How manifesting can trap you with a narcissist
Think you manifested your dream partner—only to end up confused, hurt, or stuck? This video breaks down how love bombing in narcissistic relationships can feel like something you attracted, and why that belief can keep you trapped in something toxic.
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Same problem when you pray for a partner and believe that God gave you this partner. you will fight for this relationship and do everything for your partner because you believe that “God gave them to me, this is the only and right person for me”.
I was stuck for 24 years this way.
I prayed a few months ago and out of nowhere came the narcissist. I feel like he was Devil sent and fortunately I jumped ship just in time.
The enemy knows what you’re looking for and is very willing to “deliver”. We shouldn’t just assume something came from God, or was said by God. We should use the reason and the free will God gave us to decide ourselves.
OMG! Same. It took God to reveal the cheating and tell me to get out.
That’s why it’s dangerous to believe in nonsense like “Twin Flame” or “the Law of Attraction.”
I believe it’s not if you are aware of yourself and the people around you. Because it’s really important how you think about a situation.
@@jasminsunrisecognitive dissonance.
I do strongly believe in reincarnation. But that’s due to my life experiences. It seemed like the Twin Flame model was correct for awhile. But I now agree that it’s very dangerous. It opens us up to the false fantasy projections from narcissists. I see narcissists as failed incarnations. I can’t say that I’m completely correct. I have opinions. I’m trying to keep it in mind that my opinions are just working models. The models change with experience and learning. So opinions must also change.
I believed in twin flames at one point in time and it was the worst experiences of my life. If you observe other people who believe in it, a majority are blind to how dysfunctional that way of thinking is. A lot of people in the manifesting community all have the same problems too. The moment I stopped believing there was something I was doing wrong or that I could change things, my life was better. I surrendered to what was.
It’s only nonsense if you think of those as “recipes”. Morning-show tips. Hacks.
You also have to understand the broad picture of spiritual awakening AND your own conscience awareness.
The best tool is to know oneself, and become one’s own ultimate tool.
This is exactly how I ended up with my covert narcissist (now ex 🙌🏼) bf.
I’d love for you to talk about narcissists who use the language of manifesting love during the love bombing phase. The “we were meant to be” etc etc. It can be quite heady but then it turns extremely controlling once they have you in their clutches. No longer two people in love- but the “one soul” with one person in charge. Truly damaging 😢
Yes 💯 I tried it and it had attracted me a narcissist every time…
Wow, this is so uplifting it’s truly important to stay inspired. I feel such a deep sense of emptiness. It’s over 4 months now since my lover left me, Everyday feels like an eternity without her. My mind is overwhelmed with memories of our time together. The thought that I’ll never experience the little things with her again is so painful. I’ve texted her so many times, pouring out how much I miss and want her back, but she hasn’t replied. All I can do now is hold onto the memories we shared together
It’s okay to grieve bro. It’s clear that you’re not just missing your partner but also the part of yourself that you shared with her. Reaching out to her like that shows how much love you still have for her. Heartbreak is painful, but don’t lose hope. I understand how you feel. My own heartbreak was devastating, sudden and brutal. She left me with no concreate excuse, In my desperation for solace and guidance, I turned to a spiritual counselor recommended by a friend who helped me to reconcile with my partner
That sounds interesting! What exactly does the spiritual counselor do?
His name is Father Osoba Salama and he’s an amazing spiritual counselor who specializes in helping people to reconcile with their ex
Thank u so much🙏 indeed sharing problems bring solution and I curiously make a research online with the name and found his website, Thanks
Dude, perhaps you need to let go. Let her move on, and you move on.
Constantly reaching out to her is not healthy when she is not interested in communicating. It’s creepy and needy.
You need to find a way to let go of the past and move forward. Whether that be through therapy, and/or by spending time alone so you can rebuild your sense of completeness of being with yourself.
You can not force someone to want you back. Doing so is just harassment, and to the extreme stalking.
Trauma bonding and not letting go
Hanging on and believing you can fix it, is death. The narcissist banks on you taking responsibility and blaming yourself
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So true. They worm their way into your mind until you don’t know whose voice you’re listening to. All to get you to be there for them, but they throw you under bus when you need them.
Well said.
I was just thinking Dr Ramani doesn’t take one day off – before I got my morning Dr Ramani fix. Romance is everywhere screwing our minds up! Probably why I hated dating back in the day. This is the open door for a narcissistic relationship you ask me. Yep how about I just want a friend !! And realistically a good friend is hard to find. Im trying to manifest a safe environment!
This is spot on. I thought my manifestation was a miracle: the love affair of the century.
Oh, boy. I was dismantled by the end of the relationship.
Therapy helped in finding my true and natural self-which you mention.
Thank you, Dr Ramani for all your work and efforts.🙏🙏🙏🙏
I can’t stand the manifesting people who shame and blame me saying I manifested or attracted abuse I experienced because I wasn’t empowered enough or for my soul to learn lessons. Just another form of victim blaming. Focusing on my authentic self and acknowledging red flags no matter what knowing it’s not my fault. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤
No one can manifest their way out of childhood trauma. Living with a narcissist in childhood blinds you to what is true for yourself, the parent and life in general. Sometimes the narcissistic abuse is like Alice in wonderland where nothing ever is as it seems.
respect, kindness, mutual regard, safety, compassion – YES.
Instead we’re taught love is mocking each other, making fun of each other, being able to laugh at oneself, like clowns, except the narc is wearing the mask of a clown and is digging his claws in your soul.
trying to make sense of this “relation” — this causes waste of time and energy and we’re going in circles. narcs are experts at manipulation, they will be kind to others just to make you feel left out and make you believe that something is wrong with you.
healthy love — sadly people now proudly say, well we got married in 2 weeks! well i just know who is my friend! We’re best friends in just 2 days!
yes yes yes!!! i was an astrology/tarot content creator during the pandemic and i used to get loads of people wanting love readings in these really toxic relationships convinced they were a twin flame or believing they manifested them. they’d do love spells or buy love spells, exactly do the whole 9 yards to manifest someone. i’m not anti manifestation per se but a lot of people need to be mindful of this. they turn to spirituality or law of attraction in really dark places and don’t realize the dangers they are putting themselves in.
“Someone’s going to love your authentic self…… there’s nothing more beautiful.”
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100% focus on your authentic self, and if you do manifestation work too, then do it with strong boundaries and eyes wide open.
You really, genuinely can love someone who is kind, respects you, see you, cares about you vice versa. I’ve been very attracted to people purely by their personality and I just love their look because it’s all connected to that beautiful person.
I love that you talk about this topic. The question for me is always, why do I want the things I want? Honestly and to the bottom of your soul, ask yourself why. Saves lots of heartaches and headaches.
“…Nothing more beautiful than an authentic person.” Thank you Dr R.