How narcissists test YOUR LOYALTY (and punish you for failing)
Loyalty means everything to a narcissist—but not in the way you think. They expect unwavering devotion, even if they lie, betray, or abandon you, and they’ll punish you for any perceived disloyalty, no matter how small. This video explores why narcissistic people are obsessed with loyalty, how they use it to control others, and why being loyal to them often comes at a high cost. In the end, their loyalty is never to you—it’s only to themselves.
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Narcissists don’t even test my loyalty because they always forget that I exist.
I pray no one claims me as loyal because I have the right to disagree and the right to change my mind and perspective
Their loyalty clock renews every day. Nothing you ever did yesterday matters. Only what they need you to do or be for them at that moment.
Well said!
LOYAL CLOCK lololololol ahhhh love this
This is so true ans the narcissists claim that loyalty is one of their values, when it is clearly a manipulation tactic they use because narcissistic people are not loyal but they expect loyalty, they are entitled to loyalty but it is not reciprocal or true. Thank you Dr.Ramani this is very validating and educational❤❤❤
My mom considered herself as a prophet , she tested my loyalty all my life.
These people do not know the meaning of loyalty, since they do not practice it.
Loyalty for a narcissist means giving up any and everything that matters to you; the more it matters, the more they need you to give it up.
Yes I agree completely so they can be our only focus. They want our soul. Interesting digging into the soul of narcissist don’t think they actually do have a soul. 😮
@@SherryTomlinson-r2y My dad has actually said he doesn’t ‘believe in the concept of a soul.’
With a Narc, you get punished either way. Loyalty to a narc, is disloyalty to yourself.
Loyalty to a narcissist is loyalty to a false image. It’s loyalty to a lie. A protective lie based on the lack of connection to a soul. It may sound really harsh, but the narcissist is actually a type of mental and spiritual zombie. My statement may sound outrageous. My observation isn’t finished at this point. I’m still learning about narcissists and, more importantly, myself. And my connection to my soul.
Don’t second-guess yourself in identifying these destructive individuals you know it
That’s so funny. My lecture this morning was about how I’m not loyal… Because I don’t do every single thing that I’m told to do, but instead I have an actual mind and think every once in a while.
Absolutely 💯 it’s all about the narc & they’ll push you in front of a train if it benefits them!
Exactly
Narcs expect loyalty from you but feel no reason for loyalty to you.
The narcs expect to do ANYTHING to others,rape,abuse,ignore,put you in jail and much more…and still expect others (me) to be lojal…not more..my x and family members
The endless “tests” became his ability to collect percieved ” wounds”. A grudge list of every time i failed and didnt even know i was being tested. And the list forever grew😢
Narcissists will go to any length to exact revenge and then turn around and act as if nothing happened.
In nearly all of her rages, she would accuse me of being a traitor for any perceived disloyalty from the past. In every conflict she’s had with friends or family, she’s forced me to take sides. And if I tried to rationalize the other person’s actions, or suggested they may not have meant things the way she perceived them, she would accuse me of invalidating her.
I wasted soooooo many opportunities because of loyalty to my narcissistic friend…..😢
I did nothing to give a narc ex-friend of mine a reason to perceive me as disloyal, and yet, she became convinced I was a gossip and was disloyal. I tried to reason with her. Not explain. Not justify. Not defend. Nothing. I had done nothing wrong. She refused to even acknowledge she had repeatedly doubted me and my loyalty. So I stepped back. She feigned confusion.
She is delusional, behaved in a pathetic manner, is incapable of being accountability for her actions, words and completely irrational and nonsensical thoughts.
I have been mostly grey rocking her. I am no longer available for her unnecessarily dramatic attempts for attention. She asks how I am and then says she’s sick. I ignore anything to do with her seeking of sympathy. I don’t feel pity, so I feel nothing. Indifference. Too bad. It was a good friendship for 6 years.
This is my family. I am expected to be loyal and be around the unsafe abusive family members despite how much harm they have caused me, with no regard to my health safety or well being. It’s maddening. I no longer try to explain it to them. I don’t care what they think, I will protect myself and my life. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤
My brother and his wife continually punish us if we do or say anything they don’t like or agree with, and refuse to come to dinners we invite them to. They verbally assault and emotionally abuses us unapologetically. Yet if I take some space and don’t go to a dinner that they decide to go to, I am raged at with ‘how dare you not go when we went’. They are awful people I want nothing to do with, I wish others understood. Prioritizing my health regardless. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤