Ever been told you're "making it all about you" just for having a normal emotional reaction? In this video, we dive into what happens to your emotions after long-term narcissistic abuse – where they go, how they get dismissed, and why you’re made to feel like your feelings are selfish. If you've ever felt hollowed out or shamed for simply being human, this one's for you.
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got the notification, saw the title, and HAD to click. it’s too real.
The narc in my life isn’t this nice. Apt hunting now. I’m tired and it’s time to rest and have peace ☮️
Runnnnnn!! Sending you good vibes!! You CAN DO IT!!
Get out and enjoy the peace…. You deserve it!
I’m in the exact same boat. Moving’s gonna suck but not as much as living with them did
Absolutely!! And 15 years after divorcing him I still get triggers… I will never forget/forgive him when during 3 back to back hurricanes in FL my cousin died and when I cried he would say: why are you crying?! You need to cry?! 🤬
They simply don’t care about your feelings because they don’t like their feelings.
Exactly! This!! 💯🎯
@@sparkygump 💯TRUTH
If it was just that. She got very happy, danced and smiled after she hurt me so much that I couldn’t hold back tears.
You don’t stop to amaze me about how you repeat my life to me….
My mother often called me calmly to say hey I need to talk to you and then it will end up her berating me non-stop for 30 minutes or so. I was not allowed to be angry, sad or discontent.
Exactly the same my mother does to me! I’m sorry you have to go through the same! ❤️🩹
You’re not aloud to get angry either !! I got accused of crying to manipulate him it was one of the most horrible things he ever said to me . After said the most horrible lies about me . This was before I knew he was a narcissist. He also loves when he hurts me he gets excited he doesn’t even try to hide it it makes me sick 🤢
I was on the receiving end of narcissistic abuse when I told my ex-husband that he had hurt me about some things he had said to me. I was stunned by his narcissistic rage. I felt like my mind split into three segments. I think my mind did split into three segments.
This is exactly what happens to me, but only when I visibly show emotion. Mostly, I just say OK and have a blank look on my face. But a few times a year I defend myself and or call the narcissist out on his part in the whatever crap he is unloading on me. It hurts for days after the verbal pummeling. However, after 10 minutes after the incident HE is talking to me, happily, about some nonsense or unimportant thing like no incident ever happened.
The same for me. In my situation the verbal abuse ramps up to a dehumanizing level when I get sick and am unable to provide the usual “ services”. What was screamed at me while recovering from surgery I’ll never forget. After many, many years of dedication this conduct has destroyed our marriage.
Never takes responsibility but claims I’m making things up!
He doesn’t have a wife but only a service provider cause my conscience won’t let me leave.
Thank you for your comment and I would really like to get your opinion about something. Question/Scenario: My friend and I were on a friendship break that she initiated and which we mutually agreed upon and discussed over the phone. In this scenario, my former friend became involved in trying to help me change covertly via YouTubers while pretending that this was the same as them going no contact. Was it okay for me to try to end the friendship by email especially since they did not reach out to call me? My feeling is that ending the friendship via email is fine especially if there was no ghosting and since the YouTube intervention involved insults as well .
I am asking because this modern take on the topic of narcississm is widely accepted now and appears to resonate with so many. For me, the word toxic is sufficient to describe mean behaviors and patterns. I also have a different take on Psychology altogether and agree with mental health professionals that have alternative views about the field and people in general. An answer to this question would help me to better understand how to avoid hurting others who do resonate with Dr. Ramani’s advice.
Personally, I never can tell what works. I’ve been so worried about decisions I made only to find in the future everything would go fine.
When I told my narc sister that I felt hurt after something she did, she told me, “I don’t like to be judged.”
I’m a therapist and you are helping me. I was raised by two narcissists and been in two narcissistic relationships. That’s amazing. I do therapy all along with clients and was being mentally and verbally abused on a daily basis. I am now setting all kind of boundaries and allowing myself to see my relationships for what they are utilizing radical acceptance, although it’s hard to hear at times. I appreciate your work and I am referring you to my clients on a daily basis dealing with similar situations and people.
Thank you Dr Ramani for empowering me! I am 62 and finally feel like I am worth a damn.❤
My narc parents resented me for not being interested in them when I became an adult.
They felt entitled to a relationship with me despite never having one with me as a kid.
You reap what you sow.
Doctor R … I’m just going to have you start narrating my life because every day your words match exactly what is happening to me (and so so very many other viewers). Thank you for helping us to not feel alone ❤
Yes…thank you doctor Ramani. You know my husband well.
I just had a hard breakup. It’s been really difficult since my five-year relationship ended a few months ago. My former partner is still very much in my heart, and I can’t seem to stop thinking about him. Nothing has worked to get him back, and at this point, it seems impossible to be with anyone else. I know it may seem strange to admit this, but I miss him terribly and think about him constantly.
I completely understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar experience when my 10 year relationship ended. I couldn’t imagine my life without him, so I tried everything to rekindle our love. I eventually found guidance from a spiritual counselor, and their support helped me bring him back into my life if you’re open to it, seeking help from a spiritual counselor might make a difference.
How did you find your spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with them?
His name is Father Obah Eze and he’s an incredible spiritual counselor known for helping restore relationships.
He can assist you; he is Father Obah Eze, and he possesses immense powers.
I simply used your useful information to look him up online. Amazing
I looked up Father Obah Eze online, and he seems like a sincere person. Again, thank you ❤
My alcoholic narc husband (that I escaped and now live apart from) told me that “nobody would recognize you now” and would call me “thunder thighs” and other names to rip me down. Whenever I showed feelings he would totally emotionally and/or physically abandon me. A truly evil man. One day I dream of being free completely of him.
Saw this publicly this week in the news. Someone was “shamed” when someone offered an emotional request at a public event. That request received a vicious response of shame in kind, followed by humiliation, attempts to shut them down and attacked for pushing a selfish agenda. In that order. Wow!
Yes, I saw that on the other side of the world. It was very interesting to see a narcissistic injury happening right there. The physical reaction of turning the head, the tightening of the mouth. The immature signalling of blocking the words and trying to give silent treatment. Then the smearing afterwards, and flying monkeys helping the smear campaign. 🔎
Absolutely! What you said about trying to keep the tears in brought that tightness in my throat remembering dealing with my narcissistic father. I have been listening to you for a few months now and finally, at the age of 66, understand and feel understood. Thank you so very much.
My husband has two emotions anger and rage. When i try to talk to him about watching half naked women on youtube he says im not watching the video for them but the other stuff. And then he says im just not good at this life stuff youd be better off without me. And we have these circle conversations that never go anywhere. Then i said I dont understand why you hide money, he says im gonna die one day, and who is gonna pay for it. That was his third reason why he hides money, the first was so he can retire, the second was to buy whatever i want and when you bring that up, he says I never said that, i dont know where you come up with this stuff. It is physically, emotionally exhausting!
“stop crying, you’re not sad you’re trying to manipulate me”
-my dad
i was told by my narc mom that her father would say, after abusing them, “stop crying or i’ll give you something to cry about!” my dad never said anything like that about his parents.
Yes, yelled at and I ended up crying, was told by my abusive son. “ stop turning the water works on!
As a mother of him, I was deeply upset and hurt.