Stop Explaining Yourself to the Narcissist — It’s Fueling Them

The very first thing I tell my clients who are divorcing a narcissist? Stop explaining yourself to the narcissist! If you're trying to get your narcissistic spouse to understand how they're hurting you or the kids—it’s falling on deaf ears. And worse—it’s giving them power.

I’ll explain why trying to reason with a narcissist is not only useless—it’s dangerous. They don’t lack understanding. They lack empathy. That’s why explaining how their behavior affects you or the children doesn’t help—it feeds their ego and reinforces their control.

Instead of wasting your energy trying to "make them see," I’ll share what you can do to protect yourself, take control, and reclaim your power.

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