Why you feel dead inside after dealing with a narcissist
When you can’t leave the narcissist—because of kids, family, or work—you end up managing, monitoring, and muting yourself just to survive. Over time, that survival mode can look like numbness, collapse, or even soul-deep apathy. You’re not crazy—you’re overwhelmed, depleted, and trying to stay safe in an unsafe dynamic. This video is about finding the middle path so you don’t lose yourself in the process.
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I don’t feel like leaving my house again. It feels like the same experience over and over again.
Yep. Can’t just keep going through the same things with the next one that comes along. There’s too many of them and I’m not choosing them, they move in as neighbors or get hired as coworkers or marry into the family. It’s awful. they’re everywhere and once one exits another comes along. They’re miserable awful things to have to deal with
Oh man, u aint alone. Me too
Yup. Been going through some stalking for many years and even though I’m aware that’s a goal (backing me into a corner) eventually if enough people hound and stalk you enough you end up here. It doesn’t matter where I go or what I do, one of their flying monkeys will be there.
Same! I didn’t know why until now
@ Exactly. They find a way in!
It’s so awful having to deal with this on a daily basis. You can get these people out of your personal life but still have to deal with narcissistic/antagonistic people in the workplace.
Yep. Can’t just keep going through the same things with the next one that comes along. There’s too many of them and I’m not choosing them, they move in as neighbors or get hired as coworkers or marry into the family. It’s awful. they’re everywhere and once one exits another comes along. They’re miserable awful things to have to deal with
I left a narcissistic marriage after 22+ years with that man. I was numb. I don’t think I had cried in 15 years (b/c it wasn’t allowed of course). I am now out 8 years and it took me almost 7 to find my inner joy again. It took a lot of work but it IS there. You can find it again. If you can, get the hell out now. Don’t wait like I did.
Me after 25 years but my husband his and my family want me to go to his house again
@ there are not enough safety nets for victims of this kind of abuse in our society. I hope you don’t return but I understand having no where else to turn. I hope you get out safely.
@@noreentanveer592what do YOU want? That’s the person you need to listen to.
Me after 30+ years 🥺
4 1/2 years away from a narc woman….
Finally coming back. Years of homelessness and isolation etc… in remote parts of Northern Australia.
Actually starting to formulate a plan for the future now…
This was my childhood and I will be forever grateful that I made it my life goal to GTFO. Financial self-sufficiency is the greatest form of self-care because it gives you independence from toxic people.
I have a narc-mother. Creepy
Me too, it’s so terrible 😕@@user-o6ue45hz8nr2ap
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Yes, money is freedom. Keep it real quiet though because it does attract frauds.
I dont have this freedom and yes i am fckd
Nothing quite like the presence of a narc that will make you feel like an absolute shell of yourself.
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Is those narcs have been part of my whole life❤
Ain’t that the Truth!
Thank you.
Free in 5 months. Thank you for your work! Thank you to others in comments for support and acknowledgement of our feelings❤
Very helpful reminder! Not all of us can go no contact, but that doesn’t change the damage the narcissist does at every encounter! Thank you Dr Ramani 🙏🏻
Ramini is describing a hostage situation. It is insidious. Work hard on getting free, inside out.
Thank you.
Empty shells of rumination and soul loss
I felt dead inside from just thinking about having to deal w her 🤦🏽♀️ decided to continue choosing my peace, safety, comfort and sanity. 💜
When you have a narc parent – your training in degradation starts on day 1. I’m 62 now, and my narc is dead. There is only numbness now. I don’t know if I will ever discover who I was meant to be.
I’m 61, and I feel this.
Don’t give up!
I’m 69 who I was meant to be will never happen. I’ve accumulated many disorders due to narcissistic abuse to fit well in our society. BUT – I still cherish what I am , I survived! And I’ve experienced a lot. I guess on the other side of society so to say. ❤
@ People like us are strong. I’ve also learned empathy. I don’t want to be like them.
@ wise words ♥
Numb. Helpless. Indifference. Shut down. Disassociation. Trauma bonding sets it. There is no will to fight back when life brings people …situations continuously to remind you that you are psychologically defeated….dead.
You described everything…spot on. 🙏🏻
Exactly, speaking of “wills” my siblings are “waiters” because my parents had hired a person that wrote when one siblings dies, then the others inherit their stripes, and basically 11 yrs later they still refuse to settle estate matters and thus makes them “waiters”which is essentially morbid or co-morbidity. You can’t make this stuff up. Staying strong and healthy somewhere over the rainbow.
This describes the state I’m in now. I’m trying to get out of the relationship while digging out of psychological collapse at the same time. It feels like quicksand; the harder I try, the greater the force sucking me under.
We can’t give up.. ❤
Stay strong.
Thank you for this video. though it brings up painful memories. At first i was with an abusive and narc husband for 13 years of my life, then i left when i couldn’t bear it any longer, bear in mind i only stayed that long because of our kids. After two years of being single, i met the love of my life, and we had a fantastic first 5 months, then my PTSD kicked in and I did a lot of things because i wasn’t properly healed, and he left me. I realize now and i feel so empty and lonely inside. I love him so much
I am terribly sorry to hear this, and trust me, i know exactly what you are going through, loosing someone you love is always tough, i have been there, and it wasn’t easy, but i did all i could to get her back, so I watched a lot of you tube videos especially coach Corey Wayne, Matthew Hussey and Doctor Ramani. I also used the services of a spiritual guide as well
Really? how did you get a spiritual guide, and how do I reach him or her?.
Her name is Shelly Renee White, and she is an excellent spiritual guide
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online found her website. Amazing
Dealing with a narcissist makes you feel dead inside due to their incredible lack of basic human empathy. They just do not care what damage they do to other people.
So true. In everything they do or don’t do they are making you irrelevant. Plus you are realizing you always were. They weren’t real.
I’m finally starting to do better after going no contact with my narcissist mom 6 weeks ago.
Thank you.
It’s like they’re oblivious to the emotional and psychological harm they inflict on those around them. I feel like I’m going to have a mental breakdown when around them for too long. I can’t with narcs and do my best to keep my distance. Although it doesn’t always work, I still try my best
@@SuzanneSpicer-rg3jdGood!! Definitely hard pill to swallow, but necessary. ❤❤❤
self isolation became such a deep need, that i have no social life at all anymore. when i need to go out in a social situation most of the time i become physically sick from the anxiety and panic and it fuels my isolation even more. i hope for every one of us here that we will feel okay sometimes soon again <3
I’ll start sweating like I’m doing cardio in the tropics even though it’s below freezing. Horrible feeling to be cold but sweating, making you feel even colder. Of course this is another excuse to do evil to me in order to “help” me. Amazing what people can get away with if they call it “help” and then cry you are so ungrateful for the “help”. I’m almost convinced someone could unalive someone in front of a crowd then call it “help” so the victim is considered the one who did 187. People’s eyes glaze over and they give their head a shake to say “But you fall into the bad group” as they justify evil they admit they wouldn’t want done unto them.
@@heyyfirefly same here.
@heyyfirefly I resonate with what you say here. Hopeful for better days ahead 😊
What has helped me is to remember there are good people, too. Just got to have your wits about you and stand firmly in your Self.
Ditto! It’s crazy!
Its like nothing is important anymore. NOTHING. It steals all the joy because, how do you divide the good from the bad?
If you spent a lifetime trying to be perfect, planning events, trying to draw family together, associating praise with love, even if it only came from friends, then what does joy look like?
Heavy duty apathy …well said.
“Everyone says live for today, when i died yesterday “.
@@H.R.6688 powerful quote
I thank goodness there is always change.. nothing stays the same in my world . Except for narcissists and toxic mold- working on it !!
Because they drain the ever loving happiness and soul out of you!
@@KeshiaK39 💯💯💯
You can say that again
Thank you.
Just being in their proximity is painful and makes you feel so bad, they dont even have to talk
Agree. I can feel their energy it’s always toxic.
Thank you.