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Andrew McLaurin
I’m exposing evil. Silence enables.
Wow – gosh is that ever a definition I relate to my whole life
So true
Two of my favorite therapists. What a treat.
You have both been instrumental in my healing.
Thank you for selflessly creating content to help us heal from childhood and narcissistic abuse!🙏❤️🙏
We’re still desperately trying to get mom or dad to love us. It’s compulsive repetition. I’m only just now stopping at 57. Thanks you two. You’re helping many people heal this in themselves.
Well said. 👍🌻
I just discovered Thwarted Belongingness and Perceived Burdensomeness ~ this has explained my 6+ decades
Is that a book and if so where is it available?
So true. Trying to get a difficult person to be good to us is a sign of childhood trauma. Not any more in my case!
Yassss that is soooooooo true! Trying to get a difficult person to be good to you. I’ve tried this in many many many areas of my life. Thanks narc mom + dad! It’s the crap gift that keeps on giving
One sentence killer fact
Because we know that, as adults, they’re perfectly capable of doing so, that’s why.
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Omg. I was raised by a wonderful parent with unconditional love, but I was groomed* and abused repeatedly by the first man I ever knew and trusted when I was 12. Treated like trash. And I pick people who clearly don’t value me like he did.
All of my relationships I care so much and just wait and beg to be cared for and it doesn’t ever happen.
OMG, your guest is spot on!!! 🔥
I do not have words that Patrick is on Dr. Ramani’s channel. Patrick has been SO helpful and so has Dr. Ramani. Love to see this.
This explains so much of the way I relate to difficult and/or toxic people and I had no idea that it was a symptom of CPTSD. It makes a lot of sense though. I’m glad that I have been moving away from this way of relating and have better boundaries now. Education around trauma and DBT have been very helpful. You can learn something new every day!
Because we think there’s something we can do. Eff this is so right!!! Thank you!!!!
Dr Patrick ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Amen!
Yes! My siblings and I did this constantly to try and apease my father. It set us up, especially us gals, for entering into disastrous long term relationships with covert narcissists. Until I realized I was in a thirty years long toxic relationship with my ex husband, I continued to try and justify my father’s behavior. I made all kinds of excuses on his behalf. Wow. Trying to right the ship now that I’m enlightened. Really challenging. But I survived two narcs so now I think I will know what to watch out for.
And society so added to this. An overt rich father who was far more kind than my malignant beautiful mother, my head felt like it exploded all the time. They WERE so difficult yet teachers and neighbors and community said to me…. “You’re so lucky” and didn’t witness how “well behaved and SHUT DOWN” my wealthy looking sisters and I were. Anxious and polite to a pathologically painful sight. Not good girls, parasitically drained children.
A totally agree!! Thats why so many stays for years in toxic environment with narcissistic bosses.