Why Narcissists Refuse to Settle (And How to Stop Letting It Control You)

If you're divorcing a narcissist and feel stuck because the case just won’t move forward, you’re not imagining it.

In this video, I explain why narcissists refuse to settle in divorce, what’s really happening beneath the surface, and how to stop letting their refusal control your emotional state and your legal strategy.

This isn’t about money. It’s about control.

Dragging out the process keeps narcissists emotionally connected, powerful, and relevant. And over time, their refusal to settle can leave you anxious, reactive, and feeling like you’re failing—when in reality, you’re experiencing a tactic.

In this video, I break down:
1. Why narcissists resist settlement
2. How delay is used as punishment and control
3. What not to do when they won’t settle
4. How to shift from emotional urgency to strategic calm
5. How to regain clarity and protect your energy during a long process

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