he did. Mine loved terrorizing me. Thank you for speaking on resilience. I know I have it. He constantly wanted to see if he coukd wittle me awat mentally.I knew I had to plan carefully carefully…he wasn’t smarter, just meaner.
My cats avoided the narz. He was hateful and angry to them. I got out.
My male dogs, both my firstborn and my current boy, have or have had PTSD from his abuse. My firstborn was the most protective of them all, and my current boy was the one who lived with him the longest (and I regret that every day since it was my idea; biggest mistake of my life), but my girls, feline and canine alike, don’t like him compared to how much they love the rest of the family. My current boy refuses to listen to him anymore because he dislikes my father so much. Narcissists don’t like animals compared to humans because they need all the attention they can get, and let’s be honest, animals bring out our fawning admiration instincts a lot faster than the narcissists do. Animals are the true definition of authentic and that’s what draws us closer to them. That means attention is taken away from the narcissist. But an animal, inversely, validates a narcissist if they’re the only thing the animal knows, so that’s why narcissists like dogs slightly better than cats. I shy away from dog people because most of them don’t get a dog for the right reason; they get dogs for validation, superiority, etc. whereas cats are generally more independent (unless you’re my cats, in which case prepare for constant snuggles).
So basically: if you have a narcissist in the same home as an animal, it goes badly.
@seasonsstarsstudios In my experience, you’re right! Narcs & pets don’t do well together. When we were parting ways, he agreed to care for our pets (2 dogs, 3 cats) until I could close on a house of my own. We were in separate states when I returned to collect some items and see my babies. One dog was getting out the fence and running free. He’s a little fella so I convinced the land lady of my temporary accommodations to let me have him with me there. It took me four months to find a home and close on it. Yay, I could finally have my babies back. …NO. turns out that 2 cats died and 1 cat and the remaining dog and cat (reportedly) ran away and have have never been recovered. That was nearly 5 years ago.
Heart wrenching. 💔
Post separation abuse is REAL.
Raised by a psychopathic dad, today I’m grumpy actually I’m just sad..I’ve noticed a lady I’m close to is grumpy a lot. I realize she’s sad. She does a lot of crying. I had forgotten my heart pill the other day. It’s used for Cptsd too. When I noticed that it works with my sadness too. Not just anxiety. Kinda a bummer. It’s ok though, I’ve still have healed quite a bit.. thank you Dr Ramani- I need to revisit some of your older videos. . All we can do is grow ..
A cool person is a person who is cool with other people being different.
Not a thing you’ll see in a narcissist.
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Dr. Ramani we are and always will be forever grateful ✝️💯💜🙏.
You spend months, years, or even decades trying to find excuses for their behavior, even opplogize for things that you shouldn’t be sorry for, wishing they will get better, then it reaches a point that you cannot take it any more and once the dust settles after the mess and you start connecting the dots and link them to narcissistic traits, you realize how much time and effort you lost and how unfortunate you were to get stuck with one of them!
So true.
Currently in that last stage. Making me do a lot of self reflection
💯 Percent. Prefectly worded. Like rotting food, it doesn’t get better. They’re rotten inside.
Thiz passage u typed ….
Cannot more accurately describes what has happened to me….
Its as if i have typed it myself….
Same happened to me…
The only thing was that I left early though Unconsciously but i got out man…
Happy new year btw 2 all stay safe😊😊
@bluebottle548Happy New Year! Cheers to us!!! 🎉🍾🥂
As an adult child of a Malignant narcissistic mother, you have helped me immensely to make sense of so much. 🙏
Dr Ramani is the best for that
I see more & more of us raising that topic – adult “child”, one (or more) narcissistic parent, many of whom are respected in the community … so we’re put down and gaslit by a lot of the society around us. Seeing there are literally millions of us in solidarity & community can help us feel less crazy
@amarbyrd2520 🙏
My ex husband was a “soft boy.” He was a vulnerable narcissist who nearly killed me, left me destitute, and no one believed me.
*_Just before his retirement. A 20-year Psychiatrist and 20-year Pastor of a church. Who insisted “He Knew People” told me personally to “Watch Out For Anybody Too Nice.” He said, “Everybody gets grumpy sometimes.” “Everybody has a bad day now and then.” He said, “Anytime you see somebody that is always too nice. Dripping with honey. With a harp in 1 hand. They’re surely hiding something.”_*
That pastor spoke the truth regarding over the top nice people. They’re the type who are hiding deep shame, low self-esteem, personal and marital problems, envy and jealousy, etc. They hide behind kindness and pretending to be happy all the time to 1, escape their issues, and 2, to fool others and detract them from delving deeper about their personal lives. I had one of Miss Goody Two Shoes tell me that she didn’t have any problems and was always happy all the time. She made it seem as though she had never, ever experienced a day of hardship in her entire existence. I said stay tuned because eventually you will at some point. I could sense that there was some hidden pain that her ego wouldn’t allow her to talk about out of shame. People like her are covert narcissists, and they’re really concerning and can’t be trusted. They’re like snakes because you never know when they will strike. Behind closed doors, they’re seething with rage, animosity, jealousy,and hate.
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This is really very helpful.
I’ve just realised that my mother is a Covert Narcissist… It’s not like I’ve not got problems, I’ve been aware my whole life that ‘there is something wrong with or missing in me’ but I have always felt anxiety and always been hypersensitive to the emotional atmosphere I find myself in. I’ve been terrified to be alone, supersensitive to criticism, really afraid of being a narcissist myself. I’ve been through psychosis countless times and twice been sectioned into psychiatric hospital. I live in a state of almost continuous overwhelming anxiety. Nothing I do ever seems good enough and I am so very tired. I have a terrifying fear of being alone and cannot do the truly adult things in life like feel comfortable with making choices for myself and carrying them out with any kind of sustainability.
Repeating cycles of partial success and failure.
I feel so very alone in the world.
I am 53 years old, twice-divorced, father of two adult sons… still so lost.
Watching this video and others like it gives me hope that deep change is possible and that the letter period of my life might contain more peace and understanding than it has up to now.
Thanks 🙏🏼
I’d say that “Oh, they’re just a big drama queen / drama king” is a big narcissism indicator for me. I can’t imagine a non-narcissistic drama queen/king. When every story is exaggerated for validation and attention, down to the point where outright lies don’t matter at all (and where the antagonism of other characters is amplified or even outright imagined), where the person is cast as the incredibly flawless central character in some stage play where the world is out to get them or doesn’t “get” their inherent grandeur – this fits the bill too.
If my mom is having a bad grumpy day I’ll be FOR SURE fighting so she doesn’t make my day worse and grumpier than hers. She’s grumpy, I’m GUILTY. I’m apologizing for things that are not my fault trying to stop the grumpiness. If you are NOT feeling GUILTY, it’s normal grumpiness.