You think you’re the narcissist? Watch this before you decide
Have you ever asked yourself, “Wait… am I the narcissist?” If you’ve been told you’re selfish, angry, or the problem in the relationship—this video is for you. Learn the key question that helps survivors separate trauma-driven reactions from true narcissism.
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Had to go to therapy because my ex narc would always convince me that I was the narcissist. The worst is when they convince everyone else that you’re a narcissist.
Mine said that what the therapist told me was wrong. Got mad when he wasn’t invited. It was for me and me alone on how to deal with him and our marriage with others involved. I have no friends thanks to him telling them I’m the narcissist and they should get out while they can. I will say he hasn’t said that to me recently. It’s been many months. I’m struggling but still going. Keep going yourself.
Thank you so much for this. It’s amazing how badly they can flip it around until I began to doubt myself. ❤
Their gaslighting to make you doubt yourself.
I was blessed to have a counselor in my early twenties. I remember asking her if I could be a narcissist. She assured me, if I wondered and asked, it was proof I’m not a narcissist.
I know I’ve got some narcissistic traits, probably picked up from being raised by a narc mother. But when they are pointed out to me, I ponder, reflect, and make changes.
Same
Yep me too
Same
And you know what, just because they say “I love you,” does not mean that statement is genuine!
I was so surrounded by narcissist behavior when I was young that I thought it was normal. But I couldn’t fit in. I knew I was different. I was hyper aware and looking for answers. There was my phychic and spiritual development in my late teens. But it was always there. I was quickly able to see auras for instance. Was a natural with meditation techniques like Kriya. But I drew in narcissist girlfriends. This became an extremely painful part of my life. Today, learning about these structures of consciousness is a very high priority for me. Without narcissists around me today, my psychic abilities have moved into the background. This tells me a lot about adjusting to environment. No narcissists, then no need for hyper vigilance. Hmm. That’s a clue.
This is exactly what I desperately needed tonight—6 weeks of no contact after I ended the relationship, the head miles of confusion and self blame that have been all-consuming over the past few days have me almost pining, which is causing me to feel completely insane😓 thank you so much Dr. Romani, my therapist loves you too!🙏🏼
That is all true, and I was just thinking about it this morning while crying. I needed this video today. The narcissist make you feel like you are the problem, with blaming you, projecting all their insecurities and shame on to us, confusing you, gaslighting you, judging you, dismissing you…They make us feel so bad about ourselves, and that we are the bad ones. It is a total gaslighting about ourselves and who we are. Thank you, Dr. Ramani, I am so grateful for all your videos, books, and healing programs… You play an essential role in the healing journey of so many survivors, including mine. Thank you❤❤❤
It’s more challenging when we have a narcissistic parent, to dissociate from ’em, because a part of us identifies with them.
The key is to stay true to how we really are👌✨
Exact words my husband said a week ago “I didn’t intend to hurt you.” Almost 3 years after I discovered he was making choices that didn’t honor me or our marriage. I had no words. So much wasted time and energy. Thanks , Dr. Ramani, for all you do!
An ex would consistently say, “It wasn’t my intention…” He was unable or unwilling to understand his behavior was the problem and I didn’t care about his “intention”.
My therapist out right told me I was being mentally abused. The guilt I carry with having been told how crappy and all iam. Completely outweighed anything else. As a protection to my life I don’t think I can ever do a relationship again.
“You are BEYOND SELFISH!!!”–My mom constantly
I’m sorry
Many years ago I did a terrible thing that cost me a good friendship. The person I had hurt was then cruel to me and quite frankly I deserved it. Finally I managed to apologize. I gave no excuses, didn’t try to explain why I had done what I did. I just owned it and said I was terribly sorry. My former fiend looked at me, and he said “Okay.” He stopped being cruel.
I had learned a valuable lesson.
This is how I feel as I got pushed way past healthy limits until I became unhealthy myself in ways, and was criticized and shamed for it, but grateful to learn it’s not who I am and I do take responsibility when they do not. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤
I no longer make attempts to repair, as no matter what I say or do they continue to do harmful abusive behaviour, lying about it and never taking responsibility. I used to always over apologize over give and make so many efforts to repair and be supportive, only to get nothing back but abuse. Why would I want that in my life? Just because they’re ‘family’ doesn’t make it ok. Not believing their lies about me, I know the truth. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤
I went-along-to-get-along for many years until the pattern of emotional abuse was too clear to ignore. These days, while I don’t get angry because it won’t benefit me, I ignore her as much as possible and concentrate on doing what’s best for me. Still, I’m so weary!
“YOU are NOT the PROBLEM”.
This video surely brings painful memories, it might be unrelated but videos like this, makes me think of her, more and more. call me a simp but i love the love of my life
What happened between you two? It is sad when we lose our loved ones, sometimes it is worth fighting for, sometimes it’s not. I was in your shoes a couple of months ago, i had my second heartbreak, but i never relented, i did everything humanly possible to get her back, so if you feel she worth it, i can refer you to a powerful spiritual counselor
Thank you for your kind words and word of encouragement, how did you get in touch with this counsellor?
Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex
Thank you, i will see to it and see how it goes for me, i found her page on google by researching her name. You have giving me new hope, and trust me, if this works, i would definitely come back here to share my story
I was afraid to watch this. Thank you for this info. I have wondered. Thank you because I have lost my temper and was told how evil I looked. I have since realized that I should not react. It is so hard not too, and Ifeel so bad about the things I said. I always feel how bad his childhood was. It is so difficult to understand. His apology is an explanation. Thank you for helping me. I am 74, and it is worse now. What he says is that he doesn’t remember doing the things he has said or done.
Gaslighting when you don’t know what’s going on is torture.