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When the narcissist gets sick, they will expect you to drop everything for them. If you get sick, they will play the victim even while you’re sick. They will act like they’re even sicker than you.
You are sooo right.
This is the perfect 👌🏾 summary
That is all about “sick and twisted”.😊
@@NarcSurvivor So true. Anything is always greater than what you have. It is ALL about them. Forget your needs or feelings.
Amen, they are definitely like this
My narc husband was just told he has congestive heart failure….all hell has broke loose and somehow everything is my fault!
I’m sorry. I have had a similar experience 😢
Just tell him he should be glad because his heart is broken yet.
Maybe he got COVID 19 Vax injury? Karma
I’m taking care of one that has dementia. It’s unreal. The frowning on his face. He fights me like a WWE wrestler. It’s like he’s trying to hurt me? I can’t feel sorry for him anymore.
so you are going to let him die i hope?
Yes!! My experience was I got emergency surgery to get my appendix removed. He left me at the hospital because he was “too sleepy”… When I got discharged (on Mother’s Day) he told me to make sure I was ready to get picked up because he was going to be late to the gym..
Literally the next week he sprains his ankle. I drove him to the hospital but the nurses wouldn’t let me in with him so I left for a quick drive to kill time. He was so dramatic and said he couldn’t believe I just left him there. Mind you, I was nearby..
Mine didn’t remember a car hitting me and breaking my leg in my late teens, two surgeries and nearly a year on crutches. Nor, conveniently does he remember my compensation paying of his mortgage years later when the bailiffs were knocking. You really cant make this s**t up. x
Since a narcissist is the most excellent actor, also the role as a sick person will be performed in a way Hollywood stars would be jealous about.
My kids father had a stroke. The drs diagnosis is he is fully recovered. But he can hardly lift his feet, until a pretty girl walks past ,he can really cover ground to catch up with her! I pity the woman who lives with him now. 😂
Just remembering my Mom awhile ago, beaming and smiling in the nursing home once she came out of the worst… enjoying the attention of pouring visitors, nurses, doctors…she literally felt the world may not function till she got better…
Slowly she has lowered her standards as she ages further but will hold onto ANY power and supply she can get her hands on…
Full Adult Toddler Experience!!!
F.A.T.E.? 😢
No one sicker than them Paper cut and it is terminal cancer They are sicker with cold than a child in hospital very sick They tell strangers when out how sick they are Goes on and on Had mother and husband same decades of it
@@JAYSONGS 👍👍
I’m going through this right now, and I’m sick of it. They take no responsibility for themselves and keep ending up in the hospital. What’s worse is the system itself and how crappy it’s become. I’m over it. Thanks, Dr. Ramani for addressing this situation. It was very timely.
They take your caregiving for granted. 😮
That’s an understatement. They don’t see it as a good will, they see it as your duty.
My narc mother never got sicker than when she learned someone else was terribly ill or especially dying! She would take to the sofa so sick she could hardly walk. I saw her run to the bathroom while sticking a finger down her throat so she would vomit as soon as she knew there was someone watching. Especially when we got word my dad was dying. She was so angry.
They blame us when they get sick and get much more difficult. If we get sick it’s also our fault.
I experienced this. This is a very valuable video. It’s very confusing, you can’t do enough, when you set boundaries no one understands…. you’re put into the adversary position and that’s the last place you want to be, and the only one that protects you… The guilt and shame are immense even with validation from others. You can’t, and shouldn’t do it all. I wish i had an answer — you’re damned if you do, and damned if you don’t. Just believe you’ll be stronger on the other side, and give yourself time to heal.
I recently cared for my 86 year old father while he had a near life ending emergency. He is a very bad enabler of my narc step mother, (76 years old.) They are complete toxicity together.
They both had the hospital & eventually the nursing home in chaos.
They yelled at everyone, including me.
My step mother royally raked me over the coals in front of the hospital social worker. I didn’t say anything. She looked entirely abusive.
I went into silent, shut down mode, & I’m grateful for that.
She made a complete fool out of herself.
It eventually became me that the health care personnel would call for updates and info.
During this extremely stressful period, I began to shake. At home, out the blue, I would just shake. I have never experienced anything like this. I had been away from that scene for some time before his health scare.
Apparently, it all affected me more than I knew and now, when I am home and safe, like an animal that escapes prey, I shake.
It is horrible, inconvenient & disturbing side effect of that abuse.
I now just let it happen and it’s slowly going away.
(Trust me, I went through more than shaking when I was fully immersed in narc abuse. )
Remember, when you may have to go back in, your body remembers too..
If you start to shake, hopefully you’re at home safe, & just shake it out.
These people wreak havoc on the nervous system too.
I’m so glad I have a new life farther away. Even being submerged for a bit again, took its toll..
Peace to you all.
I hope you can get out and stay out too.
I remember after surgery recovering at home that my mom would ignore what I’d say and she’d cause more pain.
But when she was recovering I had to be super gentle with her.
When a narcissist gets sick, that’s when it really becomes hellish.
I’ve experienced that contempt. When they are in horrible pain you are their dedicated advocate, not to leave their side.
After surgery and 5 month restrictions he became enraged with the restrictions.
I had 4 teenagers still in the home. After the death glare I went and purchased him the do it all yourself kits and joined the others and was out of his hair.
The narcissist has the ability to be sick on demand. Especially when they want to avoid responsibilities. 😂😂
Then their karma makes them sick for real.😂😂.
@budayjerang2195 wild wild facts 🤣
I feel like my narcissistic mother will never die.
Yup! My Mom has resurrected from multiple strokes, brought the house down over the couple of years, Dad went crazy looking after her every second of every day and night, has withered away and my Mom has since recovered and getting back to her ‘invincible’ persona once again…
Listened to other videos, including Dr Ramani’s where it’s clearly says narcissist people live longer and longer…
Oh man, Dr. Ramani, you nailed it again! Yes, they don’t think any physical ailment will ever befall them. And they love to blame a person who does get sick…or fat (God forbid!)…on their own laziness and lack of self-discipline…..or “they just didn’t take care of themselves”. And none of those things will ever happen to them because “I take good care of myself!” They’re like a bunch of spoiled brats who probably have the self-talk of “OMG What will I do if I can’t look good?! Life will be over and not worth living anymore”. Oh, boo hoo. Karma is going to be a bigger b*tch to them than anyone else could ever be.
I love karma.
Both of my parents had heart conditions/ high blood pressure. Any of my issues and concerns including my own health were dismissed because I wasn’t supposed to “give them any problems” because it was bad for THEIR health.
Meanwhile, I was the one expected to drop everything for them for their every whim.
It was a no win situation.
You should do a video of how the narcissist will react when you get sick. Recently had that experience, they made it all about themselves and what an inconvenience it was for them.
I got chronic illnesses and once almost died as I never wanted to tell my Narcissistic Mom and my enabler Dad that I am sick…now at 55, I am battling childhood trauma and chronic illness symptoms but at least now I know!!!
Thanks to Dr Ramani and this community 🙏🏽
@@earthrooster1969 yes, we share the same (sad) lifestory… i am in nc anymore since i’m so very ill (not convenient for ‘some’ moms right…), ‘knowing’ indeed does a lot, it helps, i so HOPE soon my partner will realise, i doubt he ever will, he still goes visiting etc. It’s scarey, hugs from Belgium
My supposedly best friend didn’t show up or care when I had serious health issue a few years ago. When I told her I would have to undergo anesthesia and procedure that really scared me (first time ever in my life), she acted like I was making a fuss about nothing and worrying without a reason. It was like I told her I was going to get some milk at the supermarket. In comparison, when she had even the slightest minor health issue, I would have to listen to her complaining about it for hours and offer a shoulder to lean on. I realised she was in a sort of competition of “my health problems are more serious and yours are meaningless”. Really twisted. Although this period of my life was hard (I’m better now) it opened my eyes and let me see the true nature of this person, who was in fact never my friend. I cut ties with her and don’t regret it a bit.