The silent work of healing from narcissistic relationships
You’ve spent years scanning faces, reading every microexpression, trying to anticipate moods before they shift. It wasn’t about connection—it was about survival. Even now, long after the threat has passed, you catch yourself waiting for approval, watching too closely, bracing for something that never comes. But what happens when you stop looking for permission and start looking for something real?
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Thanks you Dr Ramani for all that you do! ❤
Thanks for your healing powers, Dr. Ramani!❤
I totally agree. Narcissists survivors are better at reading faces and scanning people psychologically than others. This survival skill become a real gift.🙏
An amazing gift 🙌🏽
For me, growing up, it wasn’t about scanning facial expressions—it was all about voice tone. I still do it to this day because it’s so deeply ingrained. I rarely focus on people’s faces; instead, I pick up everything from the way they speak—the pauses, the shifts in tone, even the slightest hint of disregard or tension. That’s how I learned to predict what was coming.
My goodness, yes! Bat’s ears for nuance
Tone was nice for the sister; yet it was mean you and others.
wow, you just blew my mind. the sweet silence of being alone
Connection vs fear. Discernment vs being led by one’s old self. ♥️
I have had my last conversation with one person due to them always judging my stories with the same answers. And these answers ought to cause me to doubt my own understanding of life, advice, values and responsibilities. Its a loop I need to step out of. When we grow, this continued loop feels like pulling us back into the old ….and blocking our new paths. So I take courage and enjoy my solitude.
We learn to detach very well. Read people by their behaviors, reactions or mannerisms. We know ourselves better. ❤ Thank you, Dr. RAMINI. Been here since 2021.
Those hidden wounds the World Can’t See , often from carefully hidden abuses, behind closed doors and the World at large misreading our signals
Thank you
Dr. Ramani
I wish I were the little girl sat beside you at the kitchen table, holding your hand and saying; We’ve got a long journey ahead of us though you’re not alone and we’re going to be okay once we figure this out! 💜
Wow. Thank you Doctor. I felt like we were sitting together in my Living Room and that we’ve been friends for years. I really value your resonating perspective.
A narcissist’s sour smirk is so ugly and dangerous…being alone and being in good company with yourself is healing
Yep! If someone tells me or urges me to do something, then smirks, I’m not doing that. It’s a trap.
Dr Ramani, I felt the pain in your eyes when you said about the little girl at the table. I really do hope you are okay. I really love you, and I’m so grateful for this content 🙏🏻💖
Thanks for being so honest. I also need lots of time alone I used to feel ashamed but you give us permission to do everything we can to keep our inner peace.
Thank you Dr. Ramani for this personal and heartfelt sharing. It deeply touches my heart! I’m grateful I find a healing oasis after leaving the narcissistic relationship.
PTSD is real, after my heart was shattered into pieces by the one who claimed we will be together forever. I drank myself to sleep every day for 3 months, I am 2 weeks sober now, and i joined a study group. The painful part is, I still love him. He did keep his words as he said he will never date or marry anyone else. we have been together since high school. My heart still aches…..
I am terribly sorry to hear this, and trust me i know what you are going through, loosing someone you love is always tough, sometimes you blame yourself even when you are not the problem, i have been there, and it wasn’t easy, but i did all i could to get her back, so I watched a lot of you tube videos especially coach Stephan speaks, Matthew Hussey, Courtney Ryan, Alexander grace and Doctor Ramani. I also used the services of a spiritual counsellor as well.
oh wow?? how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do I reach him or her any tips?.
Her name is Shelly Renee white, and she is a great spiritual counsellor..
Thank you so much, i will give her a try, i searched her name on youtube but found her website online, once again, thank you.
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It upsets me how many years I spent trying to figure all of this out! Predicting their moods was the central theme of my life.
Yes to this. My dad, too. After I had joyously gotten a place of my own, I worked for my father. He knew I spoke to my mom on my lunch hour and he would ask, “How’s your mom today?” I had to give him the “weather” forecast so he knew what face to put on when he went home.
I have watched more videos of yours than a few. I want to truly thank you for being you and having the strength and wisdom to share what you do with everyone. You have validated for me so many things that I have questioned so many times in my life wondering if it was me. You have to have went through this abuse to even be able to comprehend the things you say and talk about.
Sometimes I wonder how scary life would have continued to be without you, Dr. Ramani. I am so grateful 💕
I had a terrible narcissistic mother and a horrible narcissistic husband, then three relationships with narcissistic men… I can read a face in a fraction of a second but also I’m sadly in a defensive state all the time. This is like been abused since childhood. I have been in Therapy for almost 17 years, my healing process has taken son many years of my life but it has been so rewarding! Thank you Dr. Ramani for all your help!