The UNIQUE way EACH TYPE of narcissist keeps you TRAPPED
Why do some narcissistic relationships feel impossible to leave? The type of narcissist—malignant, vulnerable, or grandiose—shapes exactly how you get stuck, from fear of retaliation to guilt or confusion about the good times. This video breaks down how each narcissist’s unique tactics keep you trapped and why understanding these dynamics is the first step to getting unstuck. Learn how the flavor of narcissism you’re dealing with makes all the difference.
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Good morning Doc 😍 Peace and blessings to you 🙏🏾 Have a great day 🙋🏾♂️
Thank you Dr. Ramani for guiding me for over a year to learn tools to cope with my narcissist husband of 50 yrs. He pretty much had me delusional BUT NOT ANY MORE. It’s been a rough road but I know now “it’s not me” , it’s him. Thank you.
@kathysanborn4595 I’m in 39 years of marriage, most of those years believing that I was “the one with the problem.” My children woke me up to the truth about 10 years ago. It’s been a different struggle since. So glad that I’ve found Dr. Ramani’s videos.
Wish you could speak about family narcissists because stepping away from a family narcissist may mean sacrificing your entire family because of the enablers. You may find yourself “stuck” because you are not just leaving a boy/girlfriend our spouse but an entire family unit.
The whole channel has nothing but those videos
I found stepping away from family and friends ‘easy’ and the stuck with abusive partner for a long time. I stopped with my mum and sister. I thought they cared about me but they like to put me down to make themselves better. I withdrew that supply. I didn’t enjoy spending time with them. It’s weird, you’d think having known family members all your life would be harder. My ex treated me way worse yet I stayed and tolerated a lot worse with him.
yes i agree,
family AND common friends circle..
i will never again will introduce my bf to too many friends..
will not allow them to change phone numbers for sure, not my family either
I know what you mean ❤️🩹
Jerry Wise has specialized on that. He is also on YT
This content helps a lot and hurts even more
“It’s like being in relationship with a wet moldy towel that yells at you.” OMG, nailed it!
You said it perfectly! But don’t worry, I’m nothing like a moldy towel I’m more like fresh sunshine straight out the dryer 😉✨
You are a saint Dr. R!!! I’ve been watching for years & continue to learn more…thank you!
I really appreciate the work you’re doing. It’s hard to watch your videos just because it’s so correct and so painful
I completely understand what you mean it’s not easy facing truths that cut deep. But the fact that you keep watching, even when it’s painful, shows your strength and willingness to grow. I’d honestly love to talk with you more about your thoughts on this.
I have felt the same way about watching Dr. Ramani’s videos. I’ve learned so much, especially that I am NOT the one with the psychological issues, and I am not alone in this. Then there is the painful side: how did I fall for this person, and why did I not see it years ago?
@@janeviolette566I really get what you mean Dr. Ramani’s videos are eye-opening but also tough at times, because they make you reflect on what you went through. The important part is you’ve gained clarity and know you’re not alone. I’d love to talk with you more about how those lessons have shaped you
@@NathanFranklin43 I still love him above all others. It just doesn’t seem like it. It’s only because of the narcissism. It still feels like real love.
@@contessazeviar8251I hear you… it’s so hard when love feels real but is tangled up with narcissism. The feelings you have are valid, but real love should also come with respect, care, and safety. Sometimes what feels like love is actually the bond created by all the ups and downs. You deserve a love that lifts you, not one that drains you.
I was a bit younger and took substances and it’s just happened…Then I got financially trapped..took me 7 years of every abuse and neglect a person can imagine to finally report him to the Police ,a lot of therapy ,leave him and break the trauma bond. He is Malignant (a male version of my mom) and covert,it were times I didn’t want to live. I’m still isolated.Thank god I find videos like this❤
Why have I picked narcissistic friends and lovers? My lovers reminded me of my N dad. Whether malignant to grandiose! I’m old now and quit men because I still don’t know better at my age. Been celibate 30 years! I still pick em ! My girl friends, they were fun , adventurous.. they could lead! They gave me a voice! But I paid a price .. but I rarely got cornered in my female relationships. I just got manipulated lol. I’m learning at this late in the game discernment, communication, love, respect! It’s been a long haul ! Ty Dr Ramani, I’m blessed to have been educated on these people I’ve always been attracted too! So much information we can find – now !
Their actions will almost never match up to their words. In fact, they will be two entirely different scenarios.
Their exes would all be labeled “psychos, obsessed with them, stalkers,” or any other derogatory term , and they themselves will never take any blame for the relationships ending.
Affection and intimacy, not sex, would be lacking in any real sense of the word, unless its done for show, like in front of other people, but not when you’re alone together.
They will soon replace all the kind words they showered you with in the beginning with snotty condescending tones of voice which seem to only be directed at you.
They will little by little begin to make digs into your appearance, clothes, hairstyle, etc., to chisel away at your self esteem. Even though these were things they claimed to really like at the beginning of the relationship.
They will shower you with constant attention (calls, texts, emails, gifts, etc) initially then all of a sudden stop once you’ve fallen for them. When you confront them as to what has changed, they’ll insinuate that you’re needy or clingy or something along those lines.
They will bring a third person, place, pet, or thing into the relationship that will undermine your importance to them. (triangulation), as they spend more and more time with this 3rd person, place, or thing.
They will start to spaz out on the littlest things claiming they’re stressed out from work, life, duties, etc.
They won’t have the time for you anymore as they once did, and you will be made to feel it is something that you’ve done or haven’t done thats causing this.
Most importantly, YOU will see red flags, you will have a gut feeling that something is just “off” about this person, but might try to explain it all away in your own mind.
Additionally I hired a private detective digitalinvestigate@gmail. com.Once I knew what the narc was up to, it got easier to get over that lying, cheating, sack of doo doo, loser. I didn’t need closure from the narc, I paid for it. Best money I EVER spent!
I was diagnosed with ptsd the year rior to separation (due to his abuse), and at that time, i could still function in many ways. However, the 6 year separation ordeal, including 4 years of a family court case forced on me and my children by their vile father, destroyed my capabilities. Im in recovery, having been financially dependent upon the government. Its been difficult just to shower, the most basic of things. The ordeal of his actions through the court case and all those who enabled him during that time, almost completely destroyed me.
10:29 Spot on description 😂😂
My view and experiences coming from a narcissistic family that you are looking for peace, respect and love. But due to the past from nature you attracted to narcissistic people who able to play the game so you still stay in the same situation
The vulnerable narcissist is the worst. Took me a long time to understand why my friend could not get away from her ex, even after a nasty expensive divorce.
“it’s like being in a relationship with a wet, moldy towel that yells at you” scream laughed in my kitchen. What a way to describe my ex-husband going forward whenever anyone asks. Thank you for this 😂💕
“What made this person compelling to you?” “Repetition compulsion” of father wound, attention from a man like my narcissistic father, so I could save the day. Fortunately, this story has a happier ending than any fairy tale my inner child was imagining at the time.
Vulnerable Narc….spot on…guilt and feeling sorry. Oh I am going through it right now.😢
I didn’t pick a narcissist! He is my adult son! Stuck trying to love him, stuck trying to keep an open door for access to my grandsons. Stuck trying to listen to/validate/respect/fix/regulate him. Chaos. No success. Stuck because I had to prove to myself that I did everything possible to have a relationship. The cruelty, the emotional battery has almost broken me. I am stopping trying.
It’s darkly funny because other than 2 or 3 things I realized my answer to your list was just : Yes.
Omg me too. Why is this? I left and I feel bad for leaving. I still feel stuck. He is my 3rd relationship narcissistic partner but this time he is narcissistic but a pretty decent person. He doesn’t lie or cheat but there is an slight manipulative piece underneath the surface. An arrogance. An unwilling nature to participate
@@Creating2413 You are being…. so vague right now…. Is it actual arrogance or earned pride in something he does/can do? What will he not participate in? And a Narc that doesn’t lie or cheat? Hiiiighly… basically impossible. But I c wut U did thar! /golfclap