WHY we NEVER get used to NARCISSISTIC ABUSE
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November 1-3, 2024
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Thanks lady. This world is flipping and you do help so many. No we never get used to sh*t.
It’s not possible to get used to narcissistic abuse because the narcissist needs to get a thrill out of abusing you. It is going to evolve as you might get desensitized so that they always get the ego-boosting thrill.
Please give tips on how an empathetic soul can desensitize without walking away .
@@dachsieheaven4627 that would be the radical acceptance Dr Ramani is always talking about.
BINGO.
@@dachsieheaven4627 When you desensitize…then you’re no longer and empathetic soul.
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It’s always a new tactic with narcissists. Just when you think you have them all figured out, they switch it up with new ways to make you doubt yourself.
Indeed. Or each time you meet a new one there are some new nuances to them to figure them out
@@yuu_miran Yes, and there are a lot of new narkys to meet in the world. When you include the Enablers and the Flying Monkeys, then we’re almost drowning in narky nark narks.
@lindac6919 lol narky nark narks 😂 I like that. It does feel like drowning with all the enablers!
I don’t get why some people get upset if you point out someone’s being narcissistic. Like they’re scared to hurt the narks feelings. Never mind all the people they go around hurting. 🙄
Exactly! I felt like as soon as I had a new battle plan the tactics changed and I was right back in the same position. Eventually I gave up trying to fight it without even realizing it. 😢
NEVER GET USED TO BEING LIED TO AND ABOUT AND OH THE GASLIGHTING
Just when you think you’re used to the crazy they do something even more bizarre. The insanity is very creative so no we can’t get used to it.
They change like chameleons. When you are relaxed and finally have given up on fighting back or defending yourself. They change the way they start an argument. They are so tactical. They crave for that emotional reactions from you. They are mentally ill.
And they always know when to catch you off guard.. there is no winning this ..
The ones with Asperger’s are stuck on one channel like an old TV. And have no normal feelings that we relate to. Most of them have chip on their shoulder of some kind. So it would always be horrid dealing with them until the very end.
well said!
@@Alison-o9dI don’t think you should throw terms like Asperger’s into this mix, not necessarily accurate, vague, and potentially harmful to autistic community.
@@quirkyturk3y396 well, it’s accurate to me that I have two very close people in my life that have been emotionally abused by one.
They’re very unpredictable in their dealings. We’re not fully equipped to handle them.
That’s a very good statement!
Yes, it would take an insane asylum to adequately handle the Narkys!
I’ll never forget a friend asking me ‘does she always treat you like that?’ I replied that yes, and she doesn’t even consider her behave as horrible.
I’ve experienced the opposite
When I was in high school, my classmates realized my mother hated me and proceeded to make up lies about me.
She ate it up.
@@Byebandit50 That’s pretty typical, and really awful. I learned to hide that my mother hated me. Things that happened while I was in grade school taught me that I would be mobbed by my peers and teachers, too. When they found out that my mother disliked me.
I call it: “sharks smell blood.” You know, when an animal in the water bleeds…the blood draws the sharks.
Shark…to rhyme with Narky Nark Nark.
It’s the relentlessness that wore me down. Impossible to challenge everything when you rarely have time to react before the next one.
Thats their goal number one to exhaust us
The timing is what got me. I am at my lowest when I just get home from work, a stressful commute and I am hungry. That is when he usually pulled a number on me.
Well put. It’s demonic energy in my opinion. It just never effing ends.
@@twovirginiacats3753with me when unwell energy at lowest to deal with his latest crap
I feel that I never get rest.
You never get used to it. You learn to cope with it in healthier ways.
To get used to narc abuse is like saying you should get used to being stressed out 24/7
And we all know what stress does to the mind, emotions, and body over time…
Our body rejects it and gets affected by it in a very negative way..
I will never get used to ppl who use, abuse, manipulate, lie, gas light, trick, and bully you for their pleasure and your pain. And I reject anyone who enables the behavior or makes me feel bad because I won’t tolerate it.
Yep – I’ve spent an entire lifetime in this situation – no options, no resources, no way out, and constant exposure. The toll it takes on me gets worse with each passing year. (Please quit telling people to simply get therapy and support – I have no money to get therapy that would actually help, and the friends I thought would support me ended up judging me and walking away from me for being stuck in this situation.)
Please take care of you. The world needs you.❤
Having been raised by a narcissistic sociopath mother, divorced from an alcoholic narcissistic sociopath guy, and recently split from a closet narcissist who finally made himself known, I expect it because I am used to it. IF a guy were to come along and treat me better, I’d still expect narcissism because that’s how my ex-husband and my last ex started out…sweet, caring, loving….that’s why I have no desire to date ever again. Prevention is better than a cure. I don’t ACCEPT it, but I EXPECT it.
I don’t get used to being treated like crap.
I would argue we not only not get used to abuse but our resilience and tolerance gets less and less
I see what you’re saying…I think we tolerate it, without really getting used to it. For me, childhood always had some Fresh New Hell waiting down the hallway. I never got used to that.
And it does take a huge toll on resilience.
All abuse is minimized. Narcissists are vile people.
I completely agree…a person never gets used to abusive behavior. Instead, I adapted and turned silent when the tirades began. I dug in and waited out the abusive marriage to keep a roof over my children’s heads, food on the table, and out of low income housing. As soon as I could support my children on my income, i left because i knew he would’nt pay child support. It was hard, but i made it work.
Yesterday, while at my Mom’s assisted living apartment, she said, “You should hold in your stomach.”
I am 73 yrs old. In her eyes, I am still not good enough. Yes, this still hurts, but thanks to what I have learned from you, I know the truth about who she is, a narcissist. She’s 96 yrs old and thoroughly miserable.