10 Things Men Notice When You’re Making Out (That You Have No Idea About)
What if a make-out is actually telling him things you'd never say out loud? In this video, I'm pulling back the curtain on the 10 subtle, sexy things a man is silently noticing while you're kissing him — the tiny signals that decide whether he becomes obsessed with you… or quietly walks away.
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Here's the thing, ladies — a single kiss is a question. A make-out is the answer. It's a full physical conversation that tells a man almost everything he needs to know about your chemistry, your appetite for him, and what kind of partner you'd be. And he's tracking very specific things during that make-out that no one ever talks about out loud. Until now.
Whether you're in a new relationship and wondering if the chemistry is really there, you're a few months in and want to deepen the passion, or you've been with him for years and the make-outs have started to feel routine — this video is going to give you a powerful inside look at what's actually happening in his mind when his lips are on yours.
▼ IN THIS VIDEO ▼
✨ Why your FIRST kiss of the make-out tells him something completely different than every kiss after
✨ The truth about what your tongue is actually doing (and why most women get this wrong)
✨ The 15-degree body angle most women never think about that changes everything
✨ The one rare move that makes him absolutely unable to forget you
✨ The tiny sound between kisses that drives him wild (you don't even know you're making it)
✨ The mid-kiss move that makes time stop
✨ What your hips are doing when you don't realize it
✨ The single thing he wishes you'd do but will NEVER ask for
✨ Why your grip tells him more than your kiss does
✨ BONUS — the one timing choice that determines if the make-out is unforgettable or just okay
If you've ever wondered what men notice while kissing, what men think about during a make-out, how to be a better kisser, or what makes a make-out unforgettable to a man — this video is for you.
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▼ CHAPTERS ▼
0:00 Intro — Why a make-out is the most revealing physical conversation
1:33 #1 — The first kiss vs. every kiss after
3:50 #2 — What your tongue is actually doing
5:27 #3 — The way your body pivots toward him
7:13 #4 — When you migrate from his mouth to his neck
8:45 #5 — The sound you make BETWEEN kisses
10:55 #6 — When you pull back to look at him
12:50 #7 — What your hips do when you don't realize
14:43 #8 — Whether you initiate the next kiss
16:55 #9 — When you hold on tighter without realizing
18:27 #10 BONUS — How long you let it go before pulling away
20:20 The pattern — What it all really means
💬 Drop a comment and let me know — which of these surprised you most? And what else do you want me to cover that men notice?
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Matthew, I genuinely appreciate the way you teach intimacy and feminine energy with so much respect, warmth, and emotional intelligence. Nothing feels vulgar or forced — it feels deeply human and present.
One thing you said really stayed with me: that presence matters more than “performing perfectly.” I needed that reminder. Sometimes I worry that by the time I actually experience love, all the information in my head will crash into each other and I’ll forget everything 😅
Also… small problem. You said “pull his hair softly” but what if the man is bald? Asking for a future me 😂
Hahahahaha
They often get “electrified” sense/look when I touch or take back of the neck in my hand
@if7363😅😅😅 will do 😂
Thank you so much for that beautiful feedback my dear! that is my biggest goal with my videos – to give yall something “real” that truly helps you in your relationships! I love your share too – yes men desire presence sooo much more than perfection <3 And as far as a bald guy, ohhhh nails on the scalp are heaven! my wife has basically shaved the sides of my hair lol and my fav thing is when she runs her fingernails through that part of my head. also just cupping the back of his head 🙂
@if7363 yesss thats a sweet spot!!
So, when you are newly dating a guy and you aren’t “in a relationship “. And you aren’t ready to have sex with him.
But you have this long makeout session, what is the best answer to this childish statement?
“If you keep kissing me like this, you will need to take care of what is popping up”
great question @kathysmith6887! thats when you smile and tell him “Im really enjoying kissing you and Im so glad you are having fun too – but its as far as Im gonna go tonight tiger, hope you are ok with that 😉 taking my time is a big turn on for me” just give him a playful sexy boundary and see how he receives it – if hes in it for the right reasons, he will honor your pacing!
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Sadly, my partner doesn’t seem to enjoy kissing. He gives pecks. And if I try to go deeper, he seems to get uncomfortable and pull away 😞
that can feel tough… it might just be his comfort level or pacing. Sometimes slowing it down and talking about what feels good for both of you can really open things up 💛
Why is there a double standard for “making noise” while making out and during sex?? Most men don’t make any noise or talk (even in porn) and there’s no expectation or judgment about it.
yeah, that’s a fair point—there can be a bit of a double standard there. Ideally it’s a space where both people feel free to express themselves without pressure or judgment 💛
I mean, what signs does he give in response to each of these 10 points that he’s ell us to make the next move?
And.:: what is he doing in return? Why note plain how he makes it non-performative?
We get concerned that if we allow ourselves to “surrender”, he’ll think that’s a green light for sex. True?