Narcissistic relationships are more PREDICTABLE than YOU think
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November 1-3, 2024
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This became so routine that my mother became so inquisitive and suspicious that eavesdropping became normal for her. shes good at just assuming and pinning the wrong message on everyone in the household. many times I was so silent shed txt my phone asking me questions. I kept the silence up against them.
That’s my WHOLE life…it’s reminding myself to just be quiet and let the explosion blow over and then I’ll have a little quiet for a few minutes. But it’s also like the spy with the safety deposit box full of bug-out stuff. You hope you never need to go there, but you know you can if it all crumbles.
When the narcissist is having a bad day, they talk like it’s the end of the world, but really it’s nothing more than them not getting enough likes on their social media.
Yes, and that “end of the world” seems to arrive at least every other Tuesday, lol!
My narcissistic mother creates grief then says poor her but loves the drama ..i walked away it took me years to realise how awful she is..and this education is fantastic thanks so much doctor.
I agree wholeheartedly, Dr. Ramini. It is exhausting. Like so many others, I’ve lived with narcissist after narcissist most of my life. Thank you for your service to us all. You’ve helped many. I am eternally grateful. ♥️
It’s more dangerous if they hide their true self and put on a false show of love and kindness.
“When people show you who they are, believe them the first time” — Maya Angelou
And for many years, it makes you question a lot.
Yet, we shall never understand their playbook, we can only memorize it. We simply don’t think like they think…at all.
🗣”They do not care, I really mean it, they do not care!”
It’s very hard to wrap your mind around this.
Exactly! They could not care less.
They care about sending you death threats after you found out who they are behind the mask
the biggest common denominator in all narcissists is their intentional misrepresentation of who and what they are about.
if they were honest and transparent from the get-go, there would be nothing to like about them.
cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
Thank you Dr Ramani.
This explains my whole life, over the last 30 years before I knew what narcissism was.
Disengaging, distancing, cutting off, going no contact, changing jobs, moving address, moving countries, changing my name.
I enjoy being alone, maybe just going out for a coffee, lunch or dinner on occasion with the few friends I have.
I have a son (21) and daughter (16) and as much as I enjoy their company and love them, I’m so frigging tired.
Love my own company, books, music a bit of tv, my cat and would love to get a dog.
Work is good and I have a great therapist.
My body and mind are slowly calming down from being so wound up over the years with anxiety that I’m not prepared to trade my peace for anyone 🙏🏼
Good for you❤
Man. I’ve only had to deal with is 6 years and it has caused me soo much anxiety and stress. I never had those things growing up , but after dealing with my ex, whom I have a small child with, it’s a recurring thing. My heart beats funny now, I get anxiety attacks out of nowhere while I’m driving. It’s a whole mess. I’m grateful me and her live in separate houses now , and my child goes back and forth. But got damn. She did a number on me. Praying for you over there man !
Lol and of course they will tell you “why are you running away?” because they are completely oblivious
I’ve gone fully no contact and I’m STILL exhausted.
Awe man, I am right there with you!! It’s been about 5 or 6 weeks now and I still feel exhausted!! Hopefully we balance back out soon!
Spot on dr Ramani. Narcisists just don’t care, their egotism blinds them and their lack of empathy is heartbreaking. The predictable unpredictability of their behaviour is draining and debilitating and frustrating to say the least, they are truly running the people close to them into the ground. We have to distance ourselves from them.
“The predictability is it will never run normal” Exactly! It will always be unpredictable.
Who wants to live in type of hypervigilance?
If she didn’t pick a fight in the car on our way somewhere, she was picking a fight going back home was guaranteed.
Bruh. Have we lived the same life ? I would always think to myself , it’s always something with this woman
You don’t have a life as long as you’re worried about
what they’re going to do or say. Stop worrying because
anything you do is wrong in their eyes. You do you.
The worst ones will literally threaten your life, so that’s actually a decent reason to be scared of life… around them
A video a day keeps the gaslighting at bay
Unpredictable. Every single holiday, every single birthday, every single shopping trip, every single afternoon sitting in front of the television, every single dinner with my daughter.
They don’t really like these holidays and events. They are jealous of the families that they think are doing it more perfectly.
I dealt with this. I had to exit. I remember disagreeing about something on TV and she lost it. Ain’t speak to me for two days straight. Crazy we’ve all experienced the same thing in these relationships
Your videos have encouraged me to seek counselling. Thank you. There are many layers to this onion, and I know from the comments under your videos that I am not alone.
I’ve never seen comment sections like these before, there are practically no unhealthy contrarians. That isn’t to say there isn’t push back, but what an amazingly uplifting yet tragic set of anecdotes. Heartbreaking to see how many of us are damaged, but so inspiring to see I’m not alone and so many of you are going through nearly the same thing as I despite our great differences. Take care everyone.
Exactly. Then there’s the issue of: When you make a mistake (and we all do sooner or later), you’re going to provoke a disproportionate rage response demanding absolute submission, no matter how small the mistake was. When you don’t make a mistake, you get a disproportionate rage response demanding absolute submission. You can’t win.
I see this “psychological nomadness” in how I lived on my own for years after moving out of the narcissistic parents’ house. I never really decorated or made it feel like a home because I looked at every living situation as temporary, even when I stayed in the same place for literally a decade. Last year I finally started making it feel like home, with thrifted but cute furniture, cleared out things I didn’t need, got a Christmas tree for the first time at the holidays, got the pet I had been longing for for so long.
I understand that feeling. I’m happy to hear that you finally got the little things that you wanted for so long. A Christmas tree and a pet sound like perfection to me. I moved out and left husband of 45 years a couple of months ago, first thing I thought about bringing was the Christmas tree and decorations. I’ve also been watercolour painting and although I’m not very good at it, I’m loving it. When I’m painting I’m not thinking and it’s such a relief. Best wishes, Dee
@@doriswhyte1931 That must have taken tremendous strength to leave that relationship. I agree that the arts and finding/making beauty are really helpful. Wishing continued courage and peace for you!
❤️❤️❤️ bless you, beautiful human