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I would say this is true for women more than men. Most men are not overthinking at all. We just don’t play the mind games that some try to play. Mostly because our job demands our mind to be more active.
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Lmao you sound pathetic and probably can’t be helped at all
Good luck bro
Not true. everyone overthinks from time to time
@ki11atj49 he never said that, he just said women tend to overthink “more” than men which is true. We’ll all do in some degree.
Nah…we are overthinking bro. Be honest lol. Yes it’s true that we don’t play the mind games but it would be lying that we are never over thinking
Thank you – good advice – i’m going on my 1st date in years on Saturday & i’m so nervous that i’m going to mess it up somehow as i’m midly autistic & tend to overshare / explain.
Just be yourself.. open doors for her, try to be aware of your thoughts. Good luck
Treat her like a human.
It’s going to be great! Have fun 🥰
Went on 3 dates with a girl. Was absolutely awesome. Texted her the day after our third date and told her I had a great time with her. She didn’t respond til the next day and just said “thank you!” I felt something was off so I ended things on the spot. She reached out 6 weeks later trying to re connect and apologized for the mixed signal, stated she really liked me, and was just nervous coming out of a long term relationship. I couldn’t do it – I felt like I was the backup guy. What do you think here Courtney? Over reaction on my part or valid?
Personally Im neutral on this as far as your part goes. I wouldnt say you handled it terribly, but I wouldnt say you handled it fantastically either. For her part, it sounds like she wasnt ready to be seriously dating again and she’s still in the mindset of needing a “replacement” for her former partner. In this instance you may have dodged a bullet, but if she was in a healthier place to be dating Id say you may have jumped the gun a bit
shes lied to u. 1 of 2 things happened.
1: the ex was never actually out of the picture at all. u were safe and reassuring space for to explore with little investment.
2. she was dating others and in particular a chad type guy she likes a lot more than u. she was dating them while dating u and yes he was hitting it. so she did enjoy her dates with u but u weren’t sparking attraction like the other guy was. hence why u got the polite no investment thank u.
if I was to guess I’d say option 2 is more likely. she had this chase with the Chad lasting about 1 month… got dumped. 2 week later loneliness kicked in or boredom and she thought what happened to that nice guy…. and then u got messaged
I’d be very wary about pursuing this again. if u are going to u need to be very strong in your frame, low investment date and if its going well go for an escalation… minimum of a kiss. dont set up the next date after the date wait for her to message u again. honestly though personal I’d call it a day in that one but if u wanna try then method above
She lied. She was probably dating another guy at the same time and ended up choosing him over you. Then he got bored with her and then she tried to get back with you. She’s not worth your time. Best to move on and not think about her again.
You handled it perfectly. If I texted a woman that I had a great time with her and she waited an entire day just to text “thank you” instead of reciprocating with a similar response then I would end things on the spot too. Late responses only for a lack of reciprocation is a massive red flag and you’re best off not engaging with her again. Keep your dignity brother you did the right thing.
She was playing games and you were not the first option
Been there done that. I gave up on dating 3 years ago. It does suck being alone from time to time but it’s also a reminder that I have peace and tranquility as I get older. I get to enjoy the things I currently do without being hassled and also always stay focused on my personal financial goals and hobbies.
I tend to underthink, because I’m not very good at non- and paraverbal communication. It’s still to be validated wether it is ADD, Autism, both or anything in that direction.
Basically, if a woman never texts you first, or if she spends days to text you back, it’s an unmistakable sign that you should move on. It’s over
Brilliant video, everything you said connects so well with what’s written in Mystical Codes of Attraction. That book has helped a lot of people find real balance.
I read it recently too, and I don’t regret it
It was a blockbuster content!!! I can’t wait for her next content!!
There’s one that hasn’t been mentioned in this video is that so many men act overly stoic in the sense they wouldn’t display or admit vulnerability in fear that women wouldn’t see them are masculine. I’ve been guilty of this.
… And what if a man is not even thinking of her, does it count!?
She will probably like that in comparison of you showing attention to her. That’s how absurd this generation has become (I say this as a Gen-Z’er)
Great video Courtney!!
I’m AuDHD which makes unpredictability and uncertainty magnified
Yo. If you message a girl and she doesn’t EVER message you back RESPONDING to the one you sent her, She wasn’t interested. Move on! Don’t blow up her messages. 😂
Mixed signals means, she doesn’t like you. We’ve all seen women make it very easy for the men they like. Fellas, focus on the ones who like you and always strive to be the best version of yourself.
When I met someone months ago we went on two dates after talking all the time for a few weeks.
The dates were great, then she ghosted me maybe a week after saying, “maybe you shouldn’t come to my house until you get some things in order with your life but we can still hang and talk.”
I understood why she said that but her actions were to withdraw completely and stop talking to me. Maybe a month went by and I finally texted her saying ghosting me wasn’t cool and that I thought we had a cool connection. After no response, I eventually deleted her number.
Thought about her for months because I was just left hanging. Then out of nowhere she showed up to a show I was playing at this last Saturday. I was nervous once I realized she was there.. eventually I walked over and said hi and gave her a hug. We talked a few times throughout the night and it just wasn’t the same.
Whatever spark was there before was just not there now.
It was a wake up call. I was stuck in a fantasy of how it felt when were were talking at first.. and because we hadn’t talked anymore since things were amazing, I had no frame of reference. Seeing her again and talking a little was closure. Now she’s just another person I know. Not someone I put on a pedestal. If things happen in the future, if we ever talk again.. that’s cool.. but I’m not waiting around for her anymore and not worried about it.
The best part is that her telling me to get some life things in order worked! 5 days after she said that, I bought a car. Still in the process of finding my own place.
In the end, I thank her and cherish that time we had together. No more bad feelings or confusion about being ghosted.
Women don’t care about your struggles. They wait at the finish line and pick the winners
Why does a women not tell me if they are interested or not? I am not a mind reader. Now they ghost you and I do not know why.
6:50 if you are a man and doing these things Courtney is mentioning, you have some deeper self healing work to do. You probably have low self esteem and self worth. I know i did. Now that i see myself as valuable and im working on making my outward appearance match how I see myself inside, I dont overthink anymore. My anxiety isnt in control.
i cant even get a date nevermind analyzing dates.
Same, a short guy with an ugly face like me won’t ever land a date
I just had a date with a lovely lady last Saturday. I’m also someone who is prone to overthinking so thanks for this video! To combat this, especially around text messages, I’m taking the attitude of enjoy every moment and move on if it doesn’t work out. I won’t worry if she’s slow to respond in the beginning stages of dating. We’ve already planned a second date in just under two weeks (she’s got a busy schedule at the moment) and I’m going trust her that she’s going to keep her promise.
Your points are valid and well explained, but we must be honest… People often weaponize their “texting behavior” in an attempt to fuel anxiety in the other. It is not coming from a healthy place, rather a manipulative one. We can definitely work on ourselves to stay grounded, but we can’t be naive to the fact that other people’s behavior can be very intentional in their attempts to manipulate
To paraphrase, it’s abundance vs scarcity mindsets.