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Lots of men want sexual exclusivity…but still don’t want commitment
Indeed
I fell into this- when he asked me to be his girlfriend, and be exclusive with me- that equaled commitment. He said I want someone to be vulnerable with-sounded honest to me.
I began to invest in him!
Turns out he isn’t capable and is codependent! It took me down emotionally. He wanted sex all the time and eventually broke up with me while saying “our chemistry” is off the charts. Crazy making esp because I was hooked. This was off and on for 3 1/2 years. 😮😢
@@KarenSteelMusic I have had my heart broken over similar misunderstanding. This is why what Jonathan says is so pertinent. We need to keep asking the hard questions. Is his idea of commitment the same as ours. Otherwise its so easy to get mislead
I was easily manipulated bc the guy knew how to play a woman well, especially a vulnerable and a bit naive one
@@juliaskagfjord6207 – exactly! Thanks for your reply👌
I stupidly spent 3 1/2 years in a long distance (2 hrs away)with a man like this after my divorce. Broke up multiple times because the relationship never progressed and he would always come back promising change and I would give another chance. Your videos have been spot on. He had no friends. He was a spender never went deep. Thank you. Wish I wouldn’t have wasted this time.
Happy to help…
🤷🏽♀️Been there…did that. Lesson learned and when we know better, we do better😉
Happened to me too. What a waste. But I learned my lesson and I won’t get involved with a self obsorbed and selfish person, and emotionally constipated like Johnathan says Lol
@@claudieC. waste
Many of us. I beleievex that someone would come who I barely know afrer 2 sweet fake messages
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80% are wankers too.
Ben in an LDR for the last 30 days. Started out on fire until the last few days. Text have been one liners over 24-36 hr intervals. I think maybe we are on the way out.
@@ericrc100 that could be the case…
I met this wonderful man on eharmony. We are long distance, so we only saw each other a few times, but talked a great deal.
He shared his past relationships about how bad these women were.
He was good on all levels like youlisted.
It made me fearful he would judge me too. He started breaking up with me over what seemed to be no reason. The first time he said it was because I had a roommate that started out as a love interest.
He told me I lied about the relationship and hung up on me.
The second time was something trivial too. Just recently he did it again saying he was entitled to an
Explanation as to why I was taking meds for depression and anxiety.
That bothered me!
I’m so confused.
I’VE BEEN WITH A 100% USER FOR 6 YEARS, KNOW ALL ABOUT IT. IT TOOK SOME TIME, BUT NEVER AGAIN!!
Being used by someone is definitely cruel
It sure is and it happens way too often.
100% true
Yes it is
Especially if the person has a disability
I’m a grower and builder dating wise
Spenders: they want to spend your time and energy but no commitment. On the surface they look like they have potential
Ive been thru these types….Im tired…I don’t want to waste time anymore. I love to just be by myself and just relax
Cultivating self love and being aware of your worth and value protects you against those whose only intentions are to take advantage.
I feel the same way
@@donnaatienza8001 I feel the same way as all of you. It’s depressing and exhausting. I can’t believe I was that stupid but I was.
The other day i basically told a fool, that he keeps doing what he does, and ended with, keep on keeping on, Good Luck to You…i thought he s a big slow, he knows nothing about what is Important. How do these people get in higher places? The world is mad and Madder, that is the Best Explanation I Have…far out thank God, for the Digitial Age.
Just love yourself girl!
I think I will stick to building my life back and enjoy what makes me happy. No more pleasing someone else.Its time to b selfish
It’s not being selfish….it’s your right to do self care!!!
It’s healthy selfishness
I could write a book on this from my last “relationship”, although I think my ex husband did too. Don’t let yourself be used. See the red flags, set boundaries & get out before you invest emotionally. Take it from an older woman who learned the hard way 🙏🌈
Me 2. ❤ I was used by my husband he was a abusive person. I thought I could change him. But I guess drugs took over
Hi. Relationships are akways risky. Its qctually luck of rhe draw. Once peiple stayed together because there was no other choice?
There are good men but finding them is another thing a wast off yur life trying
@@joansheekey476 hi. I am with you. It will take to long, its better to live your life your way. I have done this since; my late twenties.i dressed lovely and nicer accessories. I came and went and travelled my way. I saved a lot of money, and now i live amazingly well. Girls that thought, they had it all figured out relationally, are thinking???…life is strange because it seems it works out the opposite, to how you planned, for sure. Cheers…
@@joansheekey476I so agree. It’s like a needle in a haystack and a huge amount of time trying. I’m happy not wasting that time and enjoying my own company.
“texting is the weakest form of communication” excellent point
Pursuing men is not a good idea. If he’s pursing me, I ask him straight up what he wants.
I learned this 10 years ago. I don’t sleep with someone outside of marriage and was turning 50 so, after doing the math, there simply wasn’t good odds of finding a man who didn’t have an agenda and was a truly good man. I immediately stopped dating, began investing that time in myself and animal rescue and have never looked back and never been lonely.
Smart and intelligent.
Atta Girl !!
Good for you. Great 👍 choice. If I wasn’t with a great guy who also into rescue I would be doing exactly the same.
My future life
There were several marriage proposals and I remained chaste in my life for the man I’d marry. But maybe my parameters are high or I simply lose interest when I see something not to my upbringing values. I’m retired now but contented in my single blessedness, well-provided by God, and has enjoyed my various overseas trips and helped my family while still working.
I wasted three years in my fifties with a guy who never talked about our future. But he said, I love you every day! I stupidly held on. Then one day he just never called again. I was crushed and I shut myself off from all men. I blamed myself, but he was the real cripple.
His loss sweet one!!! 😊
i am so sorry to hear that….been with my user for 2 years now…..scared to let go ….rather be used than ignored I guess….
update we are over now…uggg he just blocked me ….I was nothing to him….just a free sex worker to him…ugggg heart broken not sure where to go from here
That’s just horrible, they can be cruel. It’s plain abuse and it means he had no conciounce / scrupules at all.
@@artsylady3187Hope you’re feeling better today. Some men are worthless and sadly will make feel precious women feel worthless but you are worthy of respect and genuine care in return.
I.always believe it for others more than myself….
He opened up to me, cried on my shoulder about his ex, was interested in my life, introduced me to family and friends, he did everything, because I was helping him out financially, I was his back up bank account. He has mastered the art of using people so much, he spent 4.5yrs using me,he did put off conversation about the future, he said he wasn’t ready and he didn’t know how to love anyone, but he was willing to try, he ended up throwing me aside, ghosted me like I was a dirty rag, I have never experienced this before, always heard women talk about it, but this is the worst thing any human could ever do to another
💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞
Same thing happened to me only I was in the relationship for 19 years. And he had the audacity to say that I wasted his time.
I hope you find happiness and love yourself so unconditionally and stay positive, think positive, speak positive. People can be so awful. Don’t allow their trauma, using you, etc…. to cling to you. Shake that stuff off and get busy loving yourself. I’m reminding myself to do the same. Wishing you all the best Trina. You know you deserve better. 💖
@@exoterick333 it’s been so difficult, but I’m trying. Thanks for your encouragement.
@@elizabethbarringer2791 I’m so sorry.
When you get to a certain age you don’t have time to waste time. I agree
1. Leads with sex / only interested in sex.
2. Doesn’t open up to you.
3. Doesn’t ask about you, after initial hunt phase.
4. He doesn’t protect you.
5. You’ve never met their family or friends.
6. Doesn’t go out of his was for you.
7. He puts off being exclusive & avoids convos about the future.
💯. It’s a great summary. Penny
A woman can take a page 📄 out of his play book as well.
Sounds narcissistic too..
Thx
That summed it up nicely.
I agree with all 7.
You’re on point with every valid reason
I’m a firm believer in full commitment first 😊. Sexual intimacy is precious and NOT to be taken casually 😊.
True. It will only hurt afterwards. It made me more vulnerable and sensitive.
Being alone is not the worst thing in life. We are born alone and we die alone. Learning to love yourself will save you years of suffering. Con men will say how much they love you, abusers are a reality, weak and entitled men are plentiful. It is difficult to find a man who knows your true value. Truth be told, women are the first and last form of slavery. You are your only hope for a hero. Be true to yourself and be brave.
Kick in even if you were married the female usually dies last so you’re alone eventually. Most of my late grandma friends were widows and joined senior citizens for companionship of other women, minus the sex. They seemed to be happy without a man.
being alone for me is TORTURE….but all the other stuff you said about slavery is true…..men still treat us like dirt…..my guys calls women FEMALES ….like lowers us to a biological thing….I don’t know it is weird how they can justify how they treat us….
Excellent post!
I love this so much thank you for sharing. ❤️❤️❤️
@@MagicalMadness143 Thank you. Always be true to yourself without hurting others. Love comes from within and then it expands so others can love. Just sitting next to someone can mean something without words.
Not a protector… this hit home! My former fiancé and I were at a destination wedding. We went on a boat tour and he never helped me on or off the boat. The young man who did turned to me and said, Please remember that your man did not help you. I do this all day and that means something.” Another time when he was visiting me, I mentioned that I would really appreciate if he could help me with pulling weeds. My kids were little. I had no help. He told me to hire someone. Meanwhile, I had cleaned his entire house when I visited him some weeks before. I also had an operation when I was with him. He couldn’t be with me and told me to have my Mom or Dad take me. He sent flowers but he couldn’t be counted on to help in any way. Glad I never married him.
Wow scary how little people care. Thank you for sharing.
That’s awful !!!
They can future fake you too!
Ive had it done to me !
@mariapearce8617
What do you mean by “future fake you”?
@@carolrucker4563pretend you have a future together but you are really a place holder or have resources they can use. If someone has more resources or look better or give more narcissistic supply than the promises of a future together that hooked you doesn’t exist.
I’m done with relationships. Was with a user, abuser, narcissist and it cost me a lot. I had to move 1400 miles away and am developing a nice life for myself. ❤️
I’m sorry.
Hush dear I can just imagine how broken you were….